Is my vagina naturally wide? Please help.. I feel so Insecure?

Im only 17 and my boyfriend has never really been able to cum with my pussy. He's able to cum during sex if it's been awhile since he's masturbated or if it's been a week or more without sex. If we have sex everyday, he can't cum at all.. I'm worried it's my vagina because he cums every time with anal sex back to back. When I finger myself, putting one finger in, I can feel my all walls around it and I can grip my finger. I can kinda fit two of my fingers, but i usually just stick to one. My boyfriend can fit two of his fingers in me and it usually hurts me at first, but after that, it's okay. I asked him to try and get three in me one day, and he said he felt like there wasn't really enough room for three fingers in me. And last but not least, he put a small squishy vibrator and his penis inside me at the same time. (His penis is not small.) This made me feel insecure because I had two things in my vagina and I thought that only loose girls could fit multiple things at the same time. Does it sound like my vagina is naturally loose or wide? I'm wondering if this is the reason why he can't cum with my vagina but can come from anal.. Please help me? I don't like feeling like i have bad pussy..
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Most Helpful Girls

  • When you’re relax and comfortable your body doesn’t tense. You don’t have a wide or loose vagina , our vaginas can stretch so far apart that a human being can come out of it. So please don’t feel self conscious, when have sex back to back to back your vagina (I don’t know really know how to say this) it’s like it’s tired you need to give it s time to break cause then the walls aren’t as tight as once before

    • I know girls that can make their boyfriends cum back to back..

    • It’s not about coming back to back plus every girl is different

    • I just have terrible pussy.

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  • If you can only fit two fingers in its probably not that your vaginal opening is wide, its more likely he has a really insensitive penis. Try kegals and tightening cream if you really think its an issue but most womens vagina is about the same tightness unless aroused.

    • Is there any way a gyno can tell if I'm bigger than normal? I honestly want to go just to ease my mind.

    • I mean i guess you can check with your physician next time you go get a pap smear

  • Everyone's vagina naturally loosens when aroused. That's completely normal.

    • Yeah but they dont loosen so much that they can't please the guy..

    • I can't please my boyfriend.. He said he's had better pussy..

    • It sounds like he has more of a mental deal. He sounds pretty desensitized. I really doubt it's you at all. Lots of guys have that issue. As far as him telling you that "he's had better"... he's a dick that doesn't deserve any.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's been shown that over-reliance on pornography can cause problems like. If he likes the porn, then it likely has nothing to do with anything physical, it's mental. I recommend he stop as quickly as possible. If he's having problems at a young age, he may end up totally limp.

  • Probably a sensitivity issue on his part. Normally guys your age shouldn't have problems like this. And no, you are perfectly fine. Do some kegels (all women should as it can increase pleasure for both partners).

    • Am I a little loose or wide if he can fit a small vibrator and his cock at the same time? He's not small.

    • Vaginas are made to stretch to size. "Wide" or loose vaginas are rare. Women who have wide hips may have a wider vagina, but not that much wider than average. Usually it is the guy who is too small. What is his girth? 5 inches is about average girth. 6 above average, 7 or more is probably big for most. Some women can fit an entire fist and it will always return to the same size. I would try kegels. Try stopping yourself from peeing mid stream. Those are the pelvic floor muscles. Try clamping down on those muscles and hold the clamp for a count of 10. Do that about 20 times. Over time increase the time and the amount. There are even squishy balls to put in the vagina to clamp on and exercise with. Look it up. Anyways, you are normal. I highly doubt you are "loose". Women give birth to a baby and go back to normal after. Does penetration feel good to you? Can you reach orgasm from his penis? If yes to either, it is probably an issue with sensitivity. He may have a death grip. Hah.

    • I've tried stopping while peeing. The pee immediately stops. I've heard if you can stop the flow of your pee like that, then you have good muscles down there or something.

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  • I hear it expands a little when turned on. Maybe you were turned on.
    Doctor prescribes do some kegels, stop having sex every day.

  • I'm sure back there is tighter for everyone. Maybe he's thinner or that's just the way he's able to cum, some guys are weird like that

  • I don't think that makes a difference lol
    There is a lot more thst makes a guy orgasm than something tight. That is lowest on the list

  • I don't think this issue is your "fault". I'm assuming he is using a condom. That might be the culprit. But you are not obligated to let him go without one.

    • This happens without a condom too. The problem was worse with a condom though. I'm on birth control pill.

  • You should try kegel exercises after about 1 year you should be able to hold his dick inside you

  • It's not your pussy he just likes kinky sex I prefer a nice pussy like yours never had one I couldn't cum in

  • Honestly yes. But that's sooooo natural

    • I'll never be able to please a guy then.. it sucks I have naturally bad pussy.. I'm crying.

    • Noooo don't cry.

    • I think your boyfriends sick might be too small for your vagine

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  • Your man just may not be sensitive enough. It doesn't sound like you're the issue

  • You're pinning too much of your performance on one person who is probably mentally caught on someone/something else.

  • He might be masturbating too much and be desensitized. Only two fingers is not loose

  • Don't feel insecure... It's natural :)

    • Most girls have a tight enough pussy to please a guy though. I'm sorry, but it's not normal for me to be so wide and loose down there that i can't even satisfy my boyfriend. He is the only person I've been with and I've never had kids, so I guess I've been cursed with bad pussy since I was born. I hate myself completely.

    • Go to the doctor then :)

    • I really doubt you are loose Billiegirl. Tightness isn't the only thing that makes sex pleasurable. The wetness/slickness, warmth, and friction from a proper angle are also a big part of it. Try different positions. Try grinding while on top. If you are too wet, it might be not enough friction. Try using a toy or something to sop up some.

  • No you don't. He is most likely just small.

    • He's not. He is 7 inches and pretty thick.

    • Mm, I'm not sure then, maybe see a doctor because she will be able to make sure everything is ok and she will be able to tell you how to exercise the muscles etc.

    • I'm sure you are normal though honestly. The guy most likely just masturbates way too much thus making him less sensitive

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  • Try to do Kegel exercise to strength your pelvic floor that’s help to squeeze his dick during penetration as well to orgasm fast.

  • It's not your vagina at all he is either really nervous or jerking off too much.

  • Always be happy with your body

  • Just think that 10 pounds baby come from there like ten to 12 inches but all depends of you body type

  • Maybe he is gay and only likes anal sex. Just hasn't came out yet

  • He probably masturbates to much that why lol

    • He says he's been masturbating since he was 10 or 11. And he uses a tight fist. But not all the time. And I don't think this is a death grip problem because he can still get off from anal. He can't get off from blowjobs, handjobs, or my vagina. Just my asshole. Either he's not attracted to me or my pussy is bad at sex.

    • Trust it not ur pussy. Try to get him in the mood. I don't even cum with blow jobs or hand jobs. Honestly girl can't really get a guy off those ways unless they do it right. I'm sure he probably has a tight grip when he does masturbate. And that why u can't. So ur not the issue at all. And plus ur anal is tighter so that why he able to get off. And if u really want him to cum in you. Try doggy style or different positions. Put some lingerie on. Get him in the mood 4 play is good

  • If I were you I would let him put them at the same time because it will affect your vagina in a bad way.

    N it seems u should do kegel exercise

    • Do I sound loose?

  • Maybe he needs to cut back on porn and masturbating. I'm sure you are very tight as a teen so I'm certain thats not an issue. Guys can have other reasons that will effect them like nervousness, watching too much porn/masturbating too much or having too low testosterone.

    You could do kegel exercises but like I said im sure you are very tight teen