Is my boyfriend not attracted to me?

[Anonymous]

I am 16 and he is 18. (Don't worry. It is legal where I'm from and our parents know that we are dating.) Well, sometimes he can get hard just by looking at me with clothes on. Sometimes he can get hard from just making out with me. But other times, I could be naked and he won't even get fully hard until i start touching him there. I thought if a guy was really attracted to a girl, he gets hard from just kissing her.. Sometimes he will be extremely hard and then he will do oral sex on me and he will get soft. He says he absolutely loves eating me out, but it causes him to lose his erection sometimes. I'm not so sure.. and sometimes we shower together. Before we get in the shower, he is hard but when we start washing each other, he gets soft. I think showering together is hot. It turns me on because we are both naked and touching each other, but he gets soft. Sometimes he goes soft in my vagina too. And he doesn't always orgasm from sex. I feel like there is an attraction problem on his part. I'm extremely attracted to him, but he goes soft on me sometimes and he doesn't always orgasm with sex. He tells me he loves me and that he is very attracted to me. He says he thinks I'm beautiful and that I have a nice body and that it has nothing to do with me when he goes soft.. but he's 18. I thought that at 18 if a guy was really into a girl, he gets hard easily and doesn't go soft very often.. and he's not nervous with me either, so I don't know..

[azzntittiz]

He has a problem and it might not be you. He needs to see a doctor. I have had this problem with a guy, it was very annoying.
I knew he was attracted to me and wanted me even when I was not interested but he couldn't stay hard for long.

He seemed like the kind of guy that's never been in a sexually challenging relationship before, so he had a hard time adjusting to me.

Plenty people don't have lots of sex or are used to bad sex where they don't bother.
I am usually able to convert these guys but he was a lost cause.

[JenDB]

Just chil a boner is not something that comes always in a spceific time

[plover1123]

Shag him!!!

[DarkFun]

He said he's been with better looking women? That's harsh.

I initially thought it could be that he's too nervous to cum, because I was like that with my first proper girlfriend, she was like you and thought it was because of her but I told her and we worked together and then... well... after I did I was totally comfortable 😊

[Asker]

No he's definitely not nervous.. I think it's because I have wack pussy and he's used to better looking girls..

[Asker]

Because he's always had trouble cumming with me and we've been together for a year

[DarkFun]

I doubt there's even such a thing a wack pussy :) I hope you haven't lost any confidence over it all!

[Asker]

I have. But I had terribly low self esteem before too.

[vittle1999]

This is not an attraction problem. In fact this is not a problem at all. He really can't control how much blood goes into his penis. Don't expect him to be hard all the time either. If it gets soft, touching it again will get him hard again.

[Asker]

And he can't orgasm from my vagina very much. He says it's because he masturbates too much and we have sex very frequently, but he also goes soft in me too.. he is the only person I've been with and I feel like my pussy is bad or something.

[vittle1999]

A guy can only produce so much semen every hour. If he masterbates a lot and on top of that you have frequent intercourse, there is no semen left in him to cum. He either reduces his frequency of masterbation on the days I have sex or u don't have sex the days he frequently masterbates. That shud resolve the lack of cum problem.

[Asker]

Sometimes he doesn't even masturbate on the days we have sex and he still doesn't cum. Or sometimes he does it early in the morning and we don't see each other until 6 at night and he doesn't cum with me. I just feel like my pussy isn't that good..

[vittle1999]

It's got nothing to do with u at all. Just get over it.

[Asker]

It's been revealed... this hurts worse than what I was originally thinking.. he said that he has been with better looking girls in the past with better bodies. He said I've gained a bit of weight and that my pussy isn't that great. He said he only likes the way I look because he loves me.. and at the beginning of our relationship he struggled a lot with getting hard and he would close his eyes during sex in order to orgasm and would barely look at me.. he waa probably used to better looking girls.. well.. now I know..

[Matt21]

This is completely normal, it can't stay hard indefinitely...

[Asker]

And sometimes if we do foreplay for a long time, he gets soft. And he gets soft while eating me out sometimes. I don't know why but it just makes me feel like he doesn't enjoy it..

[Matt21]

You can be completely turned on and enjoy it without being hard

[Matt21]

Being hard just means that blood is flowing to the penis.

[avatarbendermaylin]

Wtf
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Wtf... Little girl.

[The_Gentelman]

Sounds normal to me. E. g. I dont get r

[Asker]

So it doesn't sound like an attraction problem?

[The_Gentelman]

*rock hard from kissing my girlfriend or from eating her out. Its fun to me but my body just dont react on it. can't tell something to the showering part, never did that but still its normal to not get rock hard all the time. + It always depends on the mood aswell. If you boyfriend is stressed a lot its harder to get hard. So dont think to much about Just out of interest: where are you from

[cupidkisses]

He is attracted to u

[anametouse]

YOU LIE ABOUT UR AGE PINK ANONYMOUS? Nah don't trust liars not gonna answer your question

[plover1123]

You slag.
Just fuck him

[fost777]

If he says he finds you beautiful, you have to trust that he's telling the truth. Trust is the #1 most important thing. Sexuality is a very complicated thing, and even though he is attracted to you he will not always be hard. I have been with women I have found very beautiful and had difficulty getting hard, and I have been with women who were less beautiful and been hard right away.

[girlslikeintheas]

have you tried anal sex with him?