Sex without a condom?

[Anonymous]

I hook up with this guy last December and again 8 month later; the first time everything was good I did not have to even ask him to wear a condom but the second time he wanted to have sex with me without a condom. I told him that I am really sorry because for me that is suicidal sex and that I am healthy and I always protect myself no matter what. 1) what it is with guys wanting to have sex without protection with a person they not even know? 2) This guy did not care about his health or he might have an std or something else like HIV and he wanted to infected me or did not care if I get infected? 3) Or he wanted to feel the real thing because I hear many guys saying that its better without a condom? 4) When a guy wants to be with a woman twice (no matter how long this was) does that means he likes her a least a little bit or he just like the sex with her? Also wanting to have sex with her without protection? I care for my life and for more the like a guy I prefer to not be with him if he wanted to have sex without a condom. thanks for your time

[ThoroughFred]

sex without the condom on the first time was wreckless. But you are right to make him wear it after.

Can't say on his intentions because every guy want's sex whether they like the girl or not. So without more info on how he is acting around you there is no way to tell.

Keep in mind, guys also generally hate condoms and much prefer wanting to have sex without it, and since you set the precident the first time by letting him raw-dog you, a condom would be a slightly less enjoyable experience by comparison.

If you want to find out if he likes you, invite him out when you "have your period". tell him you would like to just have a nice romantic evening without sex. If he makes excuses and cancels, I'd say he was only in it for the sex. If he says "i don't care we can have bloody sex anyway" than he most likely only wants sex.

However if he says "sure" and you two have a good time and he isn't begging for a blowjob the whole time, then I'd say it's likely he likes you for more than sex.

[Asker]

We did use a condom on the first time it was the second time that wanted to have sex with me without it and I told him no. That if wante to be with me he had to use it. He even ask me if I can let put it inside me for one minute and then put the condom on. We adults and he knows to get infected with something one minute was enough. Thanks for your time

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

It IS better without a condom. But that doesn't matter - I would never have sex with someone I didn't know well, without using a condom. Some guys just don't care. They don't care about their health. They don't care if the girl gets pregnant.

They just don't care! All they care about is getting off with the girl and never seeing her again. >__>

[katiesmuff]

HEY! With someone like that just let him know you are fine with going bareback as long as he will pop for the costs of the two of you getting tested (its a blood draw) for STD's and HIV. After the results are back (and that can be same day in some places) you would be fine with him putting his penis into you. Most any blood testing lab today will do the testing.

[gravygirl]

I know that it feels better, but I don't think I could be with a guy who was like this. It's too dumb for me. You only get one life. Only a moron risks screwing that up for a tiny bit more pleasure. And you just know that if he's like that with you he's been like that with every girl he's been with. So it's even riskier than just being with a normal guy.

[Samisrad]

I think sometimes, men don't process what might happen, and they just want to feel good in that very moment.

[YouTellMe09]

It is not just guys who want to have unprotected sex . 2 weeks ago on a night out with friends I was introduced to a girl and at the end of the night she asked me to go home with her. I said I would but just before we hopped into the taxi, I told her I was going across the street to the convenience store to buy some condoms. As soon as she heard the word "condom", she became annoyed and kept telling me not to worry because she was clean. After I said I was not going to risk it then she became pretty angry and said I was missing out on the best sex of my life. I think everyone says that when they are turned down lol. I would much rather have my health than play russian roulette.

[Anonymous]

I hear ya girl.

I think it's more mental than physical. Guys get turned on by knowing they're not using a condom. Also, there's no awkward break in the action for the asking for him to put it on and the actual carrying out of that motion.