Best position for first time sex?

Question

My boyfriend and I are close to having sex for the first time and I am terrified of it hurting. I want to do it, and I really want him to be the first guy (and possibly the last) that I do it with. But yeah, i have a really low pain threshold so...
which position should we use? (he has already done it once in the past with another girl).

And also, if you have other tips, please name them! I'd be very grateful.

AustinTXGuy · Accepted Answer

A slight variation on missionary for several reasons. One, it's important to maintain eye contact your first time so any doggy etc is out of the question. Second, he should be on top because it will actually happen this way. What I mean is, when the girls on top she will get nervous and back off over n over as this is all new to you and uncertain. Letting your man continue to make progress is important. The best position is where you're on your back and he kneels down between your legs, where he can be sitting upright but is positioned for entering you. He can control the pace of entry better from this angle and you can both see what he's doing. He can take his time without getting tired on top of you trying to hover or slow his entry. You both have access with your hands and you both can maintain eye contact. If he takes his time and goes slow it won't be that bad. That best thing is once he's inside, to just stay there for a few minutes and let you adjust to the feeling of him inside you. Focus on the connect and let yourself relax

gsbence · Accepted Answer

It's strange no one mentioned proper lubrication yet.. that's the most important thing if you don't want it to be painful. Buy some condom friendly lubricant, because alternative solutions can damage it and it can break easly.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Missionary is the best way to start. Tell him to be veeeerrrry slow. And trust me, first time sex doesn't hurt as much as they say. Mine was virtually painless... it was mainly slight uncomfort as there was pressure, but that's that. No bleeding or ripping whatsoever. Just nice.

Anyway, I would suggest you some stuff.
1. You must be properly lubricated. Either you have to be really REALLY wet or use extra lubricant.
2. Prepare yourself. Say 'train' your vagina for things to be inserted. Ask him to finger you. One finger first, then two. Slooowly. I did that (only fingering) with my boyfriend over the course of 2 or 3 weeks and the actual sex was nice.
3. There's nothing to be afraid of so DON'T BE AFRAID. Just relaaaxxx. And remember, if it's painful don't say "I'd suck it up". Nope. It's always okay to stop and start over, or try another day.

Good luck and enjoy!

Gaby-chan · Accepted Answer

Missionary or cowgirl are the positions that I suggest the most.
Like the others say: cowgirl: you control the movements and the depth of the penetration, for missionary: it is a very intimate and confortable position. But most importantly, the position that makes you feel confortable.

Also, communication is really important, take your time to discover each other's body (it not a marathon), make sure that you are wet, use protection (condom - STDs and pregnancy) if possible with another one (maybe the pill), trust each other, don't tense up too much.

One thing that is important: you can always tell him to stop if it hurts too much, then you can cuddle and kiss, try another day or later on.

It is your body and i am sure that your boyfriend would understand. Good luck!

KatherineJ · Accepted Answer

For me it was missionary with him on top. There were so many things going on in my head:
-Do I look ok down there?
-Am I going to feel good for him?
-OMG! That's huge! It's never going to fit!
-I hope it isn't going to hurt too badly.

So... yeah, it was better for him to be on top.

Tammy94 · Accepted Answer

You can definitely control the shots in missionary. It should be a basic rule that no mater what position, the guy doesn't enter until the girl is ready. But on top you would be in more control, and psychologically that might be helpful.

jpmoore89 · Answer

Missionary. You lay on your back, open your legs, and relax. Make sure he is gentle as he enters you. You should be wet before and your vaginal and pelvic muscles relaxed. Missionary is also very connecting and intimate so for the first time its so much more meaningful.

Nicole_19 · Answer

Missionary and Cowgirl are perfect for first time and then after a couple of rounds, Doggy as well.

Roakwidme · Answer

Missionary or cow girl. Coz in cow girl the woman has total cntrl. So she can do it as per her convenience.

Alej27 · Answer

Def missionary as well for first time. Make sure you enjoy if tense or stressed your muscles will be trnse and it will hurt. Dont set a date have fun enjoy and if in the mood and feel very wet go with the flow.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Missionary but without the giving him orders part. That’s not my style.  Just ask him to be gentle.

ThyShrubbery · Answer

Honestly, 1st time will be painful no matter what you do or how much foreplay there is. The 2nd time However, is a completely different story. The 2nd time is much much more enjoyable.

mshuda19 · Answer

Just let him sit on table that hight of table is little low from your secret part of your body. By standing on your own feet doing sex could not transfer pain in other parts of both bodies. Only one problem will be arrived when you will become tired, but it matter of proper practice. Without any preparation everything is risky and painful. Please never forget to control yourself and do not ruin him.

aestheticsofty · Answer

Missionary for easiness

20yearsolder · Answer

Lots of foreplay, kissing, rubbing, him fingering you. Lube is nota bad idea. I'd say you on top. You can set the pace that he slides into you. Once he's all the way in you, you can change positions.

TadCurious · Answer

I think there's a lot to be said for the girl (for her first time) getting on top and being in control of putting the guy's penis inside her. That can take away some of the fear of it hurting really bad if the guy just shoves it inside her too fast or too hard. And if the girl feels more in control she's likely to be less tense, which means the muscles at the entrance to her vagina will be less tense. And then to use extra lube also.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

The prone bone

Baumber · Answer

Missionary but let him take control. As long as he goes slow then everything will be fine. It will most likely hurt the first time but it gets better after that. If you need control, then go on top.

VirginiaBeachBum · Answer

B, otherwise known as cowgirl. She can control the speed and depth of penetration better.

Twinrova · Answer

Other. You should not be having sex. Repent for your sins you filth.

BigBadBo · Answer

Id say missionary and doggy.. There both simple moves that are fairly difficult to mess up.

Nick_Hoff · Answer

Maybe I can help.. missionary was difficult for me and my girl the first time because of how much taller I was and I think my size vs how tight she was. If your guy is bigger than you you might consider a kind of missionary where one or both of your legs are up, either around his waist or even on his shoulders. It makes it easier on him to control what he's doing! And you have your legs to push back if there's any pain instead of tense up, which can hurt more.

Kuraj · Answer

Girl on top definitely, the penetration is controlled by the girl and the tempo is slow.

Bombidil · Answer

Missionary or Cowgirl would work, but in both cases the person in control so to speak needs to communicate with other person. The guy attempting to mount for missionary or the girl mounting for Cowgirl.