I'm 16 and fell pregnant like 3 weeks ago. I have told my boyfriend and his mum, she was upset but very accepting. My boyfriend is very frustrated at the moment, he does have anger issues so he can be snappy, but overall he is going to step up and be responsible. I have not told my parents yet and I'm shitting myself... any suggestions?
Most Helpful Guy
Most parents fall somewhere in the middle. For example, some parents have pretty liberal values but they're still shocked to learn their teen had sex. Even parents who know their teens are having sex can still be disappointed or worried about their future.
Your parents' personalities also play a part in how they'll react. Some parents are easy to talk to or calmer in a crisis. Some are more emotional, more easily stressed out, more likely to get upset or angry, to yell or cry, or express themselves loudly.
Most parents want to be supportive of a daughter who is pregnant (or a son who got a girl pregnant), even if they are angry or upset at first. But a few may react violently to the news and let anger get out of control.
First, find the words. You might say, "I have something difficult to tell you. I found out that I'm pregnant." Then wait. Allow your parents to absorb what you said.
Be prepared to deal with the reaction. What happens next? Will your parents be angry, stressed, or emotional? Will they lecture you? Use harsh words? Ask a ton of questions?
It's good to think ahead about what you might do and how you may feel. For instance, if a parent yells, you'll want to be prepared so you can keep the conversation productive and resist any urge to yell back.
Of course, not every parent yells. Many don't. Even if parents have a strong reaction at first, most want to help their children. Lots of teens are surprised at how supportive their parents turn out to be.
It can help to tell your parents that you understand their feelings and point of view. Saying things like, "I know you're really mad," "I know this isn't what you wanted for me," or, "I know this isn't what you expected" can help your parents be more understanding. The key is to be honest and speak from the heart. If you say what you think parents want to hear or make statements just to calm them, it might sound fake.
Give your parents time to speak without jumping in. Listen to what they say. Let them vent if they have to.
Tell them how you feel. Part of your conversation might involve telling parents how you feel. For example, if you know you've disappointed them and you feel sorry about it, say that. Let them know if you feel disappointed in yourself, too.
You might say, "Mom and Dad, I know I've disappointed you. I know you're upset. I'm really sorry for putting you through this. I'm disappointed in myself, too."
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Most Helpful Girl
don't tell your parents until you've talked to a trusted adult. i know this is said a million times in these situations, but it's true or else it wouldn't be brought up
what i'd recommend is keep talking to your bf's mother (if you trust her) and ask her what to do since she obviously was a mother carrying a child. maybe not a teen about - to - be mother, but she was still a mother carrying a child at one point in her life0