What does it mean when a guy can undo a bra with one hand!

[Anonymous]

OK well I'm seeing this guy and the first time was crazy he had me undressed in less than 30 seconds and undid my bra with two hands without looking like arms around me.. it seemed like maybe 30 sec but I don't know we were kissing at the same time so idk. but anyways to the point then he was staying at my place the other night and I was standing in front of my closet mirrors in my bra he walked up and put his hand on my back and bam my bra was undone, ONE hand wth! I even told him it scares me that he can do that and he laughs and says, "Its not like its a talent!" He is 28 we are kinda dating you could say, anyways he is like way sexy too, and he called me judgmental when I called him a player. I mean a player always just wants you for sex. This guy on the other hand is like taking me out to eat, letting me chill with him at his work when he isn't suppose to. he even ditched work to come and talk to me one night when I was crying at 2 am. then holding my hand kissing it, and he always makes me decide what were gonna do and where were gonna go, he is just sweet and everything you ask him you can tell is honest because I'm sure no other guy would say that. for ex: I asked when was the last time he was with another girl sexually? he said about two months ago. And I would think another guy would be like.. 3 or 4 months, what I mean is he would not be ashamed of something that a normal guy would, I asked if he liked p*rn, he said, I guess you could say I'm a fan! lol so I don't know what to think about him, he is recently divorced he walked in on his wife cheating on him after working a 14 hour night shift security. He is like a stud it seems, he hits the gym like 5 times a week. He makes me feel awkward I really like him just confused on what to think! If I could add a pic I would to give you an idea of what he looks like, he looks like a player but then his personality is way different! anyways how many guys can do the bra with one hand thing? its scary!

[LonelyEmperor]

Ok, what I'm going to say now might look kinda stupid and childish (and in fact it is) but..

Am I the only one who ever had this "one hand bra competition" with friends? When I was 17, one of my friends brought this subject and we kinda made a competition to see who could take our girlfriend's bra with only one hand and we all tried it out with our girls (without letting them know of course). So yea, it's not that hard, I know some guys that can do it (I can, but I gotta say I'm not that fast lol) and it's nothing about finger/hand dexterity (actually you need some, but it's not an impossible thing) you just need some practice.

But honestly, I think you're overreacting... It doesn't mean he's a player or anything, the only thing it could mean is that he does have some experience in taking out bras, but I suppose you already knew he wasn't a newbie before that, right? lol

[Asker]

Well if you could do it and your only nineteen, I'm sure by 28 you will be that fast haha!

[LonelyEmperor]

Now that I know the reaction it causes on girls, I hope so lol

[questioner1991]

Lol when I was in high school guys would do this.

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

Well, let's go back to where he brought up the word "talent."

Think of it in these terms; if I am genetically designed to write books, and I don't figure it out until I'm 35, I'm still going to be great at writing books regardless.

Not to say that a one hand wonder is a talent like writing books, but do you get what I'm saying?

If he has a genetic predispostion to have great finger/hand dexterity, then no matter what age he discovers it, it's going to happen.

I really wouldn't worry about it that much.

[Asker]

Yeah that is true but I think it is just more experience with undoing them lol That means he has prob been around the block he just don't seem like that type... ugh I'm so lost~

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

What's wrong with being experienced?

[Asker]

Well for one it means he has been around the block.. he just don't act like it.. the last guy I was with that I left was 27 we were together 3 years and have a 1 and half year old from him and he wasn't even that experienced... I'm not used to someone with experienced like that.. you just don't know how close a bra lays to a girls skin and all the sudden you look down and its gone! wtf! ha ha yeah its like weird to me.. oh well I guess maybe Ill get used to it lol thanks!

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

Actually, I do know how close it "lays" to a girl's skin. And I am good with the one hand as well. Maybe you're not ready for this guy.

[Asker]

Oh I am just not what he does and thinks its funny. I have not came across a guy who has done this.. I usually stay to the guys who have low sexual numbers like my ex was at 3 and this guy, I'm not even gonna ask! Yeah he knows how 2 undo a bra good, that doesn't mean I'm not ready for this guy, yeah he is a pro but we click, like everything always works out, we have like everything in common it seems from food to football team, and so on. just not sexual experience with the bra other then that...

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

You are aware that sexual "experience" is literally the dumbest reason to have an issue with someone, right? Literally 95% of divorces are attributed to a lack of sex/attention to sexual desires. So either get over it, or learn to enjoy the moment he leaves, because if you carry on like this, that moment will be inevitable.

[Asker]

We don't have no problem with sexual experience my prob is the bra thing is creepy in a way OK. meaning how many bras has he undone to get that good. We satisfy each other wonderfully, doesn't matter if it is at his work, his place or mine.. we have sex like every time we are around each other. We love each others sexual pleasures, this question is about him doing this sh*t so quick, my friend that's 25 also said, wow that is wierd. so who knows.. but no problem in the sex area here I'm his nympho!

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

I didn't say you had a "sex" problem, I am pointing out that you are equating this issue to sex. Your entire conversation has been that you have a problem with this because it means he's done it quite often (supposedly), which you are implying he's had a lot of partners. In fact, you've specifically stated that as well. Anyway, I've already given you a good enough alternative reason for this feat, so again, you can either accept it, or let it bother you.

[anonymously20]

I don't think he's a player at all. He might have even grown up around a lot of women too. My boyfriend can do the same thing and I even asked "How'd you do that?"... I think he's just good with his hands and he knows a lot about girls from having two older sisters. He knows how a bra looks and how to unclip it. I think he's really into you though :) oh and by the way I thought all girls were able to do it one hand but I guess not! Lol I can uncool my bra in 1 second with two fingers... unless I'm at some odd angle or it's a crappy bra.

[anonymously20]

*****unhook

[Anonymous]

I think your overthinking this. My boyfriend can undo my bra with one hand also. I admit, like you, I was shocked at first. Not in a "player" kind of way, just like a "wow how did you do that!" way lol

[Asker]

Haha yeah I was way shocked in that way too.. lol I even asked him... how did you do that, I can't even do that! lol which I can't one handed I don't know thanks lol

[azzhole725]

Relax. This guy is just experienced. He's not a player since he spends a lot of time and effort on you. He has shown that he has the capability to settle down since he's been married before. He could have been a player before or dated a lot of girls back then. However, he has matured and moved on the player ways. Plenty of guys can unhook the bra with one hand. Don't worry.

[Asker]

Thanks =) that is so relieving lol as long as plenty of guys can do that, it happens so quick is all, like faster than I can even realize its off till its off lol I don't know thank you though

[bubbakong2006]

He’s been with other women and has experience wants them titties

[beachgirl1995]

Means he's been practicing.. on other woman.

[Doglover9]

I'm sure a few guys can do that, I can lol

[Anonymous]

He has handled bras before, and is good with his hands. That's what it means.

[Anonymous]

Hes been around the block a few times or he wears bras

[Asker]

He don't wear a bra, I can't even do that... and I wear one! and maybe he has been around the block, at least not trashy girls haha