Sex long ago used to be taboo and without internet, people were subject to whatever their parents told them. Now everything is out in the open and easily accessible. Even children understand they can have sex without having babies if they use contraception... then on top of that media perpetuates such a sex culture and makes sex seem like this super cool, super awesome experience so obviously after it is hyped up people are more excited to try it. At the same time, parents are not the way they used to be, the days of giving their children advice on how to handle affair of the heart is almost zero, few parents teach their children about being ethical and having proper morals and values, valuing themselves and their bodies, respecting others. So all in all these things have combined to perpetuate a culture where it is difficult to keep your virginity.
I think it has a lot to do with movies, peer pressure, the desire to fit in with peers or liberal/media agenda that tell us that sex is ok to have anytime with whomever you want, that its good, you only live once, that you need to do it to establish "compatibility"... any number of reasons. Bottom line, instant gratification has replaced morals.
Those that are virgins can also face a certain stigma. They can be made fun of, or denied relationships because of their desire to wait for marriage. I'm 30 and still a virgin. While no one has made fun of me to my knowledge, I've never had a boyfriend due in large part to wanting to wait until marriage. I generally tell guys this up front, and 100% of the time they've gone running for the hills.
Well, those guys are trash and they obviously don't deserve you. Do you look for long term relationships each time? (Or going into it looking for the one you'll marry?) I don't know if that really makes much sense
Yes, I only look for serious relationships with someone I would want to potentially marry. That's the point of dating. I don't see any point in dating otherwise.
It's not the point of dating for some people. Why would a high schooler go into it looking for someone serious with their entire life ahead of them? Some college students casually date around
I think the biggest issue is the lack of information. Peer-pressure is a close second. But I have been big on making sure my teen is really ready to make that choice. I also make sure there is always an open line of communication no matter what he chooses to do. But in high school it seemed like the girls had some rush in it. I waited till after I was 18, but I got a lot of grief mostly from females because I wasn't doing the exact same thing they were. Society today has completely turned a blind eye to it, and no one wants to talk about sex openly and it has made it some kind of rite of passage instead of a clear headed decision to be made.
It is not difficult at all. It is up to you. While I was in uni, almost all my friends were having sex but that did not make me want to join the bandwagon just because they were doing it. No. It's all up to you. I had a boyfriend too. However, my boyfriend cheated on me because of that very reason. I was saving myself for someone who's worth the wait. Regardless the times, you my dear, holds the key to your virginity. :) Enjoy it when you finally have it. You only lose it once. <3
Tbh, I think a big part of it is that society is slightly less stringent about the subject (it's mildly uncommon for a woman's virginity to be confirmed by the husband, the bride's father, and the local priest upon being wed, for example), and parents seem broadly less involved with their kids lives. Add in a general downward trend in strongly religious beliefs and it's more common for people to have sex before they are married.
Personal opinions on how right or wrong that may be aside, much of popular society has moved to consider it unusual and sometimes negative if you've never had sex, and following 'the norm' is a powerful social driver in humans. Add in more direct peer pressure (which is wrong no matter how you slice it), and it can be hard.
Thank you for such wide explanation of your point of view :) I agree with many things you mentioned.
I'll be the first to say that I'm strongly of the opinion that sex isn't a bad thing (safe sex and not hurting anybody being considered), but I still do believe that the social pressure (both large scale and small scale) as well as the lack if proper education on the subject is abhorrent. Do or do not is a personal preference, and should be respected no matter what.
Thanks :) yes, any decision regarding that issue or any other should be respected.
The very simple explanation is that the media, Hollywood, and the West tries to make people think sex is only about fun and lust = love. It's also about "free love" and easy access to condoms, birth control pills, and abortion that removed all the consequences for fornication so girls can lose virginity younger and younger now.
In the West people that remain virgins really have to want to remain a virgin. I am a virgin waiting until marriage and I would only marry a virgin. If a beautiful girl was willing to have sex with me I would reject her offer. I might really want to have sex but I couldn't because I wouldn't want to break my personal vow to stay a virgin until I meet and marry a girl that is also a virgin.
Ohhh that's very true! Thank you :) and also (and I expect not to offend anyone) I believe you're very strong for that vow you told about :)
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It's not hard at all. I'm 25 and still a virgin. It's based on your values and what you think about sex, besides where you believe sex should take place.
I think if people really truly wanted to stay virgins they could. But since holding on to virginity is more of a moral obligation of sorts than an actual desire, it's easier for curiosity and temptation to sneak in and diminish their resolution.
Because people have become judgmental about anyone who is not a virgin.
Also it's because having sex without the need of love or relationship has become accepted and "normal" and a lot of girls *and guys* have lost their virginity to someone they don't love, because they think that at a certain age they have to lose it and "live life to its fullest". It's become a trend
Virginity is overrated. People and certain societies put way too much value on it. Especially female virginity, it’s a reminiscent thing of an old past where girls needed to remain pure for their husband that ‘bought’ her from her parents and he could assume no one before him went inside.
Because it's not as mainstream anymore. It was easier to stay one during our parents generation because everyone valued it. Now, people are more relaxed and casual about sex, and virginity is not really seen as a precious commodity anymore.
For me I was 15 and thought every one was having sex and didn't really have any set values about sex and marriage so I just did it to get it over with.
A lot of people now a days are just curious at first or get pressured into it because "no one's a virgin" these days
It's not. Like at all. If it seems that way then we should just be ashamed of how some girls are easy to manipulate... as simple as that. You have to stand your ground and have a strong character.
This depends on culture. Some cultures it's the opposite. I think both ways are bad. We should not be pressured either way. If we are ready we are ready. It's something we should decide ourselves.
SO TRUE like u dont even have to decide yourself because you'll know when its right
I think it can be because adults aren't thatcreligious anymore so they don't raise their children that way. They don't explain to theit children thst how precious virgintiy is. Girls are cheap now and they don't value themselves enough, they just throw their body to anybody.
Group and society pressure
Maybe because people are a lot more hotter, everything is a temptation.
Very simple answer as today there are a real lot of horny dicks out there that will do anything to cum...
Because everybodys doing it and people think that since everybodys doing it then u should lose it too
i dont find it hard?
Ohhh well, that's great! I do sometimes when I see romantic movies u. u
It’s not tricky. You shut your legs.
Excluding the people out there who drug and abuse you, the choice to be a virgin lies within oneself.
I'm 21 and I still am. Not like I want to be but I've been pretty much single my whole life not including a date or two
I would imagine it is much harder for girls than guys. Mainly because there are guys that are sex addicts, and virgin hunters. There are girls like that as well though, but most girls aren't as openly sexual as guys.
Plus there is pressure from society saying "how are you still a virgin?" and "I could set you up". Somehow being a virgin isn't as praised as it used to be.
Lol I think there are more virgins now than in the old times. Those people would marry at like 15 and have 10 kids yeaah very innocent 😂
Cause people make virginity seem like a bad thing and that if you're not out here screwing around, then you're behind in the times.
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