Because girls are afraid being disliked. And to be labeled a tease is paramount to being undesired.
The sense that sex is "owed" is pervasive in society today. There is a point of no return when it comes to physical intimacy, and if a girl doesn't deliver what the guy thinks is promised, then she's looked upon in a negative way. There seems to be an expectation to deliver, despite what the girl really wants.
I understand, even in with my feminist viewpoints, the disappointment that can come from not getting what you thought was a sure deal. But I also have to ask myself, why is that expectation there? Why can't a girl just do what she likes and leave when she's done?
I find myself straddling a blurry line here - yes, no woman should ever feel obligated to deliver something she doesn't want to, but also - she shouldn't make promises she isn't going to keep.
I've had sex unwillingly twice while single, and it was because I felt that I took things too far to back away without being rude. I knew what was going on and had ample opportunity to say "no", or "never mind" - but I didn't. And I don't blame anyone but myself. Mind you, this is a far cry from a guy pressuring a woman to do something she doesn't want to; I'm not advocating sexual assault at all. Back then, I was aware there was a "point of no return" that I crossed on my own for whatever reasons I had back then.
So maybe your friend was like me - she was aware of her actions and wanted to lessen the disappointment by giving them something. The whole random guy thing - it could be she has low self esteem and doesn't think she's worthy of a relationship. I don't know, that's edging into territories I'm not qualified to speculate on.0 0 0 0This was exactly my position a couple weeks back! Some background and stuff that went through my head:
We started making out and then we got to a point where we could either have sex or take it to the next base. I knew he had had sex before, so when I told him that I was a virgin (that too mid-passion) and I wasn't going to have sex with him for my first time, I was expecting him to be really disappointed and thought that he would just be all like, "Wtf i just wasted all my time and skills on you" so I wanted to do something so that he wouldn't regret the evening (?) and I thought the only way I could do that was if I did him a favour without asking for anything in return. I didn't want to disappoint him. It was partly a consolation and partly an attempt at correcting my mistake of not giving him prior notice.
Also, I wanted to check it off my bucket list.0 0 0 0
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1 1It's what guys expect. Also, if you make a mistake and go too far with a guy without him finishing, he gets angry. Angry men make us either feel guilty or afraid.
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