Why for some guys having sex with a virgin it is something they don´t mind but for some guys they do care and prefer experienced women?

Is it really relevant if a woman is a virgin or not and the guy is experienced?

I have female friend who is a virgin and she is afraid to loose it because she believes she wotn do a good job, especially when the guy already had slept with a woman before as he was married before but many many years ago. Also she is afraid because since her status of being a virgin she has never ever had been under any kind of BC method before as she had never being sexually active or fool around either before so for her there was never the need to be under any kind of BC in her past. But now loosing her virginity is a possibility it may happen as maybe there will be a 3rd date between them, not so soon but eventually in a period of maybe 1 month or 2, with a guy she likes as the guy already had mention her he wants "to do things" with her and "he wants to do it with her" .

She is a bit afraid as not also she is a virgin but she is also a middle age woman with that status and for her it be her very very first time to be intimate of any kind with a man before. But since she had never been on any BC method before, on her first time she expects the guy to be wearing a condom but she told me she thinks the guy told her once or mention her, he does not like the feel of using a condom, one of the reasons.

Both seem to be attracted to each other but they do not hang out or go out together so often, so they are not really like a couple, who hang out often so far as I know they had only been on real dates twice and they had made out at the end of each date.
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Do you think the lady should take the chance by getting laid with the guy as this guy could be the only available guy she is attracted to and who seem the attraction is mutual, to jump over board and loose her virginity? Or it is better if she still waits for another guy she may be attracted and loose it to that other guy who may come or never come in her future? This second choice is based on the fact that the guy she likes, told her he does not like to use a condom.
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Neither the guy nor my friend want to have kids now or in any future. Too much responsibility that my friend are not ready to have, emotionally, financially
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  • It is true that many people for this reason are raped so nobody wants them any more. And believe me it works. People want a virgion. But many can not help it they were raped. So it is a game. It is not from the bottem of the heart and people who act this way know it give rapist a reason to rape and they know it is satanic also. How you notice a good person is if the person is willing to talk with and listen. Satanists never do that. Be aware of that. If people do not listen to you and pay no attention it is not from God but from Satan. Do not bother and move on in live and do not take it personal. And think somebody out there will miss you. There is not just hate in our society but also the good and evil is very afraid of it and will do everything in it's power to turn against it, . Be Good yourself and listen for once to others also. That is all there is to it and give other people also a chance to say what is on their mind because perhaps nobody ever listend to them either,.

    • Why you are talkinbg about rape? why rape

    • Im not talking here about religion or God or Satan

Most Helpful Guys

  • Most guys and girls that I know do not like the feel of condoms, but most will put up with them for safety. Depending on where you are there are other types of BC such as the pill. sponge, shot, iud, etc.
    Middle age virgins can be an emotional challenge for both parties.
    If she wants it, then she has to take precautions, and seduce the guy.

    • Well where I live not all female BC are available easy for women. Condoms are the cheapest to find and sold everywhere supermarkets, drugstores, while female BC are hard to find, with the exception of pills that are just prescribed by the doctor anyway, Sponge shot and IUD are not available on drugstores or sold in the country. There are some shots or patches that only here where I live are given by public health institutions but in order to get them you have to go through a lot of red tape to get them and I doubt they will give a 46 yrd old lady those things, as they only give them to young ones or teenagers who are more exposed to have unplanned and unwanted pregnancies these days.

    • So you see the only choice adn easy one is for the guy to use a condom, easy to get easy to buy.

  • I don't think it matters. It never mattered to me. There isn't much to having sex that's why many have it. I think you get better with practice but she won't know unless she does it and get that "first one" out of the way. She shouldn't worry. He will be happy that after all these years he got to be the first one to break through and get it.

    • But my friend told me she is hesitant to get sexually involved with him cause the fact that he mentioned her he does nto like to wear a condom cause it does not feel the same, is the thign that is holding her back to even see or set up another date with him even if she likes him a lot. I mean at least she seems responsible, to want the guy to wear a condom, because my friend does not want to h ave kids or get pregnant and yes at her middle age a lady still can get pregnant even if some men believe they can't due fertility decreases as you age but still is like playing a russian roulette game, she may get pregnant she may not in her first experience if the guy does not wear a condom but it is a chance my friend does not want to take by the guy not using one.

    • 99.9% of guys want to have sex raw. If she doesn't want to get on BC and he doesn't want to wear a condom at her request then he doesn't want it bad enough and your friend shouldn't just do it and hope she doesn't get pregnant.

    • Is not that she does not want to be on BC, she had never been before under any kind of BC as she never needed to be under one, cause she has never been sexually active before or had sex at all, if he has it now it be her very very first time and so far she is not sleeping around either at this current moment, if she sleeps with someone it be just with the guy sh e likes, she is not banging anyone in between until she sleeps with the other guy.

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  • Because some want "pure" girls who are innocent while others want experienced girls who won't lie there like dead fish.

    • so experienced women won't lie and virgins do lie?

    • There are two different meanings to the word lie, and in this context, you misunderstood its meaning.

  • There's a mythology around virginity. And it was easily spread in the US.
    www.independent.co.uk/.../...ke-bernau-395985.html

  • 45yo virgin? Really?

    • what does that has to do with it?

    • Cuz by then guys generally expect a woman to know what to do in the sack. Just sayin'. The first thing is to develop some kind of deeper relationship - do that and the sex will come naturally. She should just be upfront about it.

    • ther are girls middle age that are still virgin and some guys dont care

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  • TLDR

    • TLDR?

    • To long didn't read.

    • It is not that long I had seen posts much much longer than this one

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  • Don't worry about it. The first time you have sex it will probably be bad and you will probably suck at it. You obviously want to get laid or you wouldn't keep asking about it. Just do it and put it behind you at this point. It won't be special and he won't all of a sudden care about you. Either do it or don't, but the more you over think it the worse it will likely be.

    • Geez thanks for ur great advice...

  • I would rather hear her side, but if she has waited this long, she should wait until she is sure.

  • i m fine with any pussy, but fucking methods would be different.

    • she should break virginity soon so she can be easy.

    • what do u mean so she can be easy?

    • seems her virginity burden her, she taking it too seriously. while fucking for the first time is not big deal.

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  • Bad society bad people still exists

    • why u say that?

    • My line doesn't make any sense here 😂😂😂😂

  • When I was younger in my teens and 20s it was totally fine. Today however it is just desirable to me to have an experienced woman. We both know what we want and need and we are more open about everything.