I'm disabled and need help to masturbate. Is it ok to ask a friend?

[LadFlo27]

Hello. Hope you're all well. I am going to resume my story as good as I can. I am a 28 years old male who suffers from Muscular Dystrophy. I am wheelchair bound and depend on others for almost everything. Im virgin and can't even masturbate on my own (I dont have strength to undress/dress myself, do the thing and clean myself and first of all there are the severe joint contractures I have in my arms that dont let me reach down there). For a while It didn't make a difference for me but for about 3 years now the lack of sexual relief is really getting on my nerve and I need a solution. Now because of my condition I dont have means to go out and socialize with girls (and from my times at school and uni I know they dont want anything with me) nor seek out the services of escorts. I wouldn't even feel confortable with strangers because i'm really shy and sensitive because of my condition.

Now - I have this girl same age as I am with whom I've been friends for over 15 years now. We are close, but only as best friends, nothing really intimate and she's like the only person I see I can trust to ask for help with this. No, I dont want to have sex with her, I just want some regular handjobs. Like I said she knows me for a long time, knows my situation and I think understands why I would ask her and that I would only ask her if I didn't have any other option. But what I think means little and so I still dont know if I should do it. I've read lots of stuff on this and talked with lots of people and right now Im really 50/50 because well I'd really like this but at the same time I dont want to lose her friendship over this.

So what are your thoughts on this? Should I ask her? Not ask her? How should I approach it? If you are a girl, what would you do?

Thanks for all answers

[Intraluminal]

I think that would really badly impact your friendship and probably break it. I understand your dilemma though. I think maybe you should consult your guardian if you have one, or your lawyer.

There have been several cases revolving around the rights of people with disabilities to have sexual relief, and caregivers are required to obtain needed materials for patients if the patients are otherwise unable to obtain them themselves. This does not mean that the caregivers are required to provide the relief themselves however.

[LadFlo27]

I don't have a guardian. Why would I need one really? A lawyer? Well, there's no legislation about this in my country and I don't think there's going to be anytime soon. I appreciate your post anyways.

[Intraluminal]

What country?

[LadFlo27]

Portugal

[Intraluminal]

There are masturbation devices that do all the moving for you. One of those might be appropriate. If you can't solve your discomfort by having sexual relief, you might consider taking higher doses of antidepressants that would reduce your desire.

[LadFlo27]

The devices you talk about require at least to be placed in the place and I can't do that, so again not an option. About your proposal to use medication, I'm not even going to comment on that other than saying it's sad I would have to live with something so normal for everyone else just because I am disabled. But I respect your opinion.

[Intraluminal]

I'm not against you here buddy, I'm trying to help. I never said drugs were an optimal solution, but they might be better than suffering.

[DesiBeautyLover]

Don't do it. If she does it it'll be awkward if she doesn't it'll be even more awkward. You can hint at it but don't do it directly.
Don't do it unless she offers.

[opurba]

Ur dick, ur choice, ur problem, ur disaster, ur desire.

[Aldaren]

It's worth a shot I guess, but why not try a sex toy for relief?

[LadFlo27]

For the same reasons I told I can't masturbate on my own, I can't use a sex toy either.

[Pete671]

perhaps ask her to find another girl for you, she might offer to help you herself, I wouldn't ask her directly to help you, she may well have thought about it herself but might feel awkward about offering,,,

[Djw1984]

I think you should ask she might be willing to help out