My boyfriend is really rough during sex is it normal?

[Anonymous]

He likes to be really rough with me. He is never rough with me except for during sex. He is a lot bigger than me and he gives me light slaps on my body saying he likes when I have red marks. He is bigger than average I don't know the exact size but it hurts if I'm not really wet and ready but sometimes he sneaks up on my throws me down and starts pulling my hair and thrusting really hard. He also does this when I'm asleep too. I will wake up to him shoving inside of me. And he will have sex with me while I'm drifting in and out of sleeping. He does the same thing when I'm drunk. And the first time I was drunk around him he had anal sex with me. He says he loves me and he shows it everyday. And he is really nice to me and shows me love. But he is a huge guy and I'm small and sometimes he starts going so hard and spanking me really hard and yanking my hair and he scares me I don't know what to do. Is this normal.

[Simulacrum]

While I don't know that much about this topic. I would suggest that you need to tell him that it is not okay. It is probably the case that part of his pleasure from this excercise comes from his treatment of you. He may not realize how much you dislike it. If he is as nice as you say he is, then set some boundaries, he shouldn't have a problem with them. Even if you need to compromise a little bit, I am sure the situation can be improved.

[Anonymous]

Any man who is into rough (vigorous is a different thing) sex has a wiring problem you can't fix. You are not a therapist. I suggest you move on now.

[ihatework]

this dude is sick-why would any normal person do these things to their girl. there's always better guys out there.

[dreamishobby]

tell him your discomfort...i guess he'll be more careful from d next time!

[Anonymous]

it's not ok! tell him you want it more passionate