Why do you think he's trying to get me pregnant so early on?

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My boyfriend took condom off without telling me right before 'cum'ing inside meWe have only been dating for a couple months. He casually said to me he wanted a baby and I just presumed he meant 'in general' when the time is right. Lately he's been showing strong signs that he wants a baby, putting pics of him and his nephew up on his profile pic and recently a little baby saying how cute it was. Now I comment on the pic saying 'whoa, you really wanna baby don't ya' and he replies saying 'yeah I came in you last time'. I then said 'no you didn't, you wore protection' and he said he took it off prior to cumming. WTF. Why do you think he's trying to get me pregnant so early on? do you think he loves me to want a baby? he's 28 and has a great job. But is very insecure and I know he feels he isn't good enough for me?!?!

SMCSaysHello · Accepted Answer

Have you ever mentioned to this guy you want to have a baby? Whether he has a well paying job and is old enough to want to start a family is irrelevant. The fact that he didn't bother talking to you about having a baby before doing things that would make you conceive is disturbing. Being pregnant, having a baby and starting a family is a huge decision, that changes both parents forever especially the mother. It's definitely a red flag that he wouldn't talk to you about having a baby before trying to get you pregnant, he just completely disrespected you and had no consideration for you by doing something like that. Having no consideration for you or your thoughts by cumming in you, without even telling you afterwards in person but over social media and making a joke out of it are clear indicators he is DEFINITELY NOT ready to be a father or a family. To be a family that will last there needs to be; communication, trust, respect, comprimisation and above all else complete selflessness. What he did shows he has absolutely none of them and isn't ready to be a husband or father. Money doesn't by love or happiness and age doesn't mean maturity or wisdom.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Dont let this guy ruin your future. he's probably trying to trap you because he is a loser. seriously RUN WHILE YOU CAN! unless the vision of single motherhood, struggling living in a trailer park/ghetto excites you get out.

GUYS LIKE THIS ARE LOSERS! if he does get you pregnant what do you think the chances of him staying are? really? also guys like this have a tendency to be controlling/abusive so watch out. you also said that he is "very insecure". that can go along with future abusive behavior. also if he is trying to get you pregnant without even thinking how you feel then that is another sign this guy would be abusive and controlling and selfish.

dont say I didn't warn you

destiny13 · Accepted Answer

UMM I just read your update and I'm pretty sure he wasn't joking.. no guy would go out of their way to make a joke like that. if you took it too seriously and broke up with him he'd be stupid. I think he really wants it and that's probably not the best thing..

ncguy1979 · Accepted Answer

If a guy is talking like this, on some level he either wants to make you pregnant or he wants the thrill of the risk of getting you pregnant.  I have had several girls who I knew were not on birth control ask me to come inside them, and most of the time I have still pulled out, but there have been a few times where I could not resist that kind of temptation.  It's a really good feeling to let the moment and the passion take over like that, but it's also a little scary afterward.  I suppose there is a reason why there are 6 billion of us on the planet...

Cartiphilus · Accepted Answer

He's crazy and obsessed.  If you don't get yourself on the pill or get an IUD fast he's going to get you pregnant whether you want it or not.  You have a choice allow him to get you pregnant or not.  For all you know he could be poking holes in the condoms to allow sperm to escape inside you.  You've got a nut case on your hands.

BoyWithGoodAnswers · Answer

Guys are born with primal instinct and desire to produce as many children as possible within his lifetime. (which is why guys are so much hornier than girls oftentimes) - It's not surprising that he has shown behavior like that because as a boy, his brain and sense of instinct are telling HIS BIOLOGICAL, NUMBER ONE GOAL/PURPOSE IN LIFE, IS TO CAUSE AS MANY IMPREGNATIONS AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE.

Thiezz · Answer

Perhaps  he think you'll stay with him if you two have a baby together or something... either way it's creepy.

hottywitabody · Answer

i would be like hey umm we need to talk about this first this is a big responsiblity in front of I mean I'm training to be a RN and man its just a lot of work you have to make sure he is absolutely ready as well as you and I would be p*ssed ha ha that's just me