Do you compare your guy to your vibrator/dildo?

[anynymoooooose]

My ex girlfriend used to tell me that the only way she can orgasm was by her vibrator. I am very good at bringing women to climax, and apparently I get her really close, but just not over the bump to climax. It was frustrating because she goes nuts and gets really really wet, but I couldn't get her there. I'm not even sure she can without the vibrator. That makes me think, orgasms can be really tough to come by with some women. Are women disappointed in a man even when he is very good, but can't live up to their vibrator? Also, if your man has a smaller penis than your favorite dildo, does the man have any reason to be jealous?

[Anonymous]

Well she should probably stop using toys for awhile.

As a user of toys I can tell you, it may be easier for her to come with the toy, but nothing compares to the real thing.

The fact that its you doing it to her will make it all the better.

Having an orgasm is tricky, but once you give her one, she will be able to orgasm with you more often.

And the more often she orgasms with you the more often she will---multiple orgasm sex.

She just has to get use to you are her means of orgasm.

Some other tips...

LOTS of foreplay.

make sure she is relaxed-that is key, she may have more luck with toys because she is more comfortable.

Make sure she feels totally comfortable with you and her body.(she may be self conscious, especially if she really likes you)

It sounds like it is the comfort issue that is holding her back and/or she doesn't know how to have one.

Believe it or not there is something to knowing how to orgasm.

One thing is to stay relaxed, and also breath---I think some women will clench up and hold their breath...which is bad. Breath in and out-stay calm.

Also, make sure she pees before sex, if you have to pee it is harder to have one.

And lastly if she is dehydrated it is also harder to have an orgasm.

Hope this helped.

[Anonymous]

Dude if she needs a vibrator with you then what's the problem? She's still doing it with you which counts for something. You can get her there though...just keep practicing...build stamina...and anticipation...lots of foreplay. Can she come when you go down? Do you rub her clit with penetration? Does she? Try it all dude!

[anynymoooooose]

That was very helpful. Thank you for your time and effort...

[Anonymous]

If a woman is doing this then she's more than likely to always be unhappy with a real man.

This is like guys comparing their girlfriends to p*rn stars and them "not stacking up" in terms of how they act, how they look and what they'll do.

[Opinion Owner]

@Update: I never said she wasn't worth it. I just said more than likely she'll never by happier with a real man versus a vibrator.

[debsman]

Try humming the next time you go down on her.