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My boyfriend likes to spit on my face during sex.....is this just a harmless fetish or lack of respect?

The spit is just saliva, he likes to dribble in my mouth too! and told me he wants me to swallow his 'juices' every time we have sex. Am I overreacting or do you think he doesn't have respect?
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I feel I love him so I don't mind this that much but I'm more concerned about if he respects me or not by doing it in the first place
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He also asked to p*ss on me...that, I will not tolerate
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  • Im a freak this i know... i love to suck my boyfriends dick, i live for him to um on my face, in my and in my mouth really any where he eants except my hair lol... but then one day he spit on me during sex. Wel he asked and i said no a few times then i gave him a green light... he did it and kept fucking me... i didn't know how to feel about but as he kept fucking me and sooner than i thought i was more than went i was orgasming crazy and supper creamy. But i dont. He recently asked could he urinate on my face i told him we could try it... i didn't like it. And didn't want to do it again... but one day i sucked him of something crazy and swolled iss cum but continued to suck him off... i dis that for a while when he took me to the back, he said he wanted to fuck my face (we do this often)... so we went to the back to our bed and i layed on my back with my head at the edge of the bed and he stood over me and put his dick in my mouth and started fucking my throat. Then i heard him whisper as im playing with his dick and "i wanna pee on you" i said no and went back to teasing him opening and closing my mouth. A few minutes go by and his tip us supper hard so i open my moth for him to cum and he urinated in my mouth and on my face! I was Pissed... befor i met him I've never swallowed so much cum or been spit and pissed on... is he a freak or just a disrespectful person? He has also jokes during sex which i love but is I've never done b4 him. Another thin that i think is important for you guys to know is that he does not eat pussy/ vagina at all!!! Am i crazy for staying?

  • I don't think any act is inherently disrespectful----it depends more on the person's motives behind it. If he does it because he wants to disrespect you, then it's disrespectful. If he does it when you've told him you don't like it, or does it without asking you if you're okay with it, then it's disrespectful.

    On the other hand, some people are simply very turned on by these kinds of things. Not because they don't respect the person they do it to (in fact, a lot of these people have healthy, loving relationships with each other), but rather, they do it more in a "roleplay" kind of way. Think of it sort of like people who enjoy being called or calling someone else names during sex---it can be a huge turn-on even if the person calling the names doesn't actually mean it and the person being called names knows the other person doesn't actually mean it.

    If your boyfriend doesn't really give you any reason to think he doesn't respect you other than wanting to play in a "kinky" way in the bedroom, then I don't think there's any reason to jump to the conclusion that he wants to disrespect you. If you enjoy it, or don't mind doing it because you know how much he likes it, then go ahead--have fun! But if you don't like it and don't want to do it, you need to tell him you don't like it and want it to stop (and if he pressures you or does it anyway, it may be an indicator of whether or not he respects you).

  • My boyfriend treats me better than I've ever been treated before and spit in my mouth in the heat of the moment during one of our first few sessions... I was taken off guard by it, but it turned him on and didn't turn me off so i didn't make any fuss. He hasn't done it since, but recently while talking dirty he's told me he's going to. He also recently has been talking about pissing on and in me. At first I brushed it off, like he was joking, but he eventually full on came out and asked. I asked him why and he told me he likes filling me up with things. I read up on it and haven't seen anything about either being unhealthy for you. I wouldn't really mind giving it a go if it makes him happy, since he makes me very happy. He's introduced me up fisting, and we are now getting more into stretching. It feels amazing. Sometimes trying new things isn't so bad. Society has brainwashed people to be ashamed of their sexuality, but at the end of the day we are all only animals. Don't be ashamed of your something so natural!

Most Helpful Guys

  • you know there are this little thing (disgusting things) we like doing but it is not out of disrespect. if he doesn't respect you will know . how does he treat you on daily basis ? sex is making love ,respect for one another yeah but there is a great deal in fantasies (taking it to the next level for example disgusting things ) make him feel he own you on the bed but the thing is, you own him in bed and more in your daily activities . you got the power make use of it and make your couple interesting for both of you. sorry but something we have this need to possess and it comes in various forms.

    • Having sex and making love is not the same thing.

    • says who ? . making love is just being polite for the first months ( and she still want proof of affection) . then after what they say is they want sex ,then on bed is " baby do it harder oh yes..."

  • My ex girlfriend and I use to do this thing - spitting, I mean. I loved to spit her face during anal sex and she was always turn her face to me to receive it. She had the most powerful orgasms like this, anal orgasms, and I think she love it. Me too.
    We tried to do the piss thing, but I am piss shy. She piss on my body couple of times and it was OK.
    And I loved her with all my heart and she loved me. We still love each other, but we work in different countries now, so, it's damn complicated. So, in love and war EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

    • What if the guy only wants to do it to you

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  • If you don't like it then it's a no. How does he treat you outside of the bedroom?How do you know he respects you? Does he listen to you when you speak? Does your opinion matter? Would he be into you doing the same to him? Would you be comfortable with him smearing feces on you? I htink now is the time to have a talk about what you are both comfortable doing during sex. If this is a real turn on and he isn't disrespecting you then it's probably a fetish. But really if you're not into it you will start to be uncomfortable and this could cause problems in your relationship.

  • next time your having sex with this guy, ask him if you can do ALL of the above without any denials and if he agrees, check out his reactions after spitting or p**ing. from then onwards you can figure it yourself if he's disrespectful or not. but either ways, this whole thing is disgusting -.-

  • I agree with Brando, if he's doing it and you don't like it, huge disrespect. But if you like it too then its not.

    I'm not sure about you but I'm completely OK with majority of things when it comes to sex but spit on me and I'm going to pop you in the mouth.

  • Okay.. the last update... not cool. No p*ssing on you! Ever! You are not a toilet! That is indeed disrespectful. And spitting.. well I guess it's up to you whether you like it or not, do you feel disrespected? I personally would slap a guys d*** if he thought spitting on my face was an option - and nobody likes their d*** slapped (well.. nobody without a weird fetish... kind of like face spitting). It's fine if that's what you're into but drool and spit.. just so unnecessary for me. I'd rather a guy come on my face.. 100%. Him wanting you to swallow is also not a sign of disrespect..guys are just into it...unless by juices he means his p*ss or his drool.. again - really f***ing weird..dont do it. Rough is cool - strange foreign bodily fluids all over me and in my mouth - not so much. It's like dirty talk.. it's cool until it goes to far and it's not cool anymore - there are limits and you should set yours. Then let him know. Good luck!

    • Love this. love love love. 'you are not a toilet!' made my day :]

    • :)

  • Spit? Seriously, I never heard of anyone enjoying spitting on other people during sex, that is kind of odd. Using spit for lube is fine, but not just randomly...I don't see the appeal. If you don't like it, then just tell him. Or ask him if you can spit on his face.

    Urinating is a different thing, lots of people are into golden showers and stuff, personally I don't mind p*ssing on guys if it's their MUST desire, though it doesn't really turn me on. I once had sex with a guy who asked me to p*ss on his face/in his mouth while he was giving me oral, and he also enjoyed licking my armpit. Just by looking at him, you couldn't tell that he was into these kind of things, he appeared kinda innocent actually...the sexual acts people enjoy don't neccessarily reflect on their personality - I mean it's just sex.

  • If you don't like this, then you really need to say something about it. If he does it when you don't want him to, then yes it is disrespect. Say something about it to him and have him stop if you don't like it.

    • Saw your update, you might want to talk with him about it if you are unsure. To me, it doesn't sound too much like he's disrespecting you, he might just like that stuff. If he watches a lot of p*rn, then there's a chance that he's emulating it from there.

  • From the sound if him, he's just freaky. No big deal.

  • I think it is both if he gets sexually aroused by this then it must be a fetish of his but I take it that you do not enjoy this. The act of him spitting on you face is just gross and disgusting. I also find it degrading and disrespectful if you do not like it you need to tell him and stop it right now.

  • Honestly I'd dump his ass. Its a fetish thing and its disgusting. Seems like he wants an S+M relationship and you're not into it.

  • It seems fetish and at the same time turn on..but its really irritating

  • he just a crazy sumbitch... f*** all that sh*t... leave his ass... he a damn weirdo...

  • Wow... Yeah... You need to dump this freak. He is being very disrespectful and tho will soon morph into choking, then slapping, and eventually full out striking and abuse, both physical and mental. Unless you are into being treated like trash then leave him. Swallowing his cum is about the only normal thing here it seems, but even then he can't demand you.do it EVERY time that you have sex. He's an ass hole on the making. Dump him, you deserve better.

  • HAHAHA. your got to be sh*tting me! he spits on your face? LOL. Jesus!

  • unreal-i love to come in a girls mouth and I lovve to eat a girls cum(if she is clean hot and I am into her)but pee? spit? leave him he is testing your limits and clearly has no respect for you. run run run!

  • I guess that'd depend on how he treats you afterwards; with or without respect.

  • I know guys like this I think that you should put your foot down and if he still tries it leave him

    these guys mostly just want to humiliate you to make themselves feel better

  • I thought about doing this, but never had the hart to do it... I'd probably save it for that girl that I'd break, where I do everything to her... everything! (almost everything, not the 1 cup thing, that's going to far for me) every guy has one of those dream girls... besides there's other fantasy's I'd want to try first...

    • What do you mean you'll break? I feel like im that gurl for my boyfriend now

  • To me that is just degrading and desrespectful.. Like next time ask him if you can pee on him. See how he reacts.

  • I enjoy spitting into my gf's mouth during sex. I absolutely respect her, so it's got nothing to do with that. Sometimes guys just like to have a little bit of control over a girl, and spitting on (and sometimes pissing on) is one way of exerting that control. It's no different from being a little bit rough; slapping across her face/breasts and firmly but carefully putting my hands around her neck are just a few of the ways I like to dominate her, and she's happy with that and willing to tolerate it. As long as you both agree where to draw the line, and don't cross it, then there's no harm in it.

    • I lime your response... but i do have a question? Is it wiered that guy doesn't eat vagina but wants all the things above?

  • Its not lack of respect, it gets him going, about 2 weks ago my partner hand cuffed my hands to the bed so I couldn't move them, she gave me a blowjob, then move up and started riding me, it was pitch black, she was moaning, and so was i, then I felt her spit hit my mout, and she kept on spitting on my face, I mean I was covered in it. I asked her after why she did it and she said it was pay back for when I pissed on her face.

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