I feel like a loser being a virgin?

Question

I am a 22 years old virgin. I been asked oit many times.3times in the last month. im friendly, outgoing but for a reason, afraid of sex
I only dated and kissed one guy. For the past two years i volunteered, even was co author on a book about the history of religious beliefes. I worked at museum as a guide and did intense research on freemasonry for my project. so I wasn't so interested in dating. Also i was taking care of my grandpa who had dementia. And my friends were partying and fucking and dating...

Jesslin412 · Accepted Answer

22 and a virgin too! Terrified to have sex and get pregnant. I was always focused on my studies. Dating someone right now. 😊😍 watch those hormones. They are killer! Don’t lose it just to lose it. I’m not religious but want to wait until I’m married. Not a have to but a want. I want it to be special. Plus the terrified thing. Only kissed 3 guys. The one I’m with now a lot lol. The first guy I dated kissed once. And made out with someone twice on his couch didn’t date. So had only kissed 3 times before Eric 😊😘

Sandra44319153 · Accepted Answer

Dont stress about it. I used to worry about the same thing. I got a boyfriend and now have a ton of sex. Dont get me wrong I love him. But now that sex feels so normal I realise that as a virgin I wasn't missing a lot. I enjoy the romance and passion of it more than the act. Just find a nice guy that makes you feel good and then the rest just kinda happens on its own.
xx

goodsoul · Accepted Answer

No u r not a loser since u not lost it yet. U have not found a right guy with whom u wil feel intimacy very natural. Do u want to lose it with a random drunk guy bcoz ur friends doing it?

triff · Accepted Answer

Sorry to hear about your grandfather not an easy thing to deal with for either of you Now to your question Why feel embarrassed to be a virgin I don’t believe for one minute that your scared of sex You just haven’t found the right guy who makes you feel relaxed in their company Not someone who badgers you for sex When the time is right your know Don’t throw it away for a guys notch post x

MarkRet · Accepted Answer

You're not a loser. I was a virgin until I was 25. Getting involved with somebody can be kind of scary, because you're giving up some control of yourself to somebody else, and it makes you feel vulnerable. At the same time, the other person's giving some control over to you. It's just a matter of having the courage to trust someone. The sex kind of follows after that.

Logorithim · Answer

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. The underlying problem is your feelings about sex. It's possible that you'll feel differently about it when you meet The One and feel comfortable. Don't have sex until you're ready and don't have it outside of an exclusive relationship.

wankiam · Answer

nothing to be afraid of but its also ok to not have sex. its your life and you should live it how you want

Menelin · Answer

I'm also a virgin. Not ashamed of it.

It just means that you know what you want and aren't letting primal desires get in the way of it. You want a career. It would take a very special guy to take you away from that.

michael041987 · Answer

you are no loser for being a loser. things happen when they happen. you gonna find a nice guy and you gonna enjoy being intimate with him. No need to worry. Also I think there many people older then 20 still virgin.

D4NTH3M4N217 · Answer

I'm afraid of sex if that makes you feel better. I'm not a virgin but I understand the fears, possibly sti's or an emotional connection during sex. It's just sex at the end of the day so no need to worry really, maybe a date would be good for you just to get you in the zone of relationships a little. You only have this time to have good looks so you should use it.

Areesh7826 · Answer

So means people who sleep with everyone are winners comeon not having sex and just dating is a nice thing to you experience love and affection without your partner thinking of taking benefit of you and i am sure you will have sex with someone who makes to feel that loved and comfortable so dont consider yourself a loser

readywriter · Answer

We should be virgins for as long as we wish. You don;t get any prize for giving away your virginity. There is absolutely no time limit.

Debussy2691 · Answer

Being a virgin doesn't make you a loser... it may be worth asking yourself what makes you afraid of sex... is there anyone you can talk with and confide in? Given your esoteric interests you could explore the path of tantra... there are some sensitive practitioners out there who may help... come back if you'd like to know more

deadpool1992 · Answer

Nothing wrong with how you feel but being a Virgin is a good thing. Take your time and wait to meet a guy your Comfortable with don't be one of those dumb girls who sleeps with any guy that comes along so she won't be a virgin anymore. You seem to be doing the right things in life so keep up the good work am 25 only been with two women in my life was almost married to one

DiegoO · Answer

Virginity is overated.

BirdFly · Answer

Intellected girls are a fckin turn on. I swear. Aaaaand... No. You are not a loser. You will have your moment don't worry.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Your problem. You admit it.

synonymous773 · Answer

What about Freemasonry?

pizzalovershouse · Answer

don't feel odd when you meet a guy who likes you for just you then you will fill it's time to loose it your ok don't feel you have to loose it till you have sum 1 who cares for you like you care for them other wise you regret loosing it