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Should I tell my mom I lost my virginity tonight? Or just keep it to myself?

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  • Much here depends on your relationship with your mother and the kind of person she is. However, the inherent advantage of telling her is that she can give you the benefit of her experience and make sure that you know what you are getting into - for good and ill.

    Moreover, if at some point you get pregnant - not likely, but never rule it out - her knowing beforehand that you are sexually active will make any other surprising news a little bit easier to absorb. Think of this as a sort of psychological insurance policy.

    Other factors to consider. Does she know the guy? Does she like him or not? Does she have any moral or religious views on the question of extra-marital sex.

    Bottom line, unless you are in a bad relationship with your mom or she does not like your S/O, telling her will show her that you trust her and make your relationship stronger. Also, honestly, she will be your best source of advice because, assuming that you have a good relationship and allowing for human weaknesses, she will have your best interests at heart.

    Make it clear to her that your sex life is ultimately your business - though if you are a minor she does get some say - but that you love her, trust her, want her to know and want her advice. You'll benefit in the long run.

  • It depends on what kind of person your mother was, and how you feel about it.

    Are you stressed? Upset? Seeking reassurance? A mother can be great for those things, but only if she's patient and accepting.

    Are you excited? Satisfied? Eager to do it again? A mother can be great for sharing things like that, too, but only if she's supportive some amount of sex-positive.

    I never told my parents that I had sex. My girlfriend has never told hers either.

    But I hope when my kids someday start having sex, they'll tell me about it. I intend to create a sense of open dialogue about sex, where I'll make them feel comfortable asking questions and asking for advice.

    I don't want them getting all their information from forums on the internet, where opinions can really be hit or miss.

    • I agree with you very much so!!

    • This is a great answer!! Wish I could "favorite" it. Smart, compassionate, far thinking. Tip of the hat!!!

    • My mom open with me about sex. she always topd me sex should be for love not fun. and when I turn 15 she tough me how to put a condom on and she told me about oral sex

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Most Helpful Girls

  • Of course it is up to you. It depends on how close you are to your mom.
    I never ever told my mom or dad after that fateful evening, though. I thought it was probably none of their business.

    Wish you well.

    • My mom like my best friend..

    • Me too. But for me it would have been a hard conversation to have when I was a teenager. Really, if you think that this is information that you want to share with your mom, and you think that she would be non-judgemental (after the first shock) then sit down with her at the right time and have that conversation. Maybe give it a week or two or three before you spill the beans. Let the whole experience kind of percolate. If you do decide to talk to her, and if you have faith in your mom, I am sure that everything will turn out well.

    • Okay thanks

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  • She doesn't need to know, but if you must tell her, just say that you want to get on birth control. She'll get the hint.
    Unless you're already on birth control, then I suggest you keep it to yourself.

    • Okay. you think she be mad if I am 16 almost 17 ?

    • I don't think so.

    • I hope she dont.

  • If you are underage and someone raped you and you feel really unhappy and want to go the police about it then yes.

    • I wasn't raped

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If you feel comfortable talking to her about such things, yes.
    Every family is different... I really could not talk about anything to my parents ever.

  • *Sigh* at least make him wrap it up...

    • God this app is clunky

    • No one can tell you how too handle your relationship with your mother. Unless she is some sort of hippie I wouldn't expect anything pleasant to come from that interaction.

  • Not knowing your exact age, it's hard to say. It's different for a 14 year old than for a 17 year old. If your mom tends to be understanding, it's probably best to tell her. If she knows you are sexually active, she can do some things that will help protect you, and just that you are asking, suggests that you are more comfortable telling her. It's also very likely she would want to know.

    • I am 16 I turn 17 Monday And I wanna tell her but I think she hate meh

    • Think about it some more. Would she really hate you? Or just be upset, and get over it. She can be a real help if knows and doesn't go off the rails. If you really think she would take it very badly, then it's best to keep it to yourself.

  • Why would you?

    • My mom always tells me to be trurthful with her

    • So what did you tell her what "truth" Did she say?

    • She didn't ask me.

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  • If you feel you need to discuss it with mom then yes but it depends on your relationship with mom. You'll have to decide if it's worth it or not.
    But I hope you took proper precautions, young lady. You should be left with nothing but fond memories.

    • He used a condom and lube

  • You should just be up front and tell her. She might be disappointed. And after the initial shock she'll probably ask if the guy wore protection.

  • just keep it to urself till ur comfortable telling

  • Give yourself a little time

  • Wrap that shit up tight, lock it away deep deep inside you and never bring it up again.
    Bad terrible decision. Just don't do it

  • Depends on how your mom is :/

  • if you know she's gonna get too mad then don't, its okey to keep it to yourself, nobody really needs to know about it.

  • Uh why would you tell her that. Lol what a weird question.

  • Well, if your mom hadn't lost her virginity, you probably wouldn't be asking this lol.
    Tell her depending upon your relation with her.

  • Why would you want to tell your mama about this? As long as it is safe sex you don't have to worry.

  • Keep it to yourself for now but tell her eventually

  • Not needed

  • Tell the post man

    • The postman did it? Not sure she'll be thrilled...

    • Tell Dr. Phil

    • Or the abortion clinic and schedule that appointment

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  • I do not think she would not care

  • How close are you?

  • I'm having the same problem deciding this too

    • I told my mom

    • Did it help?

    • Ya she told me she can get me bc if I wanna be active and to buy condoms

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