I am a 23 year old virgin guy who has never kissed a girl. Is it too late for me?

[Anonymous]

I have no clue. Every girl 18+ is way more experienced relationship wise and sexually I guess want guys who are just as experienced as them in both fields. Do I even stand a chance now lol. I've had my chances in high school and even had a chance with 1 of the hottest girls in the school who was a cheerleader BUT almost my whole life has been dealt with being c*** blocked by my parents. They never let me out much in high school since they are 1 of those strict conservative Indian parents. Never gave me a car when I wanted 1 till I graduated HS. And after high school my dad was willing to pay for me to study in India so I'm in my last year now. I haven't done anything here because I go to a college where girls are so conservative that they don't even hug you if they are your friend. Plus almost every single 1 of these girls so strongly believe in long term relationship that they have all had the same exact before since like 9th or 10th grade of high school. And I don't know any people outside the college here. I do go back home to Detroit every summer but I just chill with my friends because it's only 2 months so I don't have a chance to really go out with a girl since my stay is always just temporary. Plus I don't have the player mentality like most of my friends and just sleep around with any girl while either drunk or high because that whole scene kinda disgusts me. So tell me girls. Do I have a chance with girls being 23 and inexperienced in today's society or is it too late? Because I've told girls before that I've never even kissed a girl before and their reaction was either fake way of being nice or just an expression of me as a loser. Which I clearly believe I'm not considering I'm not that desperate. Because I know guys who get some are way more desperate than me. But ya it's depressed to me that I've never had the right opportunity to get with a girl due to my circumstances. I hope you all read this and reply to my situation with an honest opinion. Whether it is the good, the bad, or the ugly. Cuz after I'm done I'll be going back to US to study 2 more years there and I'm afraid no girls would talk to me and think I don't know what the hell I'm doing due to lack of experience. This scares me lol. So tell me. Would any of you girl ever give a guy who's in the same shoes as me a chance? Or you girls prefer sexually experienced guys and all?

[animegirl]

I totally disagree with the other girls answer saying the girl will think you're a loser. That's BS. There's lots of girls out there who'd rather date a virgin than a guy with lots of experience with lots of girls because that means one thing... they're a whore! No one wants a womanizer!

Don't lie to the girl about the fact you haven't kissed a girl before, she might even find it cute. There's plenty of guys out there that have been virgins til they got married. It's nothing to be ashamed of at all! Infact I think it's good that you've waited until you matured and spent time on your own... A lot of people make the mistake of getting into relationships too young when they're still emotionailly growing up.

Look at me for example.. I'm a girl who's currently in a relationship with a guy whos 24 that's only ever been in one relationship. Before that I was with a guy who had slept with over 10 girls and he was 21! I think a lot of girls would rather be with someone whos slept with less people because you can always teach a dog new tricks ;)!

My boyfriend was still quite clueless with sex, he just did ordinary positions which was boring but once I figured out that he wasn't really experienced I took the reigns and showed him lots of new things. Now we have an awesome sex life.

So there's two things you can find..

1) A Girl who's just as unexperienced so you can learn together, figure out what you both like etc.../ Or a girl who's slept with little people and hasn't really experienced alot.

2) A Girl who is experienced that will show you the way.

No girl is gonna be like "Omg I can't believe you don't know how to have sex" ...By the time you get on to having sex she'll already have feelings for you through dating etc... so she's gonna be helpful and reassuring.

Really, there's a lot of hope for you. Work on your confidence as a person then go out there and find her. There's girls that would kill to be with a man who has no past experience with other girls/stories about his exes...

[Asker]

Really. I hope you are right. Because whenever I've told a girl about this they looked at me like I was some kind of a joke usually.

[dreamtime]

Girls look at it differently then guys, this pretty much sums it up as long as your looking for a relationship and aren't looking for one night stands, it shouldn't be an issue.

[donnie]

You do stand a chance! Be confident with yourself. In my own opinion, I think its better if you will not tell the girls that you haven't kissed someone yet. There are girls who don't like loser type guys. I mean, they will think that you're a loser and girls mostly like guys with a strong personality. Do something when you study again. Date some girls. If there's a will there a way.

[Asker]

I guess but I like being honest about everything. And I'm not ashamed of who I am but if that's the case then I guess I might not bring it up or if she asks a question about my past then maybe I might have to lie? I don't even know.

[donnie]

You don't have to bring it up. That's the safest why. However if someone asks about it, go tell her the truth. I like your personality though. You're not ashamed to show your real self. That's good!

[Asker]

Well I won't bring it up for sure then. But if a girl brings up my past relationships then maybe being truthful is also not an option if that could get in my way of being with a girl I like.

[donnie]

Its up to you. I think that is not really vital that everything will go wrong once you will not tell her. :D

[Jonny_]

If being inexperienced is the problem don't bring it up... If they ask you'd have to be honest and tell them, otherwise if it's making problems don't bring it up. I was in the same situation when I was turning 18, might not be 'as bad' since I was younger, but most other guys had at least kissed a girl back then. I don't think experience even helps most guys I've had ex's who'd been with guys who slept with everyone and they've told me they were still clueless about basic things and they didn't enjoy it at all.

[21iun]

don't ask girls about this because they're hypocritical... neither are in a relationship with a guy in your situation yet they gonna say things like "girls love guys like you"..

and to answer your question no its not too late because your only 23 and life is too unpredictable

[21iun]

and ps i'm 23 myself and never kissed a girl so i know where your coming from... i understand you better than anyone.