Guys how would you feel if your girlfriend didn't shave her legs?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is being kind of annoying. I do care about him and I know he cares about me a lot but he will bring it up sometimes. When we first met I was wearing jeans you know and he pretty much just saw my overall appearance and it was all you're so beautiful it hurts and stupid sh*t like that. Now that he knows I don't shave my legs he'll say things like, you're beautiful but...have you thought about shaving yet? you might like it. My mother raised me to embrace everything about my body. She was a feminist hippie and I loved that about her. I always felt so proud to be a girl and happy while my friends were insecure and constantly trying to change their bodies. I don't agree with everything she taught me but this is one of the things I loved. I think beauty standards for girls tend to be pretty sexist. my boyfriend doesn't shave his legs, so I don't see why he is pressuring me to shave mine. he isn't mean, don't get me wrong. but I think it turns him off to be getting so serious with someone who doesn't shave her legs. I guess I've dated pretty much hippie type guys in the past so I'm used to guys not being that scared of a more natural female body. now I'm dating a guy who I really care about but doesn't like the natural look. so lame. :( Guys how would you feel? do you think you would eventually break up with her because of it being a turn off?

[NotsoGirlyGirl]

Okay so I am a girl with both leg hair and arm hair (not ARMPIT, forearm) and I have never shaved before. I also don't wear make-up and I only recently started wearing jewelry and doing my nails (like within the last year and a half). Personally... I just think there are so many expectations for girls and it feels so overwhelming sometimes. I grew up with two older brothers and all they had to do was put on some clothes, deodorant and some nice cologne! Meanwhile in school (and I went to an all girl's school) everybody was talking make-up and shaving and jewelry and what type of bras and what hairstyle and nails and all sorts of things and I just felt so... pressured. That I had to learn all these things and do all these things and buy all these things. Now it was also a uniformed Catholic school so I got by without actually having to be asked, do you have this outfit/accessory/make-up etc. I just kept thinking, what was the point of all that? Fancy up every day or boys won't like you was the message basically. So you do all that stuff and hope that he doesn't catch you on a bad hair day/without makeup/unshaven or something? You're basically hiding what you look like completely natural for a fake version of yourself! Really the only reason I started with the jewelry was because I think it's pretty and I think doing nail art is fun. Basically if I myself don't want to, why do I feel pressured by society to do so? I've worn make-up like once or twice so far in my life, when I went to prom and when I got a free makeup job from a makeup artist. I LIKE having arm and leg hair and I don't WANT to have to keep shaving and primping and doing all these things for the rest of my life until I'm too old for anyone to care. I say, if someone can't like me the way I was born and I have to CHANGE for them to like me then well guess I'll be forever alone! Just be yourself and be happy. If you can't be happy without changing yourself to please others then shave it I guess!

[saphirasilverwings]

This is definitely a double standard. Women naturally have less body hair than men, so having less is perceived as more feminine... But people forget that they are still suppose to have SOME. Women are mammals too. Every human being has hair everywhere on their outer skin except the palms of their hands and the soles of their feet. I understand that everyone will have different preferences, but think it's really judgmental and harsh for someone to call female body hair gross or ugly. It's just as natural as male body hair and it's there for a reason. I do shave but it's an enormous pain- sometimes literally. Because of fashion trends men have started to really take women removing their body hair for granted.

Guys, if you prefer less body hair, go ahead and appreciate it when a girl removes it. But please don't take the hours of time and the money she puts into doing that for you for granted. And please don't call something natural gross. To me that's out of line. There is no context for it. Women are meant to have body hair, and if you don't like it YOU'RE the deviation from what's natural.

Sorry this is really a rant more than answering your question :p I hope you don't mind.

[saphirasilverwings]

It's like calling a tomatoe gross for being red when it's supposed to be red. It just doesn't make sense.

[saphirasilverwings]

You can prefer unripe green tomatoes.. But that doesn't make the red ones "gross".

[maggie123]

So true!! Hair is both on males and females. Sure males have more of it but that doesn't mean females have none. We do. Its genetic no matter what. I've got tiny/fine hairs below my knuckles and on my big toe. You can't really see them but because society days girls shouldn't have them... I do shave them. Girls have hair on their body, its to protect the skin and because we are mammals! hahaha yeah, so no worries. I think you should do what you want and what you like. Embrace femininity how you like!

[Asker]

Lol its fine because everything you said is true.

[Anna19]

So true. I shave and wax too but it takes so much time and pain to remove all the 'unwanted' hair. And like you said it's expensive too and most guys really don't appreciate it, actually I'm kinda surprised by the guys who siad they wouldn't mind, because most guys I've been with were allergic to hair

[toulouse]

Saphirasilverwings - thanks fir actually making a logical argument :) Opinions are fine but its good to have a concrete foundation, so we can all be on the same page:)

[saphirasilverwings]

You're welcome :) I think a lot of guys don't think about how much effort it can be to remove that much hair (our legs are much bigger than your faces, gentlemen) or how much money a trip to the salon for a wax or the drugstore for a new razor can actually cost. Take it from a poor college student, toiletries can actually be a surprising strain on the wallet. I hate that I'm EXPECTED to do that in order to avoid being called gross. I wish guys would act like it was something special when a girl

[saphirasilverwings]

Goes to all that trouble instead of something negative when she doesn't.

[faraday]

Redtube.com

[saphirasilverwings]

Why are you giving me the address of a p*rn site?

[human_condition]

Guys that are saying "It's not my fault, I just don't find hairy legs attractive!" Are missing one huge point.

You don't find them attractive, because you have been tempered by society to not find them attractive. Just like you allegedly prefer skinny girls with C-D cup boobs, and just like girls allegedly prefer more muscular men.

Men also used to find it unattractive when women had jobs, or played 'unfeminine' instruments (such as anything in the brass family), or spoke out of turn. In the 1600s it was being debated whether women even had souls.

Why are you making yourselves bend to what society has taught you? My boyfriend is intelligent enough to think for himself on these issues, why can't anyone else (save a few) on this site?

QA, if this guy breaks up with you over something as small as leg hair, you obviously deserve better. I wouldn't stay with any man who asked me to put more effort into looking like how society wants me to look. If he wants a clone, he should just come to this site and pick one.

[Chocobo93]

Well put, my friend.

[drpinky]

Well that's all fine and good and totally your perogative to do what you want. However when you are in a relationship it is often not just about your own wants. If he had a sasquatch back and it wasn't pleasant for you to see and you asked him to shave it do you think he would?

the other thing is women wish shaved legs is more or less a societal norm, maybe that's not something people care about but it's there. You should understand that while you may have had an outside the box upbringing, and nothing wrong with that, that others grew up with ideas that are different and that have shaped how they think now.

I can say that it would bother me, I don't think I would break up about it, it would plant some seeds though. As I think it is a very small thing to do, and if she won't give me something small like this (again in my mind it is small) then how will we handle future issues that are potentially more serious down the line.

Maybe it isn't the same thing but I always have had a beard or goatee since I was like 16 and I dated a girl who was honest with me and said she didn't like it because it itched and scratched her face, her mentioning that to me alone was enough for me to make myself look like a muppet for the first time since I was 15. I hated the way I looked but at that time and moment it wasn't about me. Of course as soon as she cheated on me and I ended it I went all Grillzy Adams for a while :D

[denyfortunes]

Shaving is overrated, especially shaving the pubes (it doesn't feel better and I think it looks outright weird :P )

We're not hippies but my girlfriend doesn't shave and I love her for it. In a way it shows that she has the confidence to be herself, that she's not a slave to (literally) "impossible" beauty standards, and that she's "always" available for soft stubble free touching!

Beauty products try to sell girls on their "natural" beauty while secretly trying to get them to do "unnatural" habits...don't buy the hype!

[human_condition]

THIS! :)

[girlsguys99]

you're the coolest 19 year old everr!

[Chocobo93]

I love you

[denyfortunes]

I loove you , too! (kisses!)

[scbigmac07]

First thing is Men and Women are different. There are reasons why are bodies form differentyl, there are reasons why male bodies grow thicker/more hair. To equate the both of you shaving legs would not be the same.

Being feminine is not just about looks, it's about social, political, and economical equality.

I believe that shaved legs is a feminine quality, I believe that body hair in general is a masculine quality. I trim my pubic area purely out of common courtesy.

It's important to remember that you can appreciate yourself and still make changes to yourself. It was best said by June's 2008 Playmate Juliette Frette, "My identity-my identities-can be as fluid as I wish" It doesn't make you any less self-empowered or more insecure.

[Asker]

Your first comment makes no sense. shaving isn't about thicker or the amount of hair you have. its getting rid of it all together. men and women both have hair on their bodies naturally. to suggest eliminating hair is the same for either sex. the rest makes sense. I don't agree of course because as a rational person to say that something natural to a female body isn't feminine makes no sense to me but I can understand how you and most people buy into social ideas like "femininity."

[toulouse]

How much money do you make? If its not that much or less than anyone else, you should obviously give it up.. Its so clearly a sign from god you shouldn't have any money,.. since you have less..

[saphirasilverwings]

Having LESS hair is more feminine. Having NO hair is for reptiles and amphibians. Women NATURALLY have less hair, shaving isn't required for that.

[ZenSpace]

I think his point was that biological, if a girl has more hair, it makes us feel she looks like a man. And most of us straight men find naked men unattractive . So when a girl gets naked, and she is hairy, it reminds us of naked men and it spoils the mood. Its not fair, it may not even make sense. But we are wired that way.

[Mesonfielde]

Wired? It's what we LEARN.

[jussomerandomperson]

hahaha you should totally tell him ul shave urs if he shaves his hel nvr go for it + hel understand wer your comin from but good luck o by the way I think its totally awsome that you don't shave

u may find that some guys are jus not going to accept that you don't shave and ul jus have to decide wether are nt the relationship is woth it

[joshua1515]

one of the most things I like about a girl is her legs most girls shave and not to be mean or anything but to not to its kinda weird that's what boys do I think not shaving is a real turn down.but its not that bad to juast shave to make your boyfriend happy I mean its only like 5 min in the shower to shave

[MrVashMan]

Do you really want to find out if he would eventually break up with you if you didn't shave your legs? Seriously...just shave your legs. It's not that hard, and you may even end up liking the way it feels. It's not like hair doesn't grow back. Guys shave their body hair sometimes for certain things, like swimming competitions...or certain parts if a girl wants them to. You've got nothing to lose except leg hair for a temporary amount of time. Just Do It.

-this message has been brought to you by Nike.

[Darkdemonoflite]

Are you serious? Soo you going to incourage someone to go against they feelings to make a man happy? also sometime the hair doesn't grow back, or it will grow back in patches, or two hairs from one folicle

[MrVashMan]

Don't get you panties all up in a bunch. Yes, I'm seriously encouraging her to try something different. There's really no harm in trying it. Guys are so used to their own hairy legs that it's just normal and unattractive. And....that last part you added....gross. Good reason to stay on top of shaving them, don't you think?

[Dingismaximus]

can't love someone without humility but neither can someone love without acceptance, if there is a good reason he wants you to shave that's more than just looks then perhaps do it but if not he should accept you for who you are

[Chocobo93]

That is the cutest display picture I've ever seen. <3

[Shirahime]

I pretty much have everything from the neck down waxed off but that only happens maybe twice a year. Any other time I just leave it an never shave mainly because I have skin conditions and shaving makes my skin all angry and irritated. My fancy man is particularly hairy and I love it on him. He puts off shaving and having massive amounts of hair cut off cause he knows I like it. And he's not really that bothered about my hair situation either, but he does appreciate when I wax.

[Zonnia]

I actually really, really like the idea. Totally natural, a real human. The way people think of beauty in a woman is VERY distorted. I wished I'd been raised by a mom who taught me to embrace my body as it is. I think its lovely! :D If he doesn't like it, then screw him. Go date another hippie instead!

[jessicaga89]

^agreed. I'm jealous of your upbringing, wish I had been brought up to be totally comfortable with myself too

[Julia_Dorst]

It's not that big of a deal to shave your legs right? What if he would grow a beard you really didn't think was sexy, he'd probably shave it off for you. In a relationship you do stuff for each other, compromise. If he has asked you multiple times, just do it for him.

If you don't like doing it every day or something just get a wax or something.

I was raised by a mother who's also all about embracing your body. But I still shave my legs, I didn't used to but when I started dating I figured out that guys like it more. So no big deal, I don't doe it every day or something. When I was still in a relationship I used to do it when I knew he would see my legs and when we wouldn't see each other I would just not shave my legs.

Good luck!

[Asker]

No I'm sorry I can't do that but you know everybody is different

[nicelilsprout]

Yay! I'm happy to see that other girls don't shave their legs...I haven't shaved mine in a year and a half:) My husband says that he doesn't care, and that he likes it. But, then again, I'm a blond and my hairs are so light, you wouldn't even be able to tell if you weren't looking eye-to-hair :P Also, I don't shave my armpits, I just trim. If that guy can't appreciate what a woman is, then maybe you should start asking him when he's going to shave, and if he does shave, just tell him he doesn't look very human anymore. I think people have wondered so far away from their true nature, they have forgotten what is it to be human.

[saphirasilverwings]

I agree. Why can't people just be human beings for heaven's sake? Our culture is so distorted.

[nicelilsprout]

Well, as long as the media controls our population, humans will always be brainwashed robots. If people weren't so loaded on self image, they would be able to break free from such a burden. I'm glad I broke out of that sh*t when I was in high school. I definitely took a step up towards evolution, not back 5 steps.

[human_condition]

You're absolutely right, I don't get why idiots have voted this down

[nicelilsprout]

Whatever...they can suck a d***

[deadhead92]

I may not be the norm, but I've always liked the idea.. If you never shave there's no stubble. I feel for girls in general as far as all the upkeep goes.. I get tired of shaving my face! I'd hate to have to shave all the other places.. So no I don't think I'd break up over not shaving.. I don't wanna do it either!

[CryingBeth]

yea most guys get turned off by hairy legs..

[phil2]

i don't understand why girls have to and guys don't. I really try to get my guy to shave and he won't but it's not like I will make him or dump him. its not that big of a deal. My guy never asks me to shave, I do it on my own though

[thatoneguy5001]

Honestly... if I were your boyfriend I'd start shaving my legs just because SOMEBODY in the relationship needs to be smooth. :)

I guess I don't understand why you think the beauty standards are sexist... they can be pretty nasty in both directions, IMHO. Yes, it's difficult for a woman to stay thin. It's difficult for men, too. Eightteen inch arms and washboard abs aren't too easy to maintain either. I honestly think that the beauty standards for both genders are about equal - but women tend to be less visual than guys, or so says science at least, meaning that the beauty standards are probably less important in your overall attraction level, as opposed to the male. You might also take into account that body hair, in most cultures worldwide, is associated with manliness. To the degree you are hairy, you might be reminding him of a man, at least subconsciously. Given your outlook on life I don't really expect you to accept my arguments, but they're there.

I don't know if I'd break up with her. That would depend on how hairy she was, I suppose, and how into her I was. I guess it depends on the dude.

[Mayflower95]

I've been with my guy for a while, and though I do shave, I tend to let it grow over the winter months. he's seen me with plenty of hair on them, and it doesn't bother him. he's not a hippie, either. stick to your guns, you don't need to shave to be happy, ha ha ;)

[AlmostAsylum]

Do what makes you feel good. If he doesn't like that or starts Really pressuring you about it, you'll know he's not the one. If you don't want to shave, don't feel as if you have to (especially for someone else) but you may want to meet him half-way (ie, try shaving maybe a small patch of your hair or just your armpits or something like that, see if you like it that way. At least you can say you tried).

[ZenSpace]

Hair on a girls body is a deal breaker and turn off. Gross.

I just can't handle it, it makes me feel sick. Like sick to my stomach sick, like I might throw up.

You're right, its totally unfair and a sexist standard of beauty. I get all the arguments that say women should not be forced to shave. Everything you siad makes logical sense, I can't argue against it. But how I feel is not a choice, its just a gut reaction. Just as I find certain smells gross, I find the sight of a hairy girl gross. I feel it in my gut.

Now, if a girl wants to be hairy that's fine with me! Girls can do whatever they want, I do not think they should change just to suite my desires. Its your life and you can do whatever you want. More power to you. But I get to make choices to, and I would never choose to date a hairy girl. its a personal preference.

That's probably not what you want to hear, but its the truth.

[Asker]

I want to hear honest opinions even if I don't agree with them. just kind of getting the hint that I might need to go back to the hippies lol

[alexajade30]

At least you know and respect both sides. Thanks

[bjs09]

I think this was an awesome answer. "Now, if a girl wants to be hairy that's fine with me! Girls can do whatever they want, I do not think they should change just to suite my desires. But I get to make choices to, and I would never choose to date a hairy girl. its a personal preference." Can't argue with that.

[toulouse]

I don't like hair on guys, I won't date a guy who is hairy, I don't find it any less repulsive on a guy, nor do I think anyone is SUPPOSED to shave- just as you say- a preference, But lots of guys are naturally not very hairy so its possible to date people who don't have to shave,If you don't like hair- I'm sure its like that with women too,

[RabidRabbit]

While it may be a minor visual turn off at times (e.g. when she were to have on a skirt), hairy legs would in no way be a deal breaker.

The only area I have ever asked my girlfriend if she minded shaving, was the crotch. Partly out of curiosity, but largely to make going down on her a nicer experience for me.

I know how much of a pain it is to do (having shaven my own for similar reasons), so would not be deliberately critical if she didn't.

That you have the level of confidence with your body to do with it what you wish, added to the benefits of the "hippy" stereotype like not having to wait for 2 hours while you got dressed up, would be a winner in my book.

[huntusa]

One answer to your questions:..

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww..Yuckkyyyyyyyyyy

[xoblondieox]

Girl shave your legs cus it's nast if you don't! If you want to be an animal ditch the boyfriend and pee in a bush

[Chocobo93]

Disrespectful much?

[xoblondieox]

Nah it's just common sense...so nice talkin to ya

[Tomboy]

I didn't shave my legs till this summer and I am 17 but I am also asian... barely noticible most people doesn't even know that I didn't shave xD But I started cause it makes my skin less dry ( dry = itchy ) and also it makes it a lot smoother... I am weird in the fact that after I shave I like to rub my legs against each other cause it seels smooth... I t is your choice to shave if you want to and your boyfriend should just get used to you the way you wanna be =)