How do you go about giving head for the first time?

I've been dating this guy for a little over 2 months now and I want to give him head, but I've never done it before. We've made out, he's fingered me, I've given him hand jobs, but I've never had the guts to give him head. I'm so nervous that I'm going to do something wrong and embarrass myself. I need advice on what to do when you give head for a complete beginner. No fancy stuff, just the basic blow job. Would it help if I did it after a few drinks so I'm more relaxed? How do I even initiate it without it being awkward? Once I'm down there do I just put it in my mouth or what? Eye contact? Its kind of embarrassing to be asking this but I'm so clueless! Any help is very very appreciated!


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  • Well, you can try this, it is going to blow his mind:

    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ----> link

    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

    Good luck


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What Guys Said 2

  • try looking it up online there is a how to website that tells you step by step on how. or watch a porno with him and then when he is watching go down town it will give you tips and distract him some so you can learn and listen to what way feels good for him and you

  • Suck it. watch the teeth, hold or rub on the balls. you should be fine as long as you don't bite. take it in and out of your mouth, also lick on it and the balls.

    guys like when you look at them, it turns us on to see you. were visual when it comes to sex.


What Girls Said 3

  • I've been going with my boyfriend for over 6 months and we've done the same things you'd done but I've never given him heat yet either but I plan to soon. Well he's given me wonderful oral really good for the past almost 5 month. I'm clueless too. haha! I have a girl I just recently met that's giving me some good tips. She seems to be so good at it like it's so natural for her. Hopefully you'll get some sood advice on here but if I were you, I'd read through a lot of answers on this site pertaining to the subject and message one of the girls that seems to be good at it. Maybe she'll help you too. Now that I met her I can't wait to suck my guy off. Good luck!

  • I think eye contact is good. I remember when I first gave head, it was in the dark, so I could do no wrong as far as he knew. But really it just happened after we were making out, and I was on top of him. After a while he was kissing me all over my neck, then I just put my hand down his pants. I rubbed him up, then tongued him down. It happened very 'naturally'. I didn't plan it, we wanted it, and we just went with it. I actually enjoyed it a lot because he didn't expect it, and I was giving him something he wanted that he didn't even have to ask for. I just went for it. The next time you are with him, just go with the flow. Don't push yourself down there, don't force it on yourself. It, for me at least, happened just because I was in the moment, and it felt right. Sounds corny, right? Sorry ;-p. But seriously, just do what you want to it, or ask him what he wants done to it. Just make it something you both enjoy. Have fun.

  • Start with making out and him fingering you. Then give him a hj using one hand curled around his @$&% going up and down applying different pressures then. Lean over and lick it like a Lolipop once or twice. While giving him a hj suck each of his balls and glide your toungye in figure 8's over each one. Or skip that step and go straight to sucking his $&@%! Fit your mouth over his d*** and curl your hand around it in a fist below your mouth for extra pleasure pressure. Go up and down bringing it farther in your mouth each time. Go fast then slow then fastaking sure you make eye contact sometimes. Occasionalt give your self a break and lick the balls and head part. Let him caresses your head or hair. Then continue. When he is about to go, he will moan and jerk a little. Hold the d*** onto your tongue and make a show of licking and swallowing his ***! Guys lve a show! Hope of goes well!

    • Sorry I didn't really read your question. Fir a begginer, just relax and do what I said. That will make any guy melt. And make sure you look up into his eye and lick your lips or somethng. Nothing tastes bad so don't believe what ya hear! Gl:) my first time was great!