Is making out and feeling each other up okay when dating?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating this guy for a month and a few days now, (we are both in our early 20's) everything is going really great. We started making out after the 2nd week and that's as far as we've gone for awhile until the 1 month mark. I've met his friends and we are always out together, holding hands, kissing etc in front of everyone and anyone (we aren't ashamed to show we are dating). But a couple days ago on the 1 month mark, he asked if I wanted to sleep over his house because his parents would be away and I was a little worried about it only because I wasn't sure if you should do something like that before being official, but I knew we wouldn't have sex or anything so I agreed. I already told him I refuse to have sex unless we have been in a official boyfriend girlfriend relationship for a little while, and he has never pressured me at all about it or anything I'm uncomfortable with for that matter, and so that night the farthest we went was heavy making out, dry humping and feeling each other over our clothes, it was intense foreplay basically (he talked a little dirty (nothing inappropriate, just typical "does that feel good?" "whispered my name" etc.) and made me moan when feeling me down there (sorry to put so much detail lol but I want good answers to this question!), do you think that it was too soon after a month to be doing that? I'm not sure if I am over thinking this or if I should be worried. I also met his parents a few days after the sleepover also and they were really great, and we had the "talk" at the 1 month mark (the day I slept over) and he asked me if I was ready for a relationship and I said yes, and he said he really wants to also, thinks I'm amazing, etc. but just wants to take it slow still and make sure this is what we both want and to just have an amazing time like we have been on our dates, so whenever we decide to go out we will. I'm a little more anxious to be in a relationship I feel like than him, but a month isn't really a long time I guess. But he always says I cannot wait to go on all these trips with you, and go on these dates with you, and I'll be a great girlfriend, and he likes me so much etc. But that's basically my question, did we go too far at the 1 month mark? And when should I have the talk with him again about being official?

[Anonymous]

You didn't say how many dates you have been on but it sounds like you have been really honest with one another and it sounds like you are not moving too fast, and it is hard to not want to fool around with someone you really like . You both obviously like one another a lot.. and it seems like you found a really nice guy who wants a relationship with you... sounds like he wants to make it official so yeah ask him next time you see him .. just bring it up casually... Good Luck

[Asker]

Thank you, we went on a bunch of dates, probably at least 10 I would say, we hung out like 2x every week! thanks for the advice!

[abbabba]

I don't think that was too far at all, especially after 1 month. The next time you should talk to him about being official is the next time you see him in person. That way, it's a lot more genuine and easier to get through.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice, I was probably just over analyzing the situation, I have a tendency to do that sometimes!

[Guile]

Sex is an instinctive animal behavior just becuase we call our selves humans doesn't mean we aren't animals so no you didn't go too far waht you feel at the time is what you felt that made you do things so your fine!

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice, I feel a lot better about this now!