Does this make a guy gay or bisexual?

[Anonymous]

When he was 4 or 5 he didn’t think about girls until a girl asked him if he wanted to “do it”, he said yes and they tried with clothes on & it felt good. After that he did think about girls. He never found them attractive though. In elementary school he had crushes on girls who were tomboyish but he never found them attractive. He couldn’t tell a an average looking girl from a hot girl.

In middle school he had one crush on a tomboy. His friends were all talking about which girls they thought was hot & he wasn’t really into girls & didn’t know what made a girl hot.

Guys brought porn magazines to school and liked looking at them, he didn’t see the point, the girls weren’t appealing. He thought vaginas looked weird and nasty but he was attracted to the penis in the picture. He kept it a secret. When watching movies that had a “hot” scene with a girl he would get bored & skip it while his guy friends were thinking why skip when it’s the best part.

He started watching internet porn a couple years later, he tried watching straight porn but wasn’t into it. After a while a jacking off to it he could get turned on by girls bodies. His porn habits effected what he found attractive in real life. When his porn habits changed, what he found attractive in real life changed with it. After that he started finding “some” girls attractive. It would change depending on the porn he was into.

In high school thinking of hooking up with a girl felt repulsive while thinking of it with a guy felt natural. He was into girls when only when he was horny. The guys he was attracted to he liked even when not horny.

He liked two girls from HS to college & they were girls with straight guy personalities. He realized at 21 that seeing himself in a relationship with a man felt natural and right while seeing himself with a girl was repulsive, same thing with hooking up. After feeling how natural it felt being with a man, he never liked another girl, it feels like a close friendship not a crush

[Richareens]

After reading, I’d say that person (you) may most likely be gay. If having a relationship with a man felt natural for you, I’d say trust your instincts.

[LittleMissSassyyy]

He is gay but is not comfortable with this so he is trying to change it. He can’t change his biological make up. So he needs to accept himself

[Anonymous]

He could be bisexual with a preference for men. That's a thing.

[Asker]

Does it change if he's repulsed by the way girls smell and is either indifferent or attracted to the way guys smell?

[Opinion Owner]

Does going past first base with a girl disgust him? If so, he might be gay, if not he might have a very strong preference for men. But this potentially homosexual guy could easily be trying to convince himself he still likes girls because society tells him to, when in actuality he just doesn't see them in that way.

[Asker]

“ But this potentially homosexual guy could easily be trying to convince himself he still likes girls because society tells him to, when in actuality he just doesn't see them in that way. “ This is what it seems like. He is disgusted doing anything past 1st base with a girl unless he is horny, then afterword he feels disgusted about what he just did.

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like he's forcing himself to like girls, honestly. I hope he can eventually accept himself and not give a flying f*ck about what society brainwashes people into thinking is right. It makes sense that he wouldn't mind going further with a girl if he's horny though. I mean, it feels good when someone touches you. He's very likely gay by what I've picked up on.

[ImagineSketchy]

Homosexual.

[Asker]

What makes him gay? I just want to see the explainations on everyone’s answers.

[ImagineSketchy]

The fact he's repulsed by the opposite sex and he can see himself with the same sex sexually and romantically.

[fauchelevent]

Sounds gay to me.

[Asker]

What makes it gay? I just want to see the reasoning.

[fauchelevent]

It seems like he forced himself to be attracted to women by repeatedly jacking off to them, like arousal through exposure? He wasn't naturally attracted to girls, he had to push himself to feel that. Girls were only a last resort, the idea of them wasn't pleasant, it was repulsive. After being with a man and taking the time to fully understand his feelings, he realised that was the right way for him. Nothing about it sounds straight. I'm bi and I don't think it particularly aligns with any experience I've had nor any of the bi people I know so I'd lean towards gay, where we know there have been a bunch of examples of gay men forcing themselves to be with women for various reasons.

[Asker]

What about that lingering feeling he has for some girls who have the same personality traits he likes in men? once he experienced what it was like being with a man, he never liked a tomboy again, in comparasion the same feelings he felt for those tomboys before his experience with a man now doesn’t feel like he likes them or wants to commit anymore, but that same feeling he feels now with some tomboys feels like it means something else. He wouldn’t want to date them ever, it would just feel completely empty like it’s missing something & unappealing. He feels relaxed and happy around her, he likes cuddling with her, kissing her feels natural. He doesn’t want sexual contact unless he's horny. If he imagines himself with a guy he’s attracted to with her personality & the guy interacting with him just as she did, it felt like it’s everything he wanted, everything that felt like it was missing before is there. He would love to get in a relationship with the guy. It seems weird I know.

[Asker]

That’s what makes it hard for him to tell if he’s gay or bisexual with a strong preference for masculine traits. He doesn’t know if those lingering feelings he had for the girl versions of the guys he likes is natural or if it’s a result of childhood experiences and pressure to try to be straight.

[fauchelevent]

Still sounds like he's gay. He likes those traits but he wants them in a man, that sounds totally normal. I mean, there's all sorts of stuff that people identify as like bi with a very strong preference to men maybe or I think maybe someone in the same situation might consider themselves biromantic and heterosexual but I think tat's a little inaccurate and a little convoluted. I really just think he's gay

[Asker]

The best I came up with including the branches of asexuality was homosexual , homoromantic, demiheterosensual & heteroaesthic. I say sensual , the specific kind of sensual contact (not sexual, basically kissing, cuddling, holding hands, etc.) which is what I feel, but I don’t want a romantic partnership so biromantic doesn’t quite fit. I feel “some” feelings that are felt with romantic attraction, it’s just not enough to want a real romantic partnership , so I feel it doesn’t count as real romantic attraction. I also say heteroaesthetic because aesthetic attraction is feeling of appreciation for ones beauty without necessarily being attracted to them. It’s what I feel when I see pretty girls that look like the girl version of my taste in guys. Come to think of it, those are the only girls I can look at & know their attractive without anyone telling me girls like them are. The guy version of them I’m really attracted to. This assumes what I feel towards girls was “real”. Or I’m gay.

[Anonymous]

Asexual

[Asker]

How does this make him asexual as opposed to bisexual or gay?