Why can't my boyfriend keep it hard?

[Sweetums4362]

I met an older man about 6 months ago. He's 48 and I'm 26. It's the most wonderful relationship I've ever been in. There's only one problem .. he can't keep it up! I knew this from the get go. The first time we ever fooled around it was limp the whole time. Occasionally, he is able to get it hard enough for us to have sex, most of the time it's just not happening though. He gets very angry when it goes limp ... and just sits around and pouts. I ask him what in the hell is wrong.. and he says "here I have this beautiful 26 year old knockout and I can't take care of her. How long until you find it else where?" I'm just kinda confused... If he thinks I'm that hot... why can't he keep it up? It makes me feel like its me.. or that I'm doing something wrong. I tell him it's OK when this happens.. but secretly it's not OK! I'm 26 and I WANT SEX! His SEX! He's taking medication for blood pressure and he thinks that is the problem. He's been to the Dr and got cialis.. and it worked for a minute.. he has to take 20 mg for it to do anything. I love him to death, but this is a big issue for me! HELP! I don't know what to do! My mouth is getting very tired!

[peachykeenlove]

if he's on a beta blocker (metoprolol, propanolol, anything that ends in "lol"), a MAJOR side effect is impotence which occurs in the majority of men... which is the only reason why he can't keep it up. the nurse should have told him this. but if he's taking a med for his bp, then obviously he has some modifiable risk factors that need to change... like is he overweight, doesn't exercise, high cholesterol? he needs to fix these so he can get off this med and not have problems with keeping it up.

[peachykeenlove]

smoking and drinking too much alcohol will definitely raise cholesterol which will raise bp. he needs to include more fish, nuts and protein in his diet and cut back on the smoking and drinking.

[Anonymous]

Have they checked his testosterone level? That could be an issue.

[Sweetums4362]

Yes, everything was fine.

[dreamishobby]

i think it's not that...he gets angry when it gets LIMP!...it's vice a versa...HE gets nervous whether he'll b able to b hard or not and this tension itself knocks d erection down!...n then he gets angry which cozez further problem with erection! I also get normal erections but when I m tensed I cant!...it happens 2 all...

plus+...u have 2 see and consider his fitness and age as well...when you buy a new bike it runs smoothly but you can't xpect d same per4mance 4m a 10yr old bike!

[Anonymous]

Is he out of shape? Poor fitness contributes to this problem.

Is he stressed about life, work, money, etc? Stress is a big contributer to this problem. And when he "can't get it up" he stresses even more, making the problem worse.

If cialis isn't even working you should suggest he talk to his doctor about what they can try to overcome this problem.

[Longshot]

Causes include stress, anxiety, worries, work problems, psychological problems, other medical or health conditions, relationship problems with fmaily or friends -- it's a long list. he should seek help.

[foolycooly1001]

He's old. Tell him to go to the doctor

[joshuaty2010]

The mean concern about your issue is his age. He might need to take some supplement or other natural ways like taking up herbal or doing some male exercise like kegel.

[Marrryyyyy]

hes old, most guys start their decline at 35, I think

[dreamishobby]

ohh...that sounds bad!...i guess he should consult an andrologist!...only he might be able to help him medically...n think twice before taking any medicines...it may have side effects!

[johnniewalker69]

would you consider using a second man for your intimate time? its not uncommon in this type of situations.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to spray starch on it in the morning to keep the morning wood all day long.