I'm so horney, what should I do?

I don't believe in having sex before marriage. But I a so horney all the time. What can I do to satisfy myself? I'm like burning in passion :(
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  • Ok. Don't stick the vibrator up inside of you if you are still closed/ hymen in tact- Obviously this will cause pain. (You could alternatively use the vibrator on surface areas- there are actually a great deal of places you can stimulate, not just your clit or hole. Tho maybe not directly on your clitoris- direct pressure might be too much , as it is (likely) very sensitive.

    I can't really tell if you are OK with masturbation as you probably wouldn't be on here asking for a suggestion if you were. So you can either consciously use the sexual energy for other activities. *libido* is lust/ appetite for life, not just sex. So find activities that engage you and are stimulating, but not sexual for whenever you feel aroused- you'll end up brilliant at some other skill.. turn a liability into a strength , and wait till marriage if you want.

    OR if you are OK with playing with yourself, are get a book or check out the internet, on techniques to masturbate. Check out Ayurveda stuff as they keep it on a Spiritual and physical health level. There are like 101 moves that virgins can certainly do that won't hurt. While you are on this site, id advise to ignore the guys talking about ouding pus*ies & digging deep. Wrong. Not for you. Don't do it.

    Also don't listen to anything about cutting your hymen. If you want to stretch- it not tear it, we not in Medieval period no blood proof necessary) - you can do so gradually over time- GENTLY- with your own fingers... tho it sounds like you are waiting to share that part with your future husband?

    Well, if it hurts you that much just make sure he fingers you a lot first before sex - don't just have him plunge because it causes unnecessary pain, & some people experience none some a lot. (I think that's a major problem of' romantic' wedding nights with the completely untouched virgin, unless you break it by accident - it hurts alot)

    good luck :)

    • Thank you. This was the most informative answer I have received. I don't have a issue with masterbation itself, my problem was just using my own hands was not satisfying me. You made some great suggestions for a virgn, as I can't just buy a vibrator & penetrate myself. And you're right, I certainly don't want to cut my hymen. I'm waiting to share myself with my future husband. Thank you.

    • :-)

    • They do make vibrators that you do not need to enter into the Vajina.

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  • use a vibrator but it sounds like, from your response to evangelina, that your pu$$y is getting used to your hand...that's why it's critical that women alternate between hands and toys because they could get to a point where their guy can't get them off only toys can...maybe your vaj is used to your hand so it needs something more or you're used to using something else and you're trying your hand now and it's not working. I would get a vibrator, personally, I would get the hitachi magic wand...here's a link..that's umm..pretty graphic so watch yourself when you get on here but this toy I REALLY want. apparently, it's one of the strongest and I've seen this in a lottt of adult films.

    link

    • Thanks for making a great suggestion.

  • GIrl I am in the same position. Not that I have anything wrong with masterbation but it's just not for me. I work out more when it comes to the times in the month when I'm horny. It really helps and the rush of even more endorphins is a huge confidence boost. Good Luck!

Most Helpful Guys

  • Quite honestly if you don't believe in having sex before marriage you probably shouldn't even masturbate, as it's essentially having sex with yourself, but since it's not penetration the morals are iffy.

    But what works for me, I'm a guy so we're always ready, if you will, is too limit myself from things that arouse me as best I can. I try to refrain from p*rnography, television shows where the only reason I watch it is because it has a hot girl, and especially thoughts about doing the act with someone. If all else fails a cold shower. Basically stay away from sexual things. I know sometimes you won't be able to resist, but try to bear it out as long as possible, you'll find that waiting to masturbate makes it a lot more relieving. This will help get control of your urges. It worked for me.

    As for the whole experience thing, don't let anyone tell you bologna about it being important. If two people love each other, then there will be a long time to gain that experience with each other.

    • Thank you!

  • 25 to 29 and still a virgin, eh? I'm guessing it's for religious reason.

    Don't just give it up to any guy if you've waited for so long. I personally chose to wait until age 24 before giving it up. Try to find a guy with limited sexual experience as well, and odds are that you'll both enjoy a monogamous relationship for quite sometime.

    IMO the reason why some girls/guys cheat in relationships is because they've "gotten bored" because they started having sex at a younger age.

    If you're super horny and can't get off through masterbation, you might consider having oral, but waiting to have traditional intercourse. It's not immoral if it's only oral. :D

    I know of some Christian girls that are choosing to wait to have traditional sex until their wedding night, but have done either oral or anal and thus still consider themselves a virgin. Something to consider.

    • Thank you. You were right on about my reasons for waiting.

    • Then wait. If you're ideally wanting a "religious" guy for the long term he'll respect you more if you decided to wait for him, if he is of moral character. Keep in mind there might be a chance that he didn't wait, and you did.

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  • Masturbate. If you're saving yourself for marriage it's the only thing you CAN do to relieve the tension.

  • Masturbate.

  • at 35 to 29 you'd think you would know the clear answer to this question.People are getting dumber and dumber by the day

    • It doesn't work :(

    • Um....have you tried vaginal or clitoral?

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  • rub one out love!

    • I need help tonight

  • first things first, learn how to spell 'horny'

    • Horny

  • Masterbate.

  • When in doubt masturbate.

    You worship a false god. Go have sex... (just my opinion, no reason to start a holy war. Do what you belive in)

    Or surpress it.

    Those are your options.

    Deathecutioner

    • I don't worship a false God, but thanks for the advice anyway.

  • You might give some thought to masturbating yourself. It is very common you know!

  • You're an at least a 25 year old virgin? You've missed out on many years of fun, learning and experience of pleasing a man behind closed doors. What are you doing to prepare for your wedding night...reading about it?

    • Yeah, I read a lot on it, it is a litle frusterating to do be able to try anything out in person. I watch a lot movies, but they are not always that accurate. I actually think I'd be pretty good at pleasing a man, but just haven't found anyone. Until then, I'm just losing my mind, lol.

    • Some things can only be studied and read about so far and one realizes that doing it is the only way to learn. After at least 25 years of not finding a 'special' candidate, I suggest it's time to pick a good friend and give him a treat.

    • Sorry, it is agaist my beliefs. And I'm very confident in my abilities.

  • Masturbation most likely.

  • wow... I didn't know a girl can be horny like that but anyways get a vibrator it will get the job done ... also you'd fullfill all my fantasies if id ever had a girlfriend and a girlfriend that's like this...also id have sex before marriage if she will get married to me eventually but soon...also she will have to be on birth control too... I don't want kids... also to me if I had sex its like a tie maker just like marriage ... also just curious what's getting you turned on so bad : )

    • I've just always been so horny. I think part of it is because I don't have sex & I just want to try it. The more I go without it, the more I want it. I'm beginning to really appreciate the male body & wish someone would share themselves with me. But the truth is, I can't have sex till marriage. Everyone told me masturbate on her, but it isn't enough. I can't use a vibrator because I'm a virgin, & that will hurt, you see. But thanks for the suggestion. I think I just need a cold shower.

    • I wonder if girls can ask there doctor if she can sergicaly cut the hymen so sex won't hurt a girl later in life in the simular way guys get cercumsized ..... even though you are a virgin sex will hurt if you don't figure out your own body first I quess that's a reason why guys want to finger there girlfriends its probaby a instinct to pop the charry before accual sex so it don't hurt I've always wonder why I want to do that to a girl its just id love to do that its too bad "I" can't help you lol

    • Also you don't really have to wait till marriage just as long as the guy is trustworthy etc and you still end up getting married sooner a later if I had sex with a girl before marriage to me its like a tie maker and just like getting married etc ill always stick with her but ill only give in to sex if she's loyal to only me etc .also do you even masturbate cause its dumb not to you'll never like sex if you never pleasered yourself first.... hope this also helps

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  • You can masturbate 2 yourself..

  • masturbate, or do other things with a partner besides have sex, oral sex and stuff

  • masturbate!...or you can try cybersex!...or if you have a bf...u both can satisfy your urges w/o having "Sex"!

  • Find a clean, trustworthy guy, make sure he wears a condo, enjoy. Get the first time out of the way so when you find the guy you really want you can enjoy each other without qualms.

    If you don't trust any guys, have dad or brother or cousin slip the latex on and slip it to ya...

  • You should use vibrator.

  • Get yourself a really good toy…

  • Self pleasuring is the safest th in ng to do - its great

  • Rub one out

  • just go to church and pray...

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