Guys: Too many sexual partners---does their sex make a difference?

[selfishstars]

There are a lot of guys out there who wouldn't want to be with a girl who has had "too many" sexual partners in the past. For the guys who feel this way, does the sex of the people she's been with make a difference in how you feel? In a different question, someone said that more than 6 partners by the age of 25 is "too many", so I'll use that as an example (though I realize the actual number that would be "too many" varies from person to person): If a 25 year old woman had 7 partners, 3 were men and 4 were women---would that be more or less acceptable than if all 7 were men? Or would it not affect your opinion at all? What if all 7 were women (she is attracted to men, but her experiences have only been with women thus far)?

[TC123]

Most men just figure that a girl who's "been around" will cheat on them, and they are usually right. It's just like when a girl asks if a guy is a "player". As far as "don't ask, don't tell" I'd have to disagree with that - it's really not constructive to talk about how many or the specifics with your current guy. As far as I'm concerned I just want to hear that I'm the guy you want to be with and that's that.

How would it help our relationship if I were to tell you about how I lost my virginity at a whore house in Nevada because I had zero luck with girls as a teen, or how I had a fling (best sex ever bar none) with an older women when I was 20, or how me and a buddy brought three strippers back to his house and had a gang bang with them, or how when I was 21 one of my younger brother's female friends (17) ended up crushing on me & I took advantage of the situation, or 10000 other escapades I've had? None of that serves any real purpose but to probably make me look like a slut, just like when a girl gets drunk and tells her boyfriend about some other guy's cock, or how much better he was, or how she went home with a stranger who rocked her world and she had no idea who he was, what his name was etc.

The only thing to talk about is previous relationships if they ended really badly, and even then I don't think you should talk about it unless you are your guy are getting serious.

As far as the women vs. men thing I kind of find it attractive if a girl has been with more women then men, but if she's a closet lesbian or has a man-hate vibe then I'm outa there.

[TC123]

If you really want numbers then I guess if she had 2-3 boyfriends per year I'd be turned off. That's okay when you're 15 and holding hands with a different guy every week, but when you're in your 20's or 30's and can't stay in a relationship it's a real warning sign.

[archer86]

I have seen this question just too many times. My assessment is simply that it all depends on the type of person is being thought of. For example: take a look at my pic and profile. I represent at least 85% of the male population which is simply in the "Not-My-Type" category. Most women who look at men as myself would not care the first how many women I've banged as long at I don't try to come on to them. In addition, most women wouldn't care if my partners were nasty lot-lizards, high dollar escorts, fat trailer part trash ho's or supermodels.

Inasmuch, many men would think the more a woman puts out, the greater his chances of getting some as well despite how many times she's been turned like a doorknob. Not every man thinks easy women will cheat, this is factored on the maturity of the man.

I could care less how many times a woman has had sex. My concerns would be how many kids she's hatched, how many diseases he's infested with and how she takes care of herself.

Hope this helps

[Anonymous]

The number of past partners should be on a Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy. There's no magic number that makes you a whore. I mean, really...5 partners in one night of drunken debauchery is probably worse than 6 partners over the course of 6 years, one year per relationship.

A better approach with your current partner is to talk about past significant relationships. But avoid the headcount comparison, it's a bad topic of conversation!

[Samanosuke47]

I agree.

[dudeman]

No its a good fair question

[cajundani]

Great question...hope to see some resopnse, I'd love to know what guys think on this too! Good Luck!

[DeepWinter]

I personally don't mind talking about body count to me you being lieing to your partner I rather hear it from her mouth then someone else

but to your question 7 is not bad at the age of 25. I alwaus do take number years sexually over partners so let's say became sexual at 16 that 9 years

so 9/7 so average is over a year

though when I am not a fan is like people just sexually active an have a higher number (I say in this case 3) your odd of a relationship will last about 4 months with no break going guy to guy a year

I also hold that true with guys if I wa a girl lower number is better means he not just there for sex

an about your girls an guy question I just partners if guys here girls they think 3 way just avoid unless you dint mind being asked

[selfishstars]

Yeah, the 7 partners at 25 years old was just an example, since everyone has a different opinion of what is "too many". The question was more, whatever number you would consider "too many", would it make a difference if some of those partners were female? When a guy decides that the number of people a girl has been with makes her "slutty", "dirty", "used" or whatever depend on the number of penises she's had, or the number of people in general? Or would the fact that she's been with other women

[selfishstars]

Be more intimidating or make her seem more "slutty"?

[DeepWinter]

All depends if mist were quick fligs or long term dating I say at least for me if the number people he or she slept with is over tge number years sexually that what I think is bad. So at 25 I think 6ish plus or minus a couple is far I say sluty persay at over 10 at that age I couldn't Like don't get me wrong sex is natural for human but being safe to me better then sex

[Tomlovesgym]

Firstly, I don’t care about numbers sex wise, I believe if you want sex just have it, it’s natural. Secondly, if I did care I’m whether it was with men or woman you would still be “sleeping around”. Third and finally, one thing I do care as someone else has mentioned already, if someone has had a high amount of relationships it would show that they can’t maintain a relationship (for whatever reason). To conclude, I’d rather be with a girl who has slept around whilst single and maintained good long relationships than a girl who doesn’t sleep around but has been with a high number due to many relationships