Am I sexy with small boobs/small penis/big butt/whatever other thing is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I'm sure I'm not the only one who gets annoyed by these questions. The answer is YES. Sexy is a state of mind. You need huge boobs, an over sized penis, or some other physical thing. You could have a "perfect" body and if you thought you looked ugly you would not be sexy. And even if you thought you were hot you would not be everyone on Earth's type. /rant.

[l-hedoniste]

The bad news is that the people who need to hear this will: a. ignore you, or b. disbelieve you.

Because it's not about boobs or penis size or uneven p*ssy lips or whatever the hell people obsess about; it's about their insecurity over their worth as a lover.

Worse, the person who's tries to become a better lover by growing or cutting or implanting something is stuck firmly on the wrong track, forever mystified by why they're still getting regularly dumped, even with the horse c*ck and the great, big boobs.

Worse _still_, tell them that they're better off spending that money on a shrink to cut through those insecurity issues, and they go swiftly on the attack, calling you a liar, telling you that it really, really is about the [whatever], and not about the wild, out-of-control terror they have over being fundamentally unloveable.

Nice try, but you won't fix these people. They need to fix themselves.

[jusrgirl5727]

You just called big boobs great, so that kind of leaves small boobs as not so great. Watch your words kiddo, for they can completely disprove your whole message. I mean I'm really insecure about my small boobs (how not to be with all the cleavage shots and glorification of big boobs EVERYWHERE), and yeah, if I read "great, big boobs", it only proves that big boobs are better.

[l-hedoniste]

You realize, don't you, that you just let your insecurity use three words to precisely reverse the meaning of a 160-word passage? You also realize that this is *exactly* the problem I'm talking about--that it's impossible to talk reasonably to people determined to see the world through insecurity-colored glasses. Finally, just so I'm clear: great, adjective: "notably large in size, huge" (Merriam-Webster's 11th Collegiate)

[snackeyg]

I don't agree with "if you thought you looked ugly you would not be sexy". I know a lot of girls that think they're fat, average, etc. and I still find them sexy.

[girlsguys88]

couldn't have said it better. 'state of mind' is exactly it.

and the last sentence is so true.

[Cartiphilus]

You have a penis?

[longrodvonhugendong]

No, you are not sexy with small boobs / small penis / big butt / whatever other thing is wrong with me, mainly because of the fact that you have a penis.