My son's football coach and I have spending a lot of time together. Does he like me?

[Anonymous]

I am recently divorced and he knows my situation. He said he has been interested in me since last season (but I was married and he was with someone).We spent the first night talking for over 4 hours, he asked me out for the next night and the day after that. We had a blast, he was texting and e-mailing a lot (I was recipracating). On Monday we slept together, Tuesday went out to dinner and Wednesday had sex again (both times I was kind of distracted, it was my first since being married for 16 years) he said it was okay and we just needed time to figure each other out. I didn't see him for a few days (but we were still texting/emailing) after that (we both had our kids and didn't want to put them in the mix). I didn't hear from him for a day, and kind of panicked. He then met me out the next Monday and said he had to re-evaluate his priorities, spend time with his son and just process what was going on with us (since we were non-stop together for over a week. We then made plans for us to do things this week (but steered far away from sex), he wanted to show me photo albums, tell more about each other. We spent today together and it was okay (just lunch and barely a kiss or two), then he took me out to dinner tonight was rubbing my leg non-stop, kissed me a few times and we made plans for tomorrow night. My question is why do I panic when I don't hear from him immediately following us seeing each other? In the beginning he contacted me constantly. Now that he is comfortable to you think he is just backing off on the sex so we can get to know each other. If plans are still being made and we are communicating (just not several times a day) do you think he really likes me or what?

[1stblackx]

That really is a lot of time.

I think knowing that your son is on his team he genuinely likes you because he has a conscious and he wouldn't just try and have sex with you knowing that your kid probably looks up to him a great deal.

However like I said before that's a lot of time and the whole re-evulating his priorities might mean that he likes you however you want way to much contact from him right now. I can understand that this is probably normal being that you probably talked to your husband multiple times a day but he might think you are being clingy because he has never been married.

Talk to him but try and back off a bit, see if that helps.

[HRH24]

16 years of marriage it is no wonder why you forgot what being newly involved with somebody is like. You are both mature adults with kids...I think he is doing the right thing and you are obviously smitten with him already. Let it play out and realize that adults have busy lives and so do their kids. Communication and being together everyday like you did in your relationships in your early 20's is gone. Enjoy him and let it progress naturally...sounds like you are both having some fun and releasing some sexual energy when needed.

[Asker]

Thanks - I just guess I got caught up in the initial barrage of his communication. I thought that's how it would continue, but now I realize it won't. Last night we had an awards ceremony for our boys football team and he sat with his ex wife of 9 years (I understand that they were there for his son), but he really paid me no mind (my ex was not there). I guess this frustrated me a lot. I have yet to hear from him. I think I need to end things because I really shouldn't be feeling this bad.

[HRH24]

Highs and lows. I would give it a little more time if I were you...because you sounded so happy at one point and far as I can tell nothing has went really tragedically wrong...

[kiwicoconut]

Its safe to say he's interested in getting to know you better. He's probably trying to give you space considering you're recent divorce. He probably doesn't want to seem like he's taking advantage of you, and may also want to be sure you are into this as much as he is. Don't panic if communication slows. Try to go with the flow. You're probably afraid of getting hurt, that's why you are so quick to panic. Relax, and things will fall into place like they are meant to.