20 year old female who is sexually frustrated and needs advice, please help?

[Shygirl141]

I’m a 20 year old female who is pretty horny basically everyday. Even if I do things to distract me like exercise or read or go out I’m still super horny. I don’t know why I’m like this but I have to masturabate everyday. I’ve brrn masturbating since I I was 11 after I go my first period. And I’ve been madturbating the same way ever since. Lying flat on my stomach with my legs slightly open and using my “lips” to rub a giant my clitoris rapidly. I orgasm strongly from it every time. My worry is that when I get into a relationship I won’t be able to orgasm from other ways with my significant other. I haven’t had sex since I was 16 and with my then boyfriend who had been with more people sexually than me had a hard time getting me to use good orgasms. Like oral felt good but I couldn’t orgasm the same way as when I masturbate and rubbing on my clitoris doesn’t do anything for me. I haven’t been in a relationship since, cause I chose to focus on school and I was wondering if I messed up my body and will I have trouble with experiencing orgasms with a future significant other? I have tried to stop madturbating altogether for long periods of time but I’m always horny so that doesn’t last long. Also I’ve tried masturbating different ways but I can’t orgasm and it doesn’t feel really good that much. What should I do? I’m so worried. Also why am I horny do much? I crave to be sexually active but I’m picky with who I let have sex with and I have tried to do one night stands but I can’t have sex with someone I don’t care about, but I do want sex badly. I’m so sexually confused lol please help me!

[jpmoore89]

I think a lot of us can relate to your situation to varying degrees. Take comfort however in knowing that you are a healthy girl. Some people with a lower sex drive have hormonal imbalances and other issues such as nutritional deficiencies. Finding someone who loves you and is as into sex as you are will be a wonderful day because you will both be able to use this as a major tool to strengthen your relationship/marriage. Sex was meant to be enjoyed. It can be relaxing, stress revealing, and physical healthy too. There are studies that show that a woman feels more fulfilled and happier when semen is ejaculated inside her vagina on a regular basis due to all the biochemicals contained which are good for her mind and body. Also its healthy for his prostate to ejaculate often. An ejaculation when a woman is already on edge orgasmic ally can make her orgasm much more intense.

In the meantime, try to fill your life with as many things as possible to keep your mind off it. Making yourself cum here and there is healthy for your body, at least until someone who loves you comes along and takes care of you the way he should.

[Shygirl141]

Thank you for your response. I really appreciate the response. I would love to have a man to help me with my problem but I’m a little picky and have to actually trust and care for a guy to actually want to have sex with him.

[jpmoore89]

That's totally understandable. Its more difficult now days. You want to protect your heart. There are many people who don't take sex seriously. It is powerful emotionally because its the greatest expression of love two people can offer physically.

[Shygirl141]

And it’s hard cause my generation doesn’t really believe in that. There’s no dating now, like people just want to have sex and then get to know each other. Or just have sex, that’s why I’m still single lol.

[jpmoore89]

You are right on the dot. That or they just want violent themed sex and then ignore each other until they need the next fix or meetup. Its so sad. I guess I'm just old fashioned in my ways. I still see value in calling on a girl. Taking her out on a date. Laughing with her. And once we have that foundation, then we take our time to make romantic love (vaginal intercourse) and we stay in it for the long haul. As in I have wanted to put a ring on her finger in my past relationship. I will in the next one.

[Shygirl141]

Yeah I guess I’m old school too. Cause I believe in everything you said about courting and everything. It’s sad cause I actually have not been asked on a date, I’ve been told I’m attractve, intelligent, etc but have only been asked to have sex and see where it goes from there, that’s it😐

[jpmoore89]

Omg, that is so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. You deserve to expect much better than that. I'm glad you are still willing to stand your ground on this set of ideas.

[gclark2708]

I know how you feel... I need to fix this myself but the answer for me is: get a girlfriend

[Shygirl141]

Yeah and I need to get a boyfriend lol. But no guys have caught my attention yet, even though I’m not easy or dress skanky most of the guys I meet just want me for sex. A friends with benefits would be good but I have to actually care for and trust a guy to want to have sex with him lol.

[Adamapple13]

good outlook a successful relationship is built around being friends and having respect

[Shygirl141]

@Adamapple13 but my generation doesn’t really date, it’s sex sex sex

[Roooni]

Gotta lower your standard a little, stop masturbating as your body mind and hand are now wired and got sooooo used to the same way of stimulation and nothing else can replace it meanwhile.. so subconsciously you even got to remove the idea... for guys who have excessive masturbation disorder or pornography disorder.. they will develop erictle disfunction or even not getting a hard not even with hottest girl.. why !! Its because of the side effect of what he did all these years repetively. It rewires the brain.. same as cocaine.
Anyhow no need to care.. you need attraction and chemistry they're enough to pull this off... if in your mind you're prefocused that i NEED TO CARE it won't happen

[ItStinksInHere]

Female circumcision?

[Unit1]

You need a boyfriend ☺ someone will be lucky to have a sex obsessed girlfriend 😍

[outside_Toronto]

Your spelling is ridiculous.
I think you're a dude. Get a higher xper level and then ask the question

[Shygirl141]

I’m not a guys, and I have a small iPhone after breaking my new iPhone and I text with my thumbs and its hard typing with this tiny IPhoneSE.

[torwulf]

You should cut masturbation down to 2-3 times per week. That'll increase your sensitivity. Also, try masturbating in new ways, get a dildo for example.

[Romeo0071234]

Pm me.. I have a few questions

[HereIbe]

Get lots of dick from lots of sources, then you will be satisfied.

[joker_daddy]

You need to do what feels good and get a guy that knows what he is doing but is also willing to experiment with you to find what feels good for you and can bring you to an orgasm i have to masturbate everyday but i can have sex and it feels really good also but if you find such an amazing why to masturbate that feels that good you will always crave that feeling i know i do

[alienexe]

Don’t worry about what’s gonna happen... if u have friends with benefits or boyfriend have sex and don’t think about the orgasm... just keep trying new things... just be in the moment with ur partner...

[BOUNTYGUY9]

you need a nice guy like me lol

[Seppel]

Don't stop it, do it more often. It's normal and healthy

[Adamapple13]

ur fine i would worry and i masturbate 3 times a day/every day

[Adamapple13]

how can I help

[tazmaniac]

Pm me babe I've had medical treatment for the same thing I know what you are going through and how it feels

[PhilVoyuer69]

You need to call me or text me I will have you Cuming every position you want or need and as far as oral I would eat that pussy so good you would be fucking my face and Cuming like crazy 17024169612 Phil text or call

[PhilVoyuer69]

Text me ok I'm Phil 17024169613

[zeus_hera]

I am horny also. Only solution is sexting baby