Why is my clit so sensitive?

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of trouble getting myself off, because my clit is super sensitive. I've never been able to come and I've never had an orgasm. I don't know what to do. I've tried fingering myself, but it just doesn't feel that great. Anytime I try to touch my clit it's just so sensitive it ends up hurting and not feeling good, no matter how gentle I am. I've never had sex and I honestly don't understand what's wrong with me, like why can't I achieve an orgasm or even cum from fingering myself, this can't be normal.

[Shar279]

Personally, actually touching my clitoris never works for me. Like you say it's too sensitive and it hurts. Rather than going straight for it, rub the hood around it, the skin protects your clitoris from the harsh skin on your fingers and is comfortable. Circular motions, you'll enjoy it more. Only way it works for me. A lot of men make the same mistake and it hurts so much, hence why a lot of women would rather make themselves orgasm during intercourse

[Asker]

I'll try but the weird thing is fingering myself does nothing so I thought stimulating my clit would help but it's impossible because it's just so sensitive

[helva]

I think that nobody can say why someone's clit is so sensitive that touching it is an origin of discomfort or pain.

I have the same problem when touching it or when it's touched unless I'm very well lubricated by my juices, sperm or a lot of lube. And even when lubricated I feel some irritation after 30 seconds of touching.

But indirect touching, by pushing my labia together on the clit, is a fine feeling and can bring me to an orgasm.

[Red_Arrow]

This is a great opinion. Indirectly stimulating the clit as she suggests can do wonders without making it hurt. That layer of skin between your clit and you finger allow the pleasure to work without too much stimulation.

[MlleCake]

You may want to touch other parts of your clitoris and avoid directly stimulating the glans. Try something like gentle pressure with the palm of your hand.

There is some good information in this video:

https://youtu.be/EmCA7jr0bCs

[MlleCake]

And this one:
https://youtu.be/uio22733cX4

[NathanL]

Try using your g-spot, it's inside your vagina behind where your clit is kinda. Feels spongey, a little more coarse than the rest of the inside. Make a kind of scooping motion with your fingers, a lot of girls squirt from that way. If that doesn't work you can try masturbating via your clit every night to desensitize it. You said you've never orgasmed so you might just be sensative from it not being used very much.

[Shar279]

Where are all the men lile you that know this!! 😫😂

[NathanL]

Haha were around 😋 My biggest turn on is seeing a girl orgasm, to know that I am throughly satisfying her and she's enjoying herself with me, especially is she's a squirter, that's the best in my opinion. And I love forplay, so I did my research lol.

[Shar279]

It should be like that for all men! You need to start doing classes on it! 😂 "most" men are fine as long as they finish

[NathanL]

Lmao! So I've heard😂 I don't let myself cum until she does at least a few times, if I'm getting close I'll pull out and start eating her out then go back in, it's always worked for me. woman tend to come back to you if they're satisfied, they don't if they're not and that's no fun lol. I'd give you "classes", you're cute 😋

[Shar279]

See I'm a pleaser too though, so I don't always complain if I don't get to finish, as long as he does. Yeah, I can relate to that. I don't need any classea hun 😂😋 I know what I'm doing lol

[NathanL]

Haha alright then 😋 Girls like you are the best in my experience, you take care of your man, and he takes care of you, everyone is happy. Pleasers give the best head too 😋

[Shar279]

Well.. I didn't want to brag.. 🙄😂

[NathanL]

Haha 😂 👌

[xTom98]

actually it can be normal, maybe you're the kind of person that can only get orgasms from other sources. Some people only get off from Anal etc. Just try everything out and you will find your kink 😁

[Asker]

I never want anything in my butt, so I hope I'm not one of those people.

[Mado40]

Use your clitoral hood, the piece of skin that usually cover it at rest. Its the most sexual sensitive organ so that's normal it feels sensitive, especially direct contact. Through the clitoral hood, it should feel just about great.

[zclownz]

Try teasing your pussy instead of focusing on it

[LiamSaw]

Make sure your clit is well lubricated and instead of concentrating on the actual clit rub just the clit hood in a circular motion and see if this helps.

[OceanVibes]

If you want we can try hypnosis... usually it helps you cum without touching yourself so may be perfect in your case. Depends on the imagination of course but we could really just try.

[Asker]

But I want to be able to cum from touching myself :/

[OceanVibes]

Well you can touch yourself if you really want a bit on the surface. Or depends how you feel when tension rises.

[OceanVibes]

Or another thing it would be to try use lube when you finger yourself like coconut oil or olive oil... that should help you a lot with sticking a finger in your clit.

[Asker]

Thank you for the suggestions I'll give them a shot

[OceanVibes]

Please come with feedback :)

[Sambobelfast1]

Use durex orgasmic gel it's great. Got my girlfriend squirting and she's never squirted before and it was a lot

[Placebo73]

Maybe you could try arousing around your clit. I mean not directly touching it but get as near as you can.

[Jerre]

Try a clit stimulator. You can find them on any Adult Store on line. Adam and Eve is a good store.

[prtyasnn]

Mabye your the type that gets off during sex, I've heard in some cases girls that use vibrators gets their clit desensitized making it harder for them to orgasm.

[Asker]

I've never used any toys because I want to be able to do it myself just seems impossible

[prtyasnn]

My previous relationships were the type that couldn't get off on masterbating. It could be they didn't know how but for them having sex worked way better. It was a mental thing for them. Fingering themselves didn't give them the emotional factor of having sex.

[Sambobelfast1]

Some girls have sensitive nipples and some clit. If it feels good keep doing it

[Anonymous]

You have over 8000 nerves there. It’s suppose to be sensitive maybe try some lube and then see if that helps. Also try a vibrator and but it in your clit to see.