What would you tell your toddler if you caught them masturbating?

[bubble_tea]

TODDLER MASTURBATION IS AS COMMON AS IT IS TABOO (this is copy-pasted, I'm not screaming)

"During a routine pediatrician visit, I worked up the courage to broach the subject. I saw right away that I had provided our doctor with a ray of sunshine in an otherwise dull day full of vaccinations and strep cultures. My reluctance was quickly countered by his sheer delight. First, he asked, “Does she bring herself to orgasm?” WHAT? She is a toddler! And how would I know? I calmly told him I didn’t know, but she just seemed to do it quite often. I added, “I thought it was just a phase, but she keeps doing it.” He smiled and asked, “What made you think she would stop?”"

https://www.babble.com/toddler/parenting-issues-natural-child-behavior-private-time/

[MrKinktastic]

They all do it but its important to teach them when is and isn't ok ie if they're in their room by themselves whatever but if they're at the table at a family gathering not so good :p

Id try to avoid shaming them about it, as theyll just hide it from you in my opinion.

My friends kid, no surprise given my friend, was pretty constant with it for a while. If its getting chronic try getting them involved in something socially engaging so they have something else to put their energy into. Being a kid is super confusing.

[Cosytoasty]

Well one of my nieces does it. And I just pick her up and walk around a little when she starts. Directing attention away works better than outright beating or scolding them like our parents would probably do (and you know my thoughts on that lol).

It’s behaviour I don’t think can be stopped, but if you can force them to hide it, at least they learn that to do it private.

[bubble_tea]

I thought you said the beatings were good for you lol.

[Cosytoasty]

Beating is good for egregious bad behaviour, not for something like this lol. Even our rule was that as long as you don’t hurt anyone else you don’t get beat.

[bubble_tea]

Didn't you say you got beat for throwing stones through a window?

[Cosytoasty]

Mhmmm, and there were people inside, you can imagine it wouldn't have taken much to get a piece of glass in your face.

[bubble_tea]

I guess.

[Justacatlady]

Two of my cousins did this, as well as myself when I was a toddler.
My family approached it like the article said without knowing that was the correct course. Just letting the child know that it was okay to figure out your own body but it should be done in private.

[Goddess_Gag18]

I don't do this myself so why would I want my own child touching himself? You have to nip things in the bud before they escalate into problems, which I am seeing here, with people always complaining about and asking help for. You create your own messes.

[Repa33]

They dont know what theyre doing. Its innocent. Just tell them its wrong to do it in public or something

[BlueCoyote]

I wouldn't say anything because I wouldn't think of it as a problem. Like it says in your description, masturbation is completely natural not just for adults but for small children too.
In fact, most people don't know this but even fetuses masturbate inside their mother's womb.

Thus, telling your toddler that he/she shouldn't masturbate would be as stupid and pointless as telling them they shouldn't poop.

[coolbreeze]

Would stop the toddler from doing it.

[ausmaster]

I mean to be honest, if you grow up with it, it's not so special anymore. So normally when you hit that puberty phase, that toddler who is grown up will probably be like, eh w/es lol.

[Kurαȷ]

Freud would be proud.

[bubble_tea]

Why?

[Kurαȷ]

Because Freud believed humans are perverted little fucks right from their birth. He thought that breastfeeding, potty training and love for their parents are all sexually motivated.

[bubble_tea]

Only heard of the last theory.. breastfeeding and potty training too? lol

[makingtrouble2]

Umm totally normal, very basic need, but that is for the privacy of their bedroom or with their sexual partner.

[Sociopathvictim]

LOL she's talking about a toddler

[RolandCuthbert]

You are going to break the minds of some of the posters here.

:D

[CarpetDenim]

Emphasize that it's something inappropriate that should be done in private.

[slatyb]

If they were doing it in public I would tell them that's something we do in private. That's all.

[Celtero]

"Pfft, poor technique. Here, lemme show you how."

[bubble_tea]

lmao!

[Sociopathvictim]

i didn't know toddlers could even think to masturbate, i think there is something very wrong as if they have learnt to do that because children dont become sexual until after puberty. Im sorry to have to say this but i think someone molested her.

[bubble_tea]

I didn't know either, but I remember my male cousins liked to touch their penises as a baby.. I could hear my aunts yell "don't touch it! it's dirty!" and later "no! no! I said no!" whenever they had to change their diapers 😂 so it's not that far-fetched.

[Sociopathvictim]

Haha I don’t remember anything as a baby but she’s 4-13 I did not do anything with my dick. Only when we were taught at school that I knew about masturbation and a few girls kept touching me there so I thought they must like dick haha well anyway how are her hands able to reach under her diaper?

[bubble_tea]

The toddler in the story? I guess as soon as she could crawl, she may have crawled on top of an object and.. well rocked against it lol. Just guessing here.

[BlueCoyote]

You are wrong. This idea that "children aren't sexual" is actually a huge (and wrong) misconception. Children do very much have a sexuality of their own. In fact, Sigmund Freud already proved this 100 years ago. They just don't always show their sexuality in the same way, which makes adults think they don't have one. But that's not true. Children are not some kind of asexual cutesy toys. In fact, masturbation already starts before birth. Fetuses are known to masturbate inside their mother's womb. Also, you might not remember doing anything sexual when you were a child but I certainly do. When I was 5 or so, I had a good girl friend whom I would invite regularly. In my room, we would do "doctor games". Now, back then we didn't know the word 'sex' and we didn't really know what exactly we were doing but there was definitely a strong sexual twist to this. I mean, we were both completely naked and touching each other and thought it was fun and interesting, so... yeah.

[Sociopathvictim]

@BlueCoyote err that’s messed up

[BlueCoyote]

It's not messed up, it's just human nature.

[Sociopathvictim]

@BlueCoyote ok i can accept a baby touching it in curiosity that its there, but masturbating (cocking the penis back and fourth) just no, i dont believe a baby even knows you can do that.

[BlueCoyote]

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www.babble.com/.../

[Sociopathvictim]

@BlueCoyote LOL okay then..

[divaqueenbomb]

my dad caught me once

[Red_Arrow]

What did he do?

[genericname85]

just tell them to stop it. i wouldn't be mad or something. just so the child learns that you shouldn't do this while people are watching xD if it was a girl sticking things up her vagina, i'd make sure she doesn't do that, cause children don't care for dirt and can cause infections.

[WaitWhatHuh]

Seen multiple of my nieces do that and its easy just to let then know its best to do it in private

[bubble_tea]

Really? I used to see my cousins every weekend and I've never seen them do it.

[CINDY16]

I would tell them to do it in private

[Philyouup]

apparently I was playing with myself before i was out of diapers..

[fenixx0083]

"welcome to the club, boy, welcome to the club..."

[ThePundertaker]

What the fuck? 😂

[Curious_about]

It is pretty normal for toddlers to touch themselves. Don't worry all are doing. Just let it happen... and once they get older tell them not to touch in public

[bubble_tea]

You let them touch themselves in public.. after 4 years of pleasuring themselves in front of people you finally tell them to not do it anymore in public? 😂

[Curious_about]

No of course not but the first years they normally do this when you change the diapers. And I guess you don't do this in public as well, so there is no need to discuss this. Besides they don't understand it anyway when they are that young

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I would tell them "no that's dirty" lol sorry I just have to lie because they believe so quick so they would stop and forget about it (hopefully). It's best to say it because it's kinda inappropriate. But they'll realize it's normal once they get older. They can't go back time to tell their younger selves it's normal later on in life :P

[MarketData]

I wouldn't do shit. I'm not the Masturbation Police.

[bubble_tea]

I just imagine it must be very embarrassing for the parent when the kid does it in the supermarket.

[MarketData]

haha yeah, kids are terrible.