What is my sexuality? ( Asexual? demisexual? Gray-A? Other? )?

I'm 20 year old women. From what I remember I liked a boy when I was 12 for 3 years till I changed schools. I don't know if it was 'like' or what. I used to get all blushy when he looked at me talked to me or teased me. I never really really talked to him or anything but yeah I never wanted to kiss him or do anything sexually. I remember in the 10th grade he talked dirty like I like girls with big booty and I did not seem to mind it but but did not like it too. But like any other girl I'd get jealous when he'd talk to other girls.

When I was 16, a guy proposed me and I said yes cause I thought I'd like him eventually but it did not turn out that way. He once tried to kiss me and I was so hesitant that I refused him and ran away for which he later apologized for anyways. That ended badly and I could could not come to love him physically as well as emotionally.

My third one was with a man when I was 18. He was a friend of my friend. He had a great confident personality which I was mesmerized with. We started talking. We can in a relationship, thanks to him being such a charming man.

I remember when we used to sext I did not feel aroused. I only did it cause it made him happy. He used to send me nudes and it took me by surprise each time. I could not bring myself to send him nudes but I did send him a racy picture reluctantly.

We went on a date. I wanted to know more about him but sadly all he was interested was getting his hands all over. I felt disgusted. He wanted to kiss I refused. He was really persistent about it. He wanted to do it in his car with me. I felt weird and couldn't be more awkward. Most girls would drool over him but I'd pass. Days later he dumped me and I was sad and I still can not figure out what had for this boy was love or not.

What is my sexuality? ( Asexual? demisexual? Gray-A? Other? )?
What is my sexuality? ( Asexual? demisexual? Gray-A? Other? )?
What is my sexuality? ( Asexual? demisexual? Gray-A? Other? )?
What is my sexuality? ( Asexual? demisexual? Gray-A? Other? )?
Asexual
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Demisexual
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Gray-A
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Other things about me: 1. I have a libido and masturbation once or twice a month is good for me. 2. I find guys and girls attractive like their body and face but I can't imagine having sex with them. Oh but I can imagine them as my boyfriend. 3. I thought I had a thing for my best friend but it's been a month and we have not talked and I don't give a shit. And I can't think about him sexually either. 4. I like being touchy like hugging ang holding hands but when others do it in creeper out.
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5. I can find people hot but once I get to know they have a rotten personality I can't see it. They are really ugly. 6. The idea of sex is not gross. But it would really take time.
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  • I'm leaning towards asexual. I've only ever known 1 asexual person and this sounds a lot like him. He didn't mind dating women as he found them attractive but didn't have any desire to sleep with any of them.

    Also, these charts are overcompensating an already complicated thing. Try not to dwell on them so much.

    • Thank you so much.

  • But no physical contact yet? No kisses?
    Soft touches on your body? Not necessarily genitalia or near genitalia?
    Do you watch porn? Enjoy porn? Straight porn? Or lesbian porn?
    Have you ever masturbated? Do you need visuals?

    • No physical contact. No kisses. I don't like porn but hentai is okay as it helps me visualise my fetish which is submission. I only watch straight porn. I don't need visuals to masturbate. I masturbate like twice at max a month.

    • Ok, you aren't asexual because at least you go off with straight hentai. At the moment I go with the "demisexual" classification (first time I ever hear of this shit tbh). NCBI, which belongs to the National Library Of Medicine from the United States, have several studies on asexuality and discovered "asexuality" is linked to low sex drives, hormonal imbalances or sexual dysfunction. But that also there could be some psychological factors that affect the sexual drive (paraphilias) and don't let those people react to sexual stimulation the same way as others. I'd say, only if you want, to try sex with someone who you can trust, knows about your situation and you are attracted to. Otherwise go for the clinical diagnosis and confirm it if you wish.

    • Thank you so much

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  • I think you are demisexual. You should find a guy who takes it slow with you. I think you have not been with the right guys.

  • Other, ' I do not get aroused easily'. You don't need to be a special snowflake, people have different resistance to sexual things.

  • Do you like girls?

  • I think you lean more towards asexual. It’s gonna take more dating experiences for you to truly figure it out. I dated a girl who was asexual and was everything you described except she had a touch aversion and was sex repulsed.

  • Dont confuse yourself with the terms. You are meant for the best, no wonder you take time and have a choosy opinion for the person you were with. Just one day a great guy would come who would satisfy your physically and emotionally. So dont think too much about sexuality and stuff. Just a suggestion.

  • Yes please

    • What do you mean?

  • You're a girl.

    • I'm not asking about gender

    • There's only two.

    • I'm asking about my sexuality I know I identify as female.

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  • I think it's ironic that you clearly want other people to think of you as asexual, and so far no one does.