After getting a blowjob, how do you treat a girl?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, there's this guy I really like and we've been seeing each other for a few weeks now. I recently gave him a blowjob just because it was in the heat of the moment and it just felt right. We're not official or anything but we've confessed our feelings for each other. This wouldn't be a problem but I feel like I'm noticing little hints that he's pushing me away. I asked him to hang out yesterday and he said he couldn't. We usually talk at least once every night but today I wasn't online and he didn't even text me like he normally does. Even when I saw him at school (we go to the same college) it was a bit weird and awkward. He's not a jerk, the nicest guy ever. He's pretty shy, I had to approach him first for all this to even get started. And he's a real virgin, I'm the first girl he's gone past making out with. Am I crazy or is he pushing me away? Does he feel suffocated? I'm not acting super needy or anything. I just want to see him again because I enjoy spending time with him. How about you guys? Is this normal? Do guys do this to girls after they get blowed?

[kanadets]

I think that is quite unnatural. After what you've done, I would expect him to be running after you, no, seriously.

From how you described him, I think he just has absolutely no idea what to do. He probably doesn't know how to act towards you now, and he is just avoiding you because of that. I bet he is terrified every time he sees you, simply because he doesn't know what to do, lol. You have to somehow show him, tell him, or hint him on how he should treat you after everything that happened. "The way I should act towards girl after bj" just doesn't fit in his list of commonly used behaviours/roles.

You can just approach him and talk about it, straight up. Explain how you feel and that you feel confused about him avoiding you after everything that happened. Don't sound demanding or blame him for anything (this is VERY important), just tell him you feel a hurt that he is ignoring you like that. It will not be simple, but it has to be done.

I assure you, if he is "the nicest guy ever" he will definitely change. He just needs a little push and a bit of guidance.

Good luck!

[duckshark]

I treat her like a queen (no joke). It would make our relationship stronger because she is willing to be so intimate and consume me.

[sweetcherry]

I know a girl who tends to do things pretty quickly and always finds herself dumped after she performs on the guys she is dating.

On the other hand, maybe he feels intimidated by you or thinks you are too experienced for him or he wouldn't be good enough in bed for you.

Maybe he wasn't ready or got scared since he is new to the game of sex. As oral sex is sex, especially to someone with little experience.

Lastly, I know there are some men who do not enjoy oral sex, so that could be a possibility.

You should talk to him about it. Ask what happened to him and if he is okay.