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How do I get my guy to be more into foreplay, to pay the girls some attention, is he turned off by their size?

I'm 5'3 1/2 inches tall, I weigh 115lbs and I have a 34D bra size. I have an hourglass/pinup girl body type. I've always been pretty happy with my body, aside from some stretch marks here and there from growth spurts in my hips and boobs, but I have really fair skin (I'm a redhead) and so when the scars faded you can barely tell they're there. But I've always been self conscious of my breasts and their size, and have always wished for C's. The guy I've just started dating usually dates athletic cheerleader type girls, which I am definitely not. And he's never dating a redhead, though he says he's always wanted to do one (haha). His ex was a cheerleader, weighed more than me and wore a 36B. She was never really into nipple play I guess, so he says. But I am. I love foreplay, I could have a guy play/suck/fondle my boobs for hours (not really but for a while). But he doesn't do this. He'll usually give each about 5 seconds of attention or less before moving on down south or onto the main event and I'm always disappointed. He doesn't really seem to care about foreplay. I can still get off and everything, but I feel like a freak because even though he says he's been with girls who've had larger breasts than mine, that he thinks mine are great, he rarely pays them attention. I guess I'm just really self conscious and my question is does he not like them or does he just not realize how much the girls love getting his attention? I told him subtly one night that my hot spots were my neck and shoulders, especially my boobs, and my stomach. But he still doesn't give me hardly any foreplay. I'm shy about saying what I want during the act, and not sure how to without sounding silly or making it sound like he's not doing a good job...I feel awful because it just takes me forever to orgasm when he's going down because he didn't really warm me up before hand. Sometimes I feel like he's rushing, but he takes his time during actual sex. Do guys prefer smaller boobs over big ones? I just feel like maybe I'm too much to handle and guys just aren't sure what to do with so much boob since they are definitely more than just a handful. I'm jealous of girls with B's and C's and I wish there was some way I could make mine smaller without having a reduction before I'm 30. Any input of any kind would be great. Thanks!
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So I was talking to his room mates girlfriend one day while I was over at his place and we were talking about our boobs. I said I wanted to get a reduction at 30 if I had the money, and if I wasn't so poor, I'd have it done now.
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My guy was in the other room and overheard my comment, and said "You want WHAT?". Later he jokingly said he wasn't talking to me. I asked why not and he said "Because you want a reduction." I asked why that mattered and he said simply "I like them.". Hmmm
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  • Some guys do prefer the petite/athletic type. I personally am NOT one of them! You sound really hot and I know I am not the only one who would say that. Having dated both petite girls and busty/curvy girls, I can say without a doubt, I would take the busty girl any day. I mean, a girls curves (I.em her t and a) are a huge part of what makes her feminine. I personally would spend a ton of time on foreplay with you. My current girlfriend is a size 36DD and I can tell you that I can't get enough of them. It may sound shallow but I'm just gonna say it: I love t*ts. Especiially big ones. I just think they are an extremely erotic display of a womans feminity and sexuality.

    During foreplay I spend a long time caressing and massaging my girls boobs. I will also lick and suck them as she becomes more aroused.

    Another great thing you can do when you are as endowed as you are is tittyf***ing. Have you done that? I don't know a guy on the planet that doesn't like to f*** a girl between her breasts. Try whispering it to him while you are making out that you want him to do that to you. As he does it, see how much he enjoys it. I'm sure you will like watching his expression as he gets more and more excited. I'm sure he will be loving your t*ts in no time and begging you for more!

  • Lol OK sorry. Now seriously guys have different preferences but women only ever listen to the put downs instead of listening to the compliments so they feel self conscience, this site is over run by women with smaller breasts wanting larger breasts and women with larger breasts wanting smaller breasts. The reason your guy probably doesn't give the breasts attention is because he has been trained by his ex who didn't like that not to. Let him know that that is something you want and remind him when you guys have sex, slowly but surely he will adapt to your tastes'. Its like how when you break up and get a new boyfriend you both need to readjust your kissing style to fit each other only it is happening with other things. Further commenting on the whole breast complex I would like to let you know that my girlfriend is 5'2" and an F-cup, I love those breasts like you couldn't imagine. Trust me a lot if not most guys like big knockers. P.S. Redheads are hot!

    • I agree with you hete. I remember the first time I had sex with my college girlfriend. She was the first large breasted girl I'd ever been with. And even though I thought her 36C breasts were incredible and really wanted to touch and suck them, I held back, simply because I didn't want her to think that's all I cared about. My 2 previous girlfriends had been B cups and sex usually didn't involve a lot of breast stimulation.

    • As our relationship progressed, she eventually began hinting that she liked having her breasts touched and sucked but I continued not paying them much attention.. Eventually she basically pushed them in my face and said "suck them!" That is probably when I came to my senses and realized how good breast stimulation is. These days I spend plenty of time on my girls boobs during foreplay and sex. It has become a very important aspect of our sex life.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You are beautiful. You don't need to worry about your size or looks. If you want a guy to be excited about foreplay, get excited yourself. Your enthusiasm will inspire him & he will get pumped to. Try focusing some of the foreplay on him, and not just on his penis. Try licking his nipples, kissing his neck, rubbing his back, caressing his sides. If he sees you are trying to please him, this will turn him on, even if do some things that aren't exactly his style. Explore his body & ask him if there is anything he'd really like you to do. Pay attention to when he groans, shudders, & moves. These are signs that he is being pleasaured or the opposite. Learn your man, it really isn't as difficult as people think it is. He will be eager to return the favor & enjoy having foreplay with you. Good Luck.

  • Wow... I'm like between B and a C, and thought curvier women were always so much more lucky. Guess grass really is greener on the other side.

    Seriously, he should be lucky to have a curvy girl. But honestly, regardless of the girls' boob size, he should still love you. Sex is not JUST the physical stuff. There's a lot of emotional connections too... Don't get a reduction for him. You should love the way you look, because that's the body you're blessed with. And many girls would kill to have an hourglass figure like yours.

    • Indeed it is, I'd kill to be what you have. :P Thanks

    • Let's switch. I would LOVE your size. You can HAVE my boobs. LOL! Cyber boob exchange ;D

  • You Sound Like You Have The Perfect Body Swap Lol ? He might Just Be a Little Shy about It Because Ex's May Have Not Liked That At all Just Tell Him You Want Him To And If He Don't then Don't give Him What He Likes Because Its Selfish You Shouldn't Be Self Concious By the way Loads Of People Would Want You Body Just Pluck up The Confidence And Tell Him What You Want

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  • Everyone's different, I like all sizes of breasts.. As for your guy, if he's anything like me, he's probably so excited to get some that he may be a little overzealous and can't help himself. I usually give my girl plenty of foreplay and oral before I get mine, but sometimes I can get a little selfish ;) Communication is key, JUST tell him and guide him to what makes you have a better experience, it will improve BOTH of your sex lives for sure.

  • It's definitely him, not you. Talk to him about it, tell him what really turns you on, whisper it into his ear while he's at the computer or something sometime, just be behind him and see what happens :p That'd be my suggestion, you're beautiful, there's no reason for His lack of pleasing You other than what he's doing (or not doing, in this case).

  • Hey, have you tried the A Bra That Fits calculator? I’m 5’2” and 119 lbs, and my band size is 28.
    Is your underbust 34”?

  • Don't be so insecure. Your size is just fine. You just need to keep encouraging him to pay more attention! Takes training, and getting used to each other.

  • your boob size is not pleasing to his passion should be habdfull to fondle and squeez.

  • I could not phantom a guy not liking 34D's on a girl your size. I would think they would idolize them.

    • Lol, I think you mean you could not fathom a guy not liking..., not "phantom" XD But yeah, I agree with you.

  • I think he just doesn't understand what you want. Probably because foreplay doesn't really do it for him and he doesn't think to put effort into that part of it. Don't take it personally, but do try to "challenge" him. Perhaps ask to try more creative things or encourage him when he's doing something you like.

  • Have you tried just shoving them in his face? Never failed for me.

    "I'm shy about saying what I want during the act" Very bad habit. You'll have a hard time getting good sex until you get over this.

    "not sure how to without sounding silly" Don't worry about sounding silly; all sex is ridiculous until you do it.

    "or making it sound like he's not doing a good job" It's in the delivery. It's not about "what he's doing wrong" (his issue), it's about "what makes me hot" (my issue).

  • negative every guy has different preferences but I like biggums you sound gorgeus. (no creeper) and just let him know he could think tthat he's spending to much time up top you know just let him know the babies need more attention and hopefully he'd oblige

  • Boobs are women's power over men, never repent gaining the incredible power known as D's. It might seem rough because with great power comes great responsibility so make sure you use this power for good!

    • Yeah, thank the stars and moon you have those lovelies and never regret them.

  • MMMmmmm. You sound delicious!

    Maybe he just needs some coaching, instruction and motivation.

    Perhaps you could tie him down or handcuff him and completely take the wheel.

    Then just give him access to the parts of your body where you want attention.

    When you're ready, move on to whatever you want next.

  • I've been with 3 women that had DDs and I LOVED their boobs. Resting my face on them or in between them and one woman I was with let me tittyf*** her. I came from it every time we did it. You have a perfect body, even better than playboy models because you're all natural. Don't change yourself.

  • It's just him. Plenty of guys would think 34 D's are great. He might even think so too but feels silly - have you tried nudging him in the right direction? Don't get a reduction.

  • It probably has nothing to do with your looks or size. Front what I can see you have it going on!!! LOL. Some people just don’t do foreplay. My wife hates it. She likes sex but nothing before hand. Ugh!!! It makes us foreplay lovers feel like we’re missing out air there must be something wrong with us!

  • I am so lost you are talking about pretty much a perfectly designed women form but you are talking about turning off someone? don't get it.

  • Dump his ass!

    I don't care if a woman has small or large breasts, they should all be caressed, kissed, licked, etc...! Fore play is exactly that, he should make love to your entire body, spending more time kissing and nibbling you than anything else. I womans body is an incredible thing that I could taste for hours. Your breast's and going down on you are definitely the tastiest parts, but Kissing on the neck, shoulders, stomach and thighs are the places I like to tease!

    Dan

    • Obviously some juvenile boy gave me the thumbs down. You will learn it's not all about you!

  • You're great(:

  • Some guys like 'em big, and some like 'em small. Boobs that is.

    You both have to work a little here. Sex is hard to talk about. I had anxiety issues with sex and I went and got help, BAM so gald I did and so are the women that have been in my life.

    It's hard sweetie but you have to talk to him. Maybe try asking if there is anything he would like to try out with you to start. Then move on to a little role play or instruct him a little bit. "Kiss me here." "Touch me here." ETC.

    Be strong it takes time.

  • Strip for him & make him hot to touch your body. Tease him with your boobies & make him pant.

  • If you want foreplay keep your panties on and when he tries taking them off tell him, "not yet honey, I'm enjoying this too much." Some guys are not boob guys so they might not focus on your breasts as much as you want but if you keep dropping hints he should get the idea. I know you said you already told him but tell him again because sometimes us men have thick skulls you know lol. He probably rushes through foreplay because us guys get over excited but try my idea of keeping panties on and hopefully it will work.

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