Is casual sex good for women?

[Jason407]

So casual sex has sort of replaced dating nowadays. People "fuck" for a few months before they start dating. People don't really date anymore. There is studies to prove this by the way. So just fucking random people and shit is now the "norm".

Do women like it? I am pretty sure women are biologically wired to NOT sleep around. Is that wrong? Not to mention sex in relationships is better, especially for women. Very few women come from intercourse. Most girls need extensive help to come. In relationships, guys will know what makes their girl come and will know her body. So if women craved lots of good sex, wouldn't they seek relationships rather than casual sex with random guys? Girls are also more prone to catching STD's AND women can get pregnant, which would make her a single mom for 18 years.

Casual sex also demeans women. Guys pretty much "use" women for sex in these scenarios. Guys these days no longer see women as relationship material but rather hookup material. The only potential guys see in girls is sex. Isn't that a bad thing for women? Isn't awkward sex with randomers worse for women than committed realtionships? Would girls not rather guys that value and respect them over guys who see them as sex toys?

The "hookup culture" seems to benefit guys WAY more than girls. I feel sorry for modern girls. They have to take random guys dicks rather than have guys respect and value them but then again I think girls like the hookup culture otherwise why else would women have it?

So am I wrong or right?

[Lexicore]

"I am pretty sure women are biologically wire to NOT sleep around"

Nope.

And "hookup" culture is the norm, marriage and similar social contracts were mostly used as a means of shifting power, wealth and goods. The modern concept of love is, well, modern. Even in marriages from hundreds and thousands of years ago people slept around, both men and women.

In fact pregnancy was a common form of birth control for women, especially for women in power. Only sleep with your husband until you're pregnant, then sleep around all you want.

Polyamory dates back much farther than monogamy in humans

[Jason407]

I'm not so sure about all of that. Studies show women don't like casual sex as much as men. Also many women are fed up and frustrated with the modern dating scene. So what you're saying is that dating is dead and every girl loves fucking a new guy every week. That is false. If what you were saying is true then most women wouldn't want relationships. Most women avoid casual sex and want real love. A few girls just want to be fucked by different guys. I assume you are one of those women,

[Lexicore]

I'm not saying dating is dead, nor am I saying casual sex is for everyone. Don't put words in my mouth. I just said it's not biologically engrained and that polyamory has been around forever. Part of it is socialization and part of it is that some people just want monogamy, but there's nothing wrong with either. And people can still want and have relationships and still want and have casual sex. And don't assume anything about me.

[Celtero]

In nature, polyamory is in no way beneficial to the woman, only men. If you're a woman, you can only pass on your genetics 10 months or so at a time. While with men, it's entirely dependant on how many women are in their harem.

[Lexicore]

In nature it is beneficial for women, so long as it is a result of agency, not like, rape. In tribes both in modern time and Hunter gatherer time, when polyamory was a norm, people weren't concerned about who the father was, and everyone equally helped raise the child. The whole "it takes a village" isn't just a saying.

[Jason407]

Well I assumed someone who is so pro-casual sex would be someone who has lots of it. Maybe it isn't biologically engrained but most women do not wanna go giving it up to random guys. Most girls want relationships and love. A lot of girls don't like casual sex and many women are not happy with the modern hookup culture. I guess everyone is different but most women don't like casual

[Jason407]

Comparing people who were little more than apes to modern humans makes no sense. The fact that modern people want relationships proves that the old system wasn't idea.

[Celtero]

@Lexicore Uh no... That's just silly. Men always have cared about who the father is, because their genes being passed on depends on it. Wasting time and resources raising another man's child makes you a genetic dead end. Same reason there's specialized sperm cells whose whole purpose it to block other men's sperm. "It takes a village" IS just a saying. To clarify. I don't think humans are disposed to either monogamy or polyamory, I think it depends on an individual's upbringing environment, and their socialization. But I also don't think promiscuity is the norm, as there are more benefits and security in monogamy, otherwise monogamy wouldn't exist.

[Anonymous]

Biologically women are wired to have sex around, just not when they are not fertile. Women also seek quality over quantity compared to men, but they still look for different kind of genes to pass to their child evolutionnary speaking. Personally, I don't think it is bad for women to have casual sex. With online apps for dating and hookup, its realatively easy to have sex with an attractive man. Women and the most attractive men are truly advantaged by these. So I do think it is good, if the woman enjoy sex ofc.

[Jason407]

Yeah well dating is dead thanks to women and their obsession with taking new dick. I mean that's a good thing in my opinion, I guess women hate relationships for some reason.

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly don't think women are to blame. Dating is great, but it is really consuming to maintaining a relationship when you aren't necessary ready for one. Better just have casual sex than being in a relationship you don't feel just for the sake of it. There is no commitment to casual sex. For some reasons, guys believe women are asexual being and don't enjoy sex as well.

[Jason407]

Well I don't think that. Women love and crave sex more than guys. They like casual sex just as much and they also hate relationships. Most women love the thrill of taking new dick.

[Opinion Owner]

Not going to lie, I think you are right. I do love having sex with different partners, depends who tho, I wouldn't have sex with anyone, but I do enjoy diversity in my sexual partners.

[Jason407]

Hmm. Yes girls hate dating and think of guys as sex objects. Modern women are really something aren't they...

[Mikayla3]

Casual sex is a waste of time. It is sad that this world has came to such a dishonorable place. As for the person who asked why a woman would have casual sex if she does not like it. It is because she is hoping that it is something more than that. Usually, only to find that he was never even considering it. It’s all very sad. For me, I have always locked in the relationship before giving up the goods. But, even then there is no guarantee that he will stay. I’ve been lucky. I’ve only been used by one.

[Jason407]

I would agree that some women want more and are left dissappointed but many women have casual sex multiple times so why do they do that?

[Anonymous]

The people who demonize women is women in themselfs mostly, sex is a bargaining chip, & I think some find it threatening that some girls are not using it that way.

Biological wise, before it was mostly because if I'm going to spend a lot of my life carrying a baby ( because you only lived to 40 something for a long time) & maybe die in childbirth for this baby it better be a good guy who will take care of it & me after; luckily we don't really have these problems anymore.

[Jason407]

But many modern day women do like casual sex. Explain that?

[Opinion Owner]

Because it's fun & we don't need to worry about dying after childbirth or being worried about having kids at a young age anymore before we die. I personally enjoy casual sex, I've made some really good friends that way, it's given me a lot of confidence in saying what I really like ,& sticking up for myself at certain times. It's not for everyone it's a mindset thing, but overall it's not a bad thing as long as you're doing it a healthy way.

[Jason407]

Sorry I meant most women do NOT like casual sex and tend to avoid it. I think most women put more value into sex than it's just a "fun" thing.

[JellyDonutguy96]

I don't care about sex either way

Neutral

[pitzi]

No ew... I couldn't never see myself enjoying casual s*x. I want to make love with someone I not only crave, but also truly love... not just anyone... it wouldn't be really as passionate either as doing it with someone you love...

[Malita55]

No not at all. Men are the only ones okay with casual sex. Women want one partner

[Jason407]

I would agree but why do many women have casual sex then?

[JellyDonutguy96]

I'm not though

[CatieD]

Speak for yourself girly

[BillieJean1070]

It's a personal thing that varies. Sometimes I may want casual sex other times not so much.

[Kelly6]

It’s good for single women who are focusing on their career

[Jason407]

So they never wanr a relationship? By the way isn't that every young women these days? Feminism has thought them to on;y pursue careers and stuff no? And still how does it benefit them actually?

[Kelly6]

Some start relationship after age 33 or so, when career is all set. But they don’t stay virgin till then

[Jason407]

That doesn't make sense though. Why can't you have a career and a relationship?

[Kelly6]

I’m not saying it’s what everyone does

[Kelly6]

Only those who have high goals for career do this.

[Jason407]

Oh ok

[Anonymous]

You are right 😥
I don't like casual sex, but have one aquiantant that does. Her self esteem is so low and she doesn't believe she can have any boyfriend, so that why she lying herself that it's good. I think she have more than 5 partners and no relationship... And she is 28 already. How she gonna have a family is one big puzzle, it must be wonder

[Anonymous]

Relationships are far better... Casual sex stinks.

[Jason407]

For women I would agree. But why do so many women have casual sex?