Premature ejaculation?

[Giuly96lalaland]

I'm with this guy since September, but he went to Australia in October and returned in April, so i've "discovered" this little problem since the end of April. For me it's not such a big problem, i'm in love for him and i don't care so much about sex (even if, to be honest, i really like it); but i would like to resolve this even for him. When he was in Australia we had some cybersex and he didn't have premature ejaculation, but when we had sex for the first time he had: at first, we thought it was just something related to our first time, but then it has always happened. Even in foreplay it's more or less the same, and he reaches really fase even the subsequent orgasms. I've seen that, when he is alone, he hasn't this kind of problems, even when we had cybersex. He told that this is happening only with me, and he seems to me sincere. He is frustrated, he tries to think to other things when he is with me, getting distracted with television and stuff like that but nothing changes. We've even tried condoms and creams and things get just a little bit better, but i don't like those kind of solution; so i prefere that he doesn't use that stuff.
I think that we maybe should go to some therapist or psicologist, but he is a little hesitant.
Have you any other suggestion? Is it possible that it's just me the problem even after all the time we had sex?(at the beginning i understood that, because we were in love for each other for years and we didn't think it was reciprocated).

[sensual123]

Vagina is much more pleasurable than other kinds of sexual activity. My experience is that I find it hard to last even a minute when my penis is in vagina. Even though I can last a lot longer when I masturbate. When masturbating I can control and delay my ejaculation by edging, (stopping just before orgasm). But when having sex the vagina feels so good, so much wetter, that it’s hard to control my ejaculation.

I have learned to satisfy my partner in other ways, using oral and foreplay and also using my penis outside her vagina, ( such as rubbing her clit with it). During vaginal sex I sometimes withdraw before coming to try and make the sex last longer, but this can be frustrating for the woman.

I don’t know why I ejaculate so quickly, I imagine it is because the vagina is more pleasurable, but then some people say they can last several minutes with their penis inside vagina. I could not imagine being able to last that long.

[Giuly96lalaland]

I don't know, i don't think it's his case. He lasted way longer before me

[sensual123]

Hi @Giuly96lalaland (great name) hope you find the way to improve your sex. This is just my experience so may not apply to everyone. I don’t ejaculate that often so when I do have sex it is intense and I come quickly, maybe if I had more frequent sex I would last longer.

[summiter]

I would stick with giving him a handjob (or two) before sex. It will slow him down. Also try to increase the number of times you have sex. How often do you have sex with him? Does he slow down on round 3?

[Giuly96lalaland]

4/5 times a week more or less. I tried giving him some blowjob first the timing is the same, if we have sex after he gas come with blowjob it increase from one to three minutes, and the third time is quicker thank the second. It isn't even a matter of fast or slow sex.

[summiter]

Maybe get a sex toy (vibe) and teach him to use it on you. You deserve some great orgasms also? Does he go down on you to get you off before intercourse?

[Giuly96lalaland]

Yes, sure! I don't need sex toys. But, as i said, first he lasted much more

[sarapenty6]

Try exercises for him and take a charge of bed

[Giuly96lalaland]

But he lasted way longer with the various ex

[sarapenty6]

It's may be cause of change in schedules so discipline may work

[LiamSaw]

Try a cock ring to trap the blood in his erectile tissue.

[Anonymous]

How long does he last?
Is it different if you give him a hj or bj?

[Giuly96lalaland]

Not more than one minute, bj two minutes; i have almost never tried to give him an handjob. The weird thing is that even in the subsequent orgasms not much changes: eh usually last three/four minutes at the second one. He told me that he usually with his ex ehe lasted around 15 minutes

[Opinion Owner]

One minute is certainly not enough. That‘s really premature. Is he uncircumcised, and is his glans too sensitive once it’s out of the foreskin?

[Giuly96lalaland]

Yes, he's circumcised and he has not problem with sensitive glans.

[Opinion Owner]

That‘s good. So I guess it‘s really a psychological issue, then.