Sex for the first time with a new partner/BF/Hook Up/etc?

Ladies when you have sex with a man for the first time and you undress in front of him, have sex, etc, do you want him to be so taken by your sexy body that he has trouble keeping his composure or do you prefer a guy to act like he has seen a naked woman before and maintain a cool, confident, and collected persona? No matter how sexy a woman is, when I have sex with her for the first time I try to act like her body isn't so mindblowing that I lose my concentration. I even did that my first time having sex ever years ago and the girl even asked me afterwards how many other girls I had sex with because I wasn't a wide eyed idiot like most guys are during sex. But then you see those chick flicks and skinamax movies where the guy literally worships the woman's body and keeps telling her that she's the most beautiful thing she's ever seen, etc., etc. I definately have been with women with amazing bodies and were some of the most beautiful women I have ever laid eyes on, but that seems so weak and corny to say during sex, especially the first time you are with a woman. I mean after you're in a relationships or if it's your wife or something, sure you can fire away with the sugar coated compliments, but the first time to me seems like it's like a test to show you know what you are doing in bed. Anyway, how do you ladies view your guys the first time you have sex? Are you looking for a guy that appears to know what he's doing and can give you good f***, or are you looking for some dude to gawk at your beautiful body and worship it and be at a loss for words?
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  • I want a guy to "gawk" over my body. I don't wanna feel like I'm having sex with some player that messes around with everyone. I liked to feel special. But, usually if a girl looks good enough to you, you can't help but to comment on her body and how she looks to you. I've never had a problem with that. lol

    Anyways, give compliments. lots and lots. It'll probably make your sexual experience much better with her, because she feels appreciated or "special."

    • A respectable answer. Thank you.

    • No problem. anytime you need help, I'm at ur service. lol

  • I know this answer sucks but you have to find a middle ground. Every woman wants you to think she is the sexiest thing you ever saw and would like to hear you say it. At the same time she doesn't want to feel like she is having sex with a 14 year old boy. For a man to be cool and confident in bed doesn't mean he can't mention that the woman he is with is the sexiest thing he has ever laid eyes on. Let the woman know and then show her how confident you are.

    • I guess my answer didn't suck as bad as I thought :)

    • Exactly. So when you say you want a man to tell you how sexy you are, isn't it true that you want it to be kind of earned? Like for example some random dude telling you that you are the sexiest thing on the face of the planet while you are shopping is annoying. But if you go all out and get yourself looking really good and then some dude lets you know how good he thinks you look, you'll appreciate it more?

    • That is difficult. I would say if I didn't go out of my way to look sexy but a man I respected told me how sexy I looked anyway would be the most flattering.

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  • I really don't care. I like to hear what a guy feels. But again I have only slept with 2 men, both became long term relationships. By the time I hit the bedroom, I like him for himself, and how he acts ( as long as it is honest and from the heart) is great in my book. He should feel free to be himself in the bedroom. By accepting each other as you are, you open yourselves to better sexual creativity and expression.

  • I would rather a guy be cool, calm and collected. I'm completely turned off by guys who are inexperienced and let it show. I don't ming being with a guy who has never had sex, but when he starts acting really desperate for sex, and really anxious, then I get turned off. If I were undressing for a guy, I think the sexiest thing he could do was lay on the bed, in his boxers, hands behind his head, with a slight smile on his face, just watching me. Not like begging to rifle around my body.