I can't do kegels when my boyfriend is inside me?

[Anonymous]

I know that it feels extremely good for a guy when a girl clenches down on his penis during sex but I can't.. I want to make my guy feel good. He is able to achieve orgasm when we have sex most of the time unless he is tired or something. (I hope I'm never the reason he can't cum..) but I want to make him feel better. I feel like maybe my vaginal muscle tone is bad but I can do kegels with my index finger inside. I can grip my index finger. And if I put 2 fingers inside, it feels even tighter and I can grip those 2 fingers really hard.. I can clench down on my fingers and I can squeeze them pretty hard. And I can squeeze a vibrator really hard and I'm able to work the vibrator out of my vagina just by using my vaginal muscles. But i can't clench down on my boyfriends penis.. Why? I'm able to clench down on anything else I put inside my vagina. Why can't I feel myself squeeze my bf? Does this mean my vaginal tone is weak? I can literally squeeze anyrhing else I put in there but I can't seem to kegel while my boyfriend is inside? Can anyone help me? Is it because my vagina is "loose" or slack?

[MORPHEUS_12]

I can do it and though I can it's not a big deal. I think your thinking it's going to be this vice grip of a sensation. As long as your vagina is warm and wet that's all a man needs to get off. Like I said I can do Kegels with my husband in and I actually have only done it just after he comes. I think of it as a milking reaction. But with that it's just a little something extra added and certainly isn't a make or break thing. I personally don't think that your muscles are weak I think that at your age you have not learned how to control those muscles or how to get your body to muscle those muscles. Sometimes it take sessions of biofeedback in order to get things moving.

[Asker]

I can squeeze him when he's not fucking me. Like, if he puts it in and lays still, I can grip him and I think he likes it. But once he starts fucking me, I lose control of the ability to grip him. But I can squeeze my 2 fingers really tight and my vagina feels pretty tight with 2 fingers in even without me squeezing, so I guess it's fine. Lol I don't know.

[Asker]

And like you said, I can squeeze my boyfriend after he cums inside me, but I usually forget to because he says he gets really sensitive after sex. Lol

[Tammy94]

Kegels are going to feel different to you when a penis is inside you ad when it's moving. The best feedback is for you to ask your boyfriend exactly what he can feel when you squeeze, both when he's moving and when he's still. Like someone below said, it isn't going to be like a vice. It will be more like a hug. Does he use condoms? My boyfriend notices my kegels less when he is wearing one. He also notices more when we're in a position in which i can close my legs or wrap them around him.

Anyway, if you google "kegel exercises" you will find sites that can teach you exercises to make your kegels stronger.

[Asker]

He hasn't wore a condom since i got on birth control a year ago.

[Anonymous]

Girl! You’re vagina isn’t loose. Your man wouldn’t be able to get off if that were the case.

Every person’s muscle control is different. I can do it and they like it but I can also flex a lot of muscles on my body that others can’t.
Your vaginal muscles will naturally contract when you orgasm.
Also, when a woman is ready for sex the vagina lubricates itself and the muscles relax to prepare for penetration so it’s more difficult to perform kegels! Plus, you’re really stressed/concerned about it which might make it more difficult for you to focus on it properly.

Don’t worry!

[Asker]

I just feel like my vaginal tone is weak because I can't grip his penis like I can grip my fingers.. his penis is obviously bigger than my fingers but since it's bigger it should be easier to grip.. lol

[Asker]

And we've been together for about 2 years and last year, he had lots of problems getting off trying sex with me. But he also had a habit of masturbation and porn. I was hoping that masturbation and porn was the reason he couldn't get off with me then but now I'm concerned that it may have been my vagina. But since he stopped masturbating so much and he's not a heavy porn watcher anymore, he can finish inside me in 5 minutes or less so I really hope my vagina isn't bad.. lol

[Opinion Owner]

You can research it for yourself online... it’s scientific research ☺️ I’m just relaying the facts

[Asker]

Yeah but does it sound like my vaginal muscles are weak? I've looked everywhere online. Nobody else's symptoms are like mine.

[Opinion Owner]

It could be that they’re weak but it sounds more like a mind to muscle connection. Your brain has to make the connection to flex the muscle just like any other muscle in your body

[Roooni]

Now imagine 2 pipes one is 1 inch diameter and the other is 3 inches diameter. The grip of your hand is stronger on the small pipe more than the latter. Now same concept applies to the vagina, but add to it the facts that the muscles normally tend to relax et the walls lubricates it self! Its natural not being capable of making a good grip on it. You can try training yourself ! At some point you may reach the level to control it fully even when its in. .. and no worries if its tight on 2 fingers its tight over his dick. So him not coming isn't because of that at all.

[Asker]

Does this mean that my vaginal muscles are kind of weak?

[Roooni]

All this explanation was to tell you that NO they aren't weak. You said it yourself that you're tight and you can grip firmly on 2 fingers and other stuff donno what are they. Now you can always make them even stronger!! Nothing beats the sensation of clinching down there. I can confirm that lol You have difficulty with a larger object due to the fact its stretching the muscles thus not leaving you enough space to control the muscles. But that doesn't mean they're weak.

[jaraulio]

You should really consult your doctor, not people on GAG.

[azzntittiz]

Ask him if he can feel it when you do it with him inside, if you can do it with your finger you can do it with him inside. Fingers are harder to grip because it takes more squeeze since they are smaller.

[naomi5222]

When you're turned on and screwing and enjoying it more your vagina naturally loosens. Just means tour comfortable. It's easier to hold when you're not moving and stuff too

[Asker]

How could I grip his penis like I grip my own 2 fingers though? Lol Could this mean that my vaginal muscles are a bit weak?

[naomi5222]

No, I can grip really hard and have strong vaginal muscles but you gotta concentrate not on how well it feels, like if I do I loosen

[masterkamasutra]

every girl is not so skillful, you need lots of practice to be good in it, practice with dildo it helps you a lot.

[Anonymous]

I could care less about "clenching down". All I care about is that my penis, is inside of a vagina. I don't think he cares either. Ask him

[Opinion Owner]

@status update Should it really matter?