Girls, why do you stop swallowing after you've been with a guy for a while?

[nightlifelover]

Is it because you feel like you've got him comitted to you now, so you don't have to do stuff like that to make him want you anymore? My girlfriend hasn't swallowed in like 3 years. In fact, it seems like oral sex hardly ever happens once you are maybe a year or so into a committed relationship. What's up with that?

[jpeterman]

I never stop!

-What is up with that!? Why the change in programming? Maybe ask her what's up?* Like, "We used to do this now we don't? Why the change, is there something about it you find unrewarding?"

-Maybe she doesn't like giving oral? Something I just don't understand? But ,maybe she was doing it before just to please you and has no desire to do it now, seems lame?

-*Be prepared for an honest answer from her! Girls can be brutally honest sometimes, especially if you have been together awhile!

**Oh and Pineapple is a help but, really it's about not polluting your body. Eating right and not putting a bunch of toxins in your body! The better you are to you body, the better your juices will taste!

[Kagan]

Its the whole " entrapment" thing... you put your best most appealing side forward when you're newly dating someone the skeletons don't come out til later, so she swallowed... like Guys might pull the " Its not fun for me unless I get YOU off I'm not worried about me" to seem unselfish when in fact when your together that changes and you get a little more selfish and its no longer all about her etc. YOu baited her She Baited you... its just the way the dating world turns... sucks though I think girls and guys both should just be themselves from day one, spit swallow whatever it is you may prefer!

[nightlifelover]

I mean, swallowing is not the most important thing in the world, but as a guy, it is incredibly erotic and satisfying to have a girl do it. I can get by without it, as she has many other great places she let's me come, but it sure would be nice to have her swallow it every once in a while. It can't be THAT gross for you girls, can it?

[timetowaste]

You act as if her swallowing holds some significance in your sexual relationship. So trying to use the "well I could totally find a girl that would swallow, easy" thing is just a tad much. You might like it when she swallows, but so what if she doesn't want to. Maybe she's grown to dislike it after doing it for so long (do you know what the after taste of come tastes like? it's not really great. even after brushing your teeth) Sounds like your whole sexual relationship has gotten stale. Maybe you aren't doing things you used to anymore. You both need to spice it up a bit... a joint effort.

[nightlifelover]

I think you misunderstood me. I would never go out and find another girl to do this for me. I was joking. Swallowing is not the most important aspect of sex by any means, I'm just saying that it is really, really, really nice and I wish it was still on the menu as far as sexual acts she is willing to d with me. I have no problem swallowing her juices when I go down on her at all. In fact, I enjoy it.

[LSBeene]

Why would a guy mind? Yea, because women loved being bait-n-switched and feeling like they got taken, right? I can’t tell you how many women *bitterly* complain about how their guy won’t go down on them anymore and the reply FROM women is sympathy and certainly not “what’s the problem?” Or the guy no longer talks to her after sex. Or how would a woman feel if a guy pulled his mouth off from her “guy in the canoe” right as she’s about to come? I don’t think it would go over well. Don’t be a “automatically stick up for the gal” type – if you’d not like it, then don’t do it.

[jester7979]

I heard a girl broke into hives the next day after injesting a man's semen -- she had rubber related allergies, and the proteins in the semen made her immune system think it was under attack. Although you didn't mention why your girlfriend of 3 years stop swallowing you, I'm thinking maybe that could be a reason. She's probably embarrassed about that.

Anyway. 3 years and your girlfriend won't swallow you and you're getting less b-jays...are you working her labias with your mouth? If not, then maybe just call her a "friend" and seek other girls for sex. Hell, that's what I would do.

[nightlifelover]

I'm not about to go looking elsewhere for sex. Everything else is fine. I've just noticed that this one particular activity we guys hold so highly (swallowing) has been totally lacking. And my theory is that gitls only use it as a way to get a guy hooked. Once they've got him, the come they used to beg for and swallow down while looking up at you and smiling, all of a sudden better not go in their mouths! And don't even think about a facial!

[yengesi]

There's no need to keep baiting the hook once you've caught your fish. For men, oral sex is loving luxury. For women, it's baiting a trap. Welcome to the world.

[juice1]

exactly

[nightlifelover]

I think you are totally on to something here. It f-ing sucks! (No pun intended). We messed up when we let girls know how much we love when they swallow. Now they hold it over our heads and use it to their advantage!

[ooh-wee]

AGREEEE!

[JesusLovesYouAll]

Not answering the question, but in order to reply the update: '...maybe they'd think twice', yes but if men knew that there IS great guys out there who wouldn't even think about a comment like that, I'm sure they'd become mature really fast and then, would truly respect their partners, and not even think or say such a thing, about the 'girl at the bar', because that's all she is, a girl at the bar.

Anyways, at least you said you'd never do that, not so bad then, but think about it ^

[nightlifelover]

Believe me, it was said purely as a joke.

[JesusLovesYouAll]

Ok, sorry then (:

[nightlifelover]

I hope you can kind of see my point, though. It is by no means something - absolutely have to have, sexually. Its just something she can do that is very very pleasurable for me. Once evry great while would be nice.

[dudeman]

i don't know if a girl has swallowed other mens come then its on the menu for the duration of the relationship of the relationship is over

[dudeman]

lol or the relationship is over

[nightlifelover]

Haha that might be going a little far. I'm just saying, if a girl is going to swallow during the early stages of a relationship, why not do it occasionally later down the road? Especially if they acted like they loved doing it at the time. I have no problem swallowing a giirls fluids when I give her an orgasm from oral sex.

[dudeman]

no its not going far your wife should do far more for you then she has for any other man

[LaLaLaLaurennn]

Maybe you should be asking, "How should I bring up the lack of satisfaction in the oral dept. with my girlfriend of over 3 years when she used to be so erotic?" ha WELL, sit her down and be real intimate with her one night, do something you hadn't done to her in awhile, (sexually) or ever done for that matter, then sensually express how you keep thinking about the sexy way she used to swallow and you miss being that intimate together...and mention how that thought turns you on thinking about it and you miss HER doing it to YOU, (you have to accentuate the fact that it's her you are thinking about and maybe it'll throw her off your straightforwardness a little lol?) I guess that is what I would do if I had a boyfriend and he was not keepin up with the love clock. Can't stop tickin! I am 21 btwayy

[nightlifelover]

Thanks for the feedback. Like I said, its not the end of the world if she is not going to do this for me. Its just something that is really an incredible sensation that I really used to enjoy. Will I die if she never swallows my come again? Of course not, but it sure would make me happy, and it seems like it can't be all THAT hard for the girl to do, right?

[Anonymous]

One day I told my boyfriend that come tastes like brie cheese. And now whenever I go for oral sex, he smiles and teases me saying "Oh! You want brie cheese!" and I smile every time. Because he knows I love how it tastes. We are really lucky to have found each other.

[Anonymous]

"oral sex hardly ever happens once you are maybe a year or so into a committed relationship"

Once you have sex, I think it is hard to have oral for too long without wanting it inside you.

[Anonymous]

eat pineapple is makes a difference I think it is sweet when my husband does.. and I love the taste of my husband an swallow for him whenever he asks I think its beyond "porn stars" we love each other and both love the taste of each others come. when he eats me he licks me clean.. its a very senual and rewarding experience for us both.

[Anonymous]

all I know is the more I know about pleasing my partner, the funner the experience, let her know!

[Anonymous]

I am not a p*rn star, and I will swallow only my mans cum. Don't judge/hate.

[Pinksherry]

I don't know anyone who does that. Maybe they lie to me. Never met a guy who wanted that either...I've been told its quit unplesent. doesn't seem like his girlfriend likes it thou. I still think its nasty, but that's just me:)

[nightlifelover]

I'm sure he is very grateful for that. As a guy, there is something indescribable about having a girl do this for you. Can I ask you - how long have you been together?

[Opinion Owner]

1 year 4 months. Our sex life is great. Mutually. I have beyond expressed ways I like to be pleased.

[Anonymous]

Ok Honestly swallowing is f***ing nasty alright. Try swallowing elmers glue mixed with milk and water. Not pleasant. Maybe if you told her she doesn't have to swallow, then she would do it more. Try that. Only p*rn starts swallow.

[nightlifelover]

Haha OK, point taken. I know its not the greatest taste in the world. (She had me try a little bit of my own once) but all I'm saying is it would be nice to have her swallow once in a great while. I would never suggest that she HAS to do it. In fact, the closest I ever got tp that was asking gently if she would do it during sex a while back.

[LSBeene]

Totally transparent manipulative bad advice of the day: “Maybe if you told her she doesn't have to swallow, then she would do it more.” Yea, and then she’d stop, and be all pissed if you changed it after, even if you explained how you were trying to take the pressure off.