Attitudes to breasts and toplessness?

Been randomly reading through questions asked by people and noticed quite a few on the theme of girls worried about the size/shape of breasts or about their boyfriend seeing them etc. As a guy who doesn't have a 6-pack or whatever else is considered attractive nowadays yet couldn't give a crap what people think about his chest I was just curious about what worried girls so much. What I was particular curious about was what aspect you were most self conscious about, size, shape, nipples/areola. I ask this, as unless you are wearing padded/shaping bras or dressed like an eskimo etc., everybody can pretty much guess what you look like topless anyway. The only thing we may struggle to guess is the exact size and colour of your nipples, but guys have those too and aren't bothered. Do you think this worry is reinforced by the media's representation of what is considered normal? Also I was curious if your worries about people seeing them were down to more social attitudes than to being self-conscious. If for example you were at a beach, do you keep a top on because of fear of people judging what you got or being labelled as a slut etc., religious reasons, getting unwanted attention from male assholes, thinking by doing so you'll corrupt any kids about, because no one else is doing it, or is it another reason (please specify). I was curious to see what the most public social situation you are reasonably comfortable with people seeing your breasts was so I added a poll (also I just reached 100 points so wanted to make a poll about something). Assume you aren't breaking any rules and you aren't the only person doing it. To the guys I was also curious about your opinions of a woman's breasts and your reaction to them. Would you stare at then, harshly judge them or act like an arsehole? If a female friend (who you didn't have any romantic feelings for) was topless would you treat her differently from then on, would you go bright red or be offended? Feel free to reply anonymously but if you do could you indicate your country as I'm curious of how attitudes vary throughout the world. As it's only right I give my opinions, while I do find breasts attractive I wouldn't criticise a girl if she didn't match what I consider an attractive pair as my opinions are entirely that 'my opinions'. Similarly, when I've seen attractive women topless at a beach, yeah, I've glanced but never stared or been an ass (when I see a girl with a nice smile I'll also glance doesn't mean women should all wear ski masks). As for being offended or going red, I generally take the attitude that if I don't like something I don't look at it so I don't really get offended much and I ain't really much of a blusher anyway. If I saw a plutonic friend topless yea I'd look, it's human nature to look at things which are uncommon to see, if I saw her topless 100 times and she decided to dye her hair bright pink with yellow spots chances are I'd be glancing more at her hair than her boobs.
Only in private.
Vote A
With boyfriend, family or close friends.
Vote B
Single sex areas (e.g. locker rooms)
Vote C
Mixed areas with only strangers (e.g. foreign beach)
Vote D
Anywhere I can.
Vote E
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As noted below in response to an answerer the question should be 'What are your attitudes to breasts and toplessness?'
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  • I don't mind my husband seeing them but if I was single again I would likely be self-conscious. When I was much younger I didn't give a care in the world about my smaller breasts. Unfortunately, these days I am well aware of how important breasts are to men finding women attractive and in turn, I am self-conscious. I can tell the hubby doesn't fancy them and would fancy them bigger, better shaped whatever. I think the media has played a large roll in why I notice this so much. Sure, there are tons of nudity in movies, smaller breasts, but hell, those women are waif thin with the smaller breasts. Now a woman with hips, thick, small breasts lol, it ain't ever shown. Basically, what I see... larger girl, large breasts hot hot to men... smaller girl, smaller breasts, hot hot to men... medium girl, smaller breast nope nope (we are non-existent in the media, and to be honest, no disrespect to the larger girls, but if I could be larger and have larger breasts, I would guarantee my hubby would appreciate the my body more along with everyone else) just saying

  • When I think about my breasts I tend to wonder things like "Are they the right size?", "Are my nipples too dark?", "are the areolas too bumpy?". I think it's a natural concern considering they're a part of your body you generally want to look attractive. Though I have to say I DO think the media has an effect on how much I inspect them. In general I make sure to not let it bother me.

    I don't think I have much of a problem with going topless in public. I'm very liberal and have a very 'you get me as you see me' attitude. Having said that I wouldn't go topless without a good reason, ie for charity or if I'm on a nudist beach, since I know I may end up in trouble. People looking/judgiing doesn't bother me because that's just what people do, as long as there's no one trying harass me I'd be fine.

  • My breasts are large and attract attention, so I have had to deal with that for a long time. I honestly don't mind, because I know it is human nature. I don't get bent out of shape or judge men for looking. Literally the only thing that bothers me ever is if people think I am fake because I am also relatively thin. So I hate that people assume all large breasted women are fake. But for the most part, I count my blessings. My husband loves large breasts and that keeps things interesting in the bedroom for us.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Well, if my guy friend were to just pull his shirt off, I'd say: "Dude, what the f*** was that?" So, I'd probably have the same reaction. However, if it was somewhere like the beach, the pool, or it was really hot, I wouldn't say anything, but I'd feel uncomfortable and have to advert my eyes. THEN, if she specifically said it's okay, I don't have to be embarrassed, I'd probably just act normally around her.

    • So for you the main worry would be that she catches you looking at her and it makes her feel uncomfortable or makes things awkward between you, rather than OMG my poor eyes have been corrupted must go wash them.

    • I mean, it's just the human body. And, it's not like I'm ten or anything, I know the anatomy of a man and a woman, there's no corrupting happening. Like I said, I'd be uncomfortable and advert my eyes in the beginning, because it's unusual.

    • Corrupting your eyes was mentioned in jest, but given the reaction to the Janet Jackson 'incident' it appears there may well be a lot of 10 year olds out there.

  • boobs in public is called indecent exposure. its illegal

    • That's only out on the street, in the grocery store, etc. Not just anyplace where there is public around (for example, it's not illegal in a locker room or changing room). Also, the question is what you're personally comfortable with, AND assuming you are not breaking any rules.

    • It depends where you live, I'm not in the legal profession but I believe that it is legally allowed in certain states in the US as it was challenged on sex discrimination grounds. In the UK for someone to be prosecuted for how they dress they have to be shown to be doing so with the intention of causing offense. Don't know the legalities of the rest of Europe but from trips there they don't seem to care. Also a shirtless male was considered indecent less than a century ago.

    • It's legal in some states at the beach or pool.

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  • I'm happy I have healthy breasts.Thats what MOST important.Society is so damn superficial concerning the "look" of them etc.We have allowed the media to taint our idea of what the human body looks like.And we have allowed the media to depreciate some thing so natural and beautiful...our bodies.Im happy about my boobs,but I don't go around topless although legally I could.People can do what they want.

  • i voted B, I am self-conscious about my breast but only because I have strech marks. in my country, toplessness is not socially and religiously allowed so d only people that do it are tourist. I dnt worry if my boyfriend see them, he loves them. I think toplessness in public is inappropriate though as only your partner should have such privalege and it provokes unwated attention from guys, and besides my country is so small that you kno most people.

  • Im fine with my own, I'm OK with toplessness in appropriate situations

    • Excuse me? I'm also offended by males not wearing anything walking around top-less at home.Just because I don't utter a word about it doesn't mean I'm OK with it.

    • Well the attitude I would take is that if looking at something offends you, don't a) look at the thing that offends you, and b) blame the person who's doing it unless they are intentionally trying to offend you. As such, shouldn't women be allowed to do what men do, and if someone doesn't like it they can look away. i.e. certain groups think its wrong to see a womans hair so should you cover it.

  • I wouldn't expose myself in public because it's just not in my culture to do so, and it would create a lot of unwanted attention.

    As for my breast themselves, I like them. The only stigma I have with them is that I wish they were one size bigger for personal sake.

  • im not comfortable being topless in front of anyone. I suppose if I was married then I'd be fine with being topless in front of my husband but no one else. it isn't because of how they look I just think that there are some things that don't need to be on display for the entire world to see.

  • even if I had what I consider to be the perfect boobies, I still would not feel comfortable showing them in public with people I did not know well. why? maybe it is cultural because we frown upon nudity in public in the U.S. and we are taught that certain body parts are 'private'. but to a boyfriend, sex partner, or just walkin around the house naked (I live alone), I am cool with it.

  • I'm happy with my breasts size and comfortable being topless in my room ,WITH THE CURTAINS drawn for decency's sake.

    • Why is people seeing your breasts indecent? Both men and women have skin and nipples, the only visible difference is that the distance between a woman's nipple and her ribs is greater than a mans, and men go topless all the time and nobody says that's indecent . Granted they did during the victorian era when either sex showing their chest was indecent and men had to wear full body cover at the beach.

    • Im glad that someone thinks like me @question asker. I always wondered why girls werent supposed to take topless pics and guys can all the time and no one says anything.

  • Going topless where it's legal and on nude beaches is fine by me.

    I like my boobs, albeit they are smaller.

  • I know that you can basically guess what a girls breasts look like uncovered but it's not the same as actually revealing yourself to someone because they will be one of the few people who actually know what you look like topless and if you're not a slut who goes around showing her boob to whoever then it's a level of trust I guess that you have with that person

  • What was the question?

    • Oops forgot to put 'What are your' in the question title