What really goes through your mind during sex?

[afrolejin]

this is a unisex question I know I use to think during sex that this must feel amazing to her but then the more I had had sex the more detached I became the sound of he moaning use to get to me instantly. now I focus more on making her feel relaxed,pleasured and adored. how do I do that you ask simple I prolong foreplay.slowly but usually thinking about how pissed I was in a given time and it works. I have dreams while I'm having sex . what do you think about

[sarahh_12]

For me, I'm thinking about ym boyfriend. We make love more than anything, sounds cheesy and everything I know, but it's the truth. We are madly in love with one another, and we have literally not taken our eyes off each other for an hour while making love before. The majority of time I think about how lucky I am to have gotten him and how amazing the moment is. However, sometimes when he doesn't seem as into it as I am, I just think, "Well f*ck, what am I doing wrong?" Haha. He still gets off and everything though so I guess that's some consolation...

[afrolejin]

I'm a romantic so I understand just haven't found some one understand the term make love

[sarahh_12]

You will, women these days just seem to be stuck on money in a man. I find it ridiculous, who cares how much money he has if he's an amzing person. It'll happen though, she'll come along!

[NicoletteBonbon]

Obviously I think of how good it is but I also start thinking "Does he love me? or is he just doing this for the sex?" 'cuz it's with my ex so while I make love to him he's having sex with me so a lot of things cross my mind.

[stara]

if I'm drunk, nothing... if he's good, nothing... but if its none of those sometimes I think of another guy or girl and other times I think when is he going to finish or even does he know what he's doing

[Jonny_]

Maybe about what I'm doing technique wise or something similar... But usually I'm mapping out the rest of my time with her, concentrating too much on it makes you not only over think the entire thing, but it can get you overexcited far too soon. Which to me is a bad thing, I'd not want to sleep with her, please myself then leave her hanging... Definitely don't want to be selfish, only had it happen once, even then I felt I had to give her oral right then and there to make up for it. Yea I'm abit odd.

[awesomebunny]

thats not 'odd', that's just being unselfish! :)

[Anonymous]

I haven't had much sex so maybe this will change over time but I think about the first three things you listed in the poll. I also want to make it feel as good as possible for the other person. What really goes through my mind the most though is trying not to orgasm right away lol, after I have control of that I try to pay attention to her to see if I can tell how much she likes or doesn't like what I'm doing and what I'm always amazed at is how soft women's skin is.

[afrolejin]

i found think it gets softer during intercourse but I could be wrong lol

[acubed25]

E. I always focus on how it feels for him and if he's enjoying it or get distracted by his efforts and how good he feels

[Gabi2507]

A, how good the sex is. Foreplay is very crucial... so by the time my boyfriend and I get frisky, all I could think about is how awesome it feels.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

My thoughts?

I selected "E"...

Anyhoo...

My thought is this: "Damn, I hope this won't be another fatal attraction..."

[BlackSuperman]

I think about how much I been wantin to tear this girl up... what Ima do to her, how long Ima do it to her... but mostly, 'DAMN... she got some bomb-ass pussy'

[Aquagirl2020]

Many things go on in my mind. Especially when breast play starts.
I'm very aroused by breast play and that is one thing that stimulates my heart mind soul and body lol.
So in the beginning, breast is off limits and he had to chase me and pursue me and flirt with me to be allowed the privilege, way before we make out- please me by giving me flowers or helping me in the kitchen etc.

When we kiss, and hug, I'm thinking of how special he is or how special we are as a couple.

Then when he is finally allowed to touch my breasts, is when we can stare at each other's faces. It's the point where we say we allow each other into our personal space.

As this time, he is allowed to touch and lightly fondle my breasts- this is the part where I'm allowing him to appreciate me and I caress his hair and we kiss a lot. At this point, is be extremely aroused of he says, you're so beautiful. He's just feeling all of my curves. And it's sweet and arousing if he touches my chin or cheek or strokes the side of my face etc or kisses my forehead and sides of neck once in a while as he tries to go down to neck or collar bone.

It makes me think he's craving for more.

When he finally gets to kissing around my breasts or get to the nipples, then the thoughts just sometimes stop if they are making me very wet.

If not, sometimes, I think of a very nurturing breastfeeding like activity where I'm giving back to him for all the providing that he gives me. I'm not sure if that makes sense to you all. It's not like feeding a little baby- this is the sexual, adult version of it, and very intimate. It makes me crave for a time when I can breast freed him.

And then, when he lies between my breasts, I'm thinking of how i just enjoy the vulnerability in his fave and caress him.

During foreplay, I need him to make an effort to at least hug or lie on me. That makes me feel really awesome. If not, I think ugh what a man is he lol.

I like it when we say each other's name, when we're at the height of things and struggling to speak and press each other lightly or a very slight roughness to things. At that point of time, I can't think at all. Sometimes I like being sucked in the breasts at that time, but sometimes that's a no no. He is smart enough to judge that from my indications.

[Anonymous]

actually absolutely nothing. when that person I am with would ask me a question, I propably wouldn't hear it..