Should I ask my girlfriend to get tested for stds?

[casanova411]

Im a virgin so I never thought about this but now i feel I’m scared. First my girlfriend said she slept with 7 guys. Now she says she only slept with 2 guys before me. She said she lied because she was embarrassed she had so little experience. I’m her first boyfriend so all the guys she slept with she had no relationship with. Also she had scabies and it was not from me. Also she said she wanted to get tested and I was surprised and said why? Then she told me just for the experience. I trust my girlfriend but it seems fishy. When I mentioned it she gets really offended. Should I have her tested.

[xkildy]

I truly don't understand the relationships of today. How can you sleep with someone and not be interested in them as a boyfriend. How do you take the risk of being a mom for some person who your not even considered a girlfriend or boyfriend.. If anyone can explain that one I would be happy !!! But to answer your question. !!! If she has taken you as a boyfriend. then she must really CARE about you considering what she has been though so far with the other's and if she want's to get tested then support that idea. IF she does not want to tell you why don't push it , if you to are going to be together then one day she will tell you most likely its a really embarrassing thing and she does not want it to be spread around and needs to trust you more then just a boyfriend. Plus she is putting out the effort to not want to hurt you on your first time. have fun and try not to get her pregnant before you marry her

[casanova411]

We trust each other with everything but I’m not sure of other people. I feel so sad I have to worry about this. Since I waited and I’m her first boyfriend.

[xkildy]

The only 2 people that matter are you and her. No one besides you 2 will be affected by the changes that your body and hers. Your thoughts and actions will affect her life and her will affect yours. DON'T listen to friends who have so called "GO IDEAS" or advice. more often then not a relationship will fail from misunderstandings that happen due to friends trying to help.. by the way. parents are ok to listen to most of the time but. not always due to there mature minds they understand things different then you do cause there parents and have been thought a lot more. I my self am a parent and i think differently now. so i wish i had not listen to my friends back then other wise I would be still with her. Just please Trust and love the women that wants to give you her everything. and dont liste to others who say things that dont matter. PLUS PAST Actions dont make a person. the person your looking at when you look at her is the person she is wanting to be now. not the person from b

[casanova411]

Thank you so much. You know I’m doubting her because of her past. It makes me feel a lot of insecurity and pain but this helps.

[xkildy]

Im glad to hear it. People often don't have the experience to understand and deal with complex stuff. in that nature just bear with her.

[summiter]

Make sure you have tons of condoms first of all. Getting her tested would be a good idea for her piece of mind as well as yours. Tell her that it would make you more comfortable. When the time comes enjoy the great orgasms!

[nofunkgiven]

Offensive or not it's only natural she gets tested, if she cares about you she will.

[PondyPand]

Both get tested.

[Massageman]

First she said she wanted to get tested. Then, she gets offended when you mention it? I'm a bit confused here. Maybe both get tested and make a date out of it?

[casanova411]

She said she was thinking about it. Then I was like. Why you thinking about it? Do you think you have it? Then she got offended.

[Massageman]

If either of you care about the other, you both owe to each other to get tested. Yes, even if she is going to get "offended". I wish people- in general- would get over being "offended" about things that are simply common sense parts of life and living.

[Anonymous]

There isn't really anything to be offended about. You should be expected to have an std test before a new sexual relationship starts.

Whether that sounds overkill or not, you can either be overkill or have the herp.

[casanova411]

This is common? Oh my god I had no idea. I wish I could have no fear and I was her first like I am for her

[Opinion Owner]

It's not as common as it should be, but precaution is something everyone has access to.