How Can I Stop My Girlfriend From Having Sex With Me?

[46jap_guy]

I know this might be the most weird question because why would a guy ask tips on how to avoid sex? Well, it's because my girlfriend is still young and still studying. I don't wanna bother her in her studies. She asks for sex every chance she has. But, her parents gave me responsibility on taking care of her, I don't wanna take her virginity away when she's still young. I want her to wait till she's graduated or with a good job at least. I really wanna hold in and avoid sexual desires for her. I know I have to think about her happiness but I also care about her future too. I want her to concentrate on her studies, I'm her teacher actually. I know it was wrong but I like her so much and when she asked me out I couldn't hold it in. I didn't want to break up because if she gets someone else, that guy might be the wrong kind and would probably ruin her. So, I though that it's best to keep her with me. It's already so wrong to be dating my student so I though I should make the most of it by helping her go through her problems and studies. She said if I don't have sex with her she will date someone else who would. because she feels like I don't love her, and only fulfilling my duties as her teacher and not as her boyfriend. I also want to have sex, I avoid it by running away and mas... in some bathroom. One time she even stripped when I was in the computer making most of my work. And also the time when I was resting in bed and she said she would give me a "massage" then she got her shirt off and rubbed oil on her and rubbed herself against my back while I faced the wall, I know it was pleasurable but good thing I was able to make myself fall asleep. I was nearly so close to having sex, just a little more push. I don't know if I'm ready for her next act. Maybe I should work out less? so my body wouldn't be what she calls "freaking sexy" or get fat so she would get turned off... Seriously, help please?

[wonderingaboutstuff]

Well, maybe you should try telling her what you just told us. I think what your trying to do is the right thing. Tell her that's how you feel, and that you just want to take care of her because you love her. You seem like a really cool and nice guy, so don't let her make you do something you don't think is right. And if she still doesn't want to stick it out and respect your feelings, then she was too immature anyway, and she definitely isn't ready for the responsibility of having a sexual relationship with someone. Best of Luck!

[wonderingaboutstuff]

Thank you for making me best answer! :)

[toulouse]

Do you go to sleep when you want sex? Because I was with a guy & we almost had sex but not my plan & iim a virgin & so of course we stopped & then he suddenly was really tired & had to seep, I herd of guys getting sleepy after sex, but not after not having sex lol

You could wear a chastity belt & hide the key, but if he's saying shell leave you for another guy, not much you can do, she has ti be ale to make her own mistakes so she can learn :)

[46jap_guy]

She's really getting sexually frustrated these days. All I can do is, well, make out or so. What's really funny is that she can become a pervert too XD. I know guyz can be perverts but she's different. She does what perverted guyz do. Don't wanna say what but she's kinda one to me. The truth is, she USED to be a gay (boyxboy) fanatic. She sayz my body looks a bit muscular but feminine. Well, people say I'm sexy for a guy, by people I mean men too. Maybe gaining a few pounds would help?

[toulouse]

no don't be silly, that's rediculous & yea feminine guys are really hot imo, but back to the point, you can't help her by messing with yourself. look she has to respect your feelings. if she doesn't you can't trick her into it, there really is no solution here other than her growing up. You have to let her make her own mistakes. you are not her father but you are the master of your own body & she should respect your body & she isnt. You don't have the right to keep her from sex0- just from sex with u.

[46jap_guy]

Do you think I should start having sex with her? She is a bit old enough. Anyway it wouldn't hurt to do some innocent fun once in a while? But I get scared about her :(

[toulouse]

You should treat her like an adult. She's 17 she really is old enough to make her own decisions- or wait till she's 18, then go ahead & have sex. Stop worrying its condescending. She won't be the first girl to have sex. You are not her father i-don't assume that position. If you want to be her guardian angel don't date her. If you want to be her boyfriend be her boyfriend, its that simple, If you want to have sex wait till she's 18. If you don't want to have sex she should respect that-so dont. :-)

[46jap_guy]

Her Dad trusts me to take care of her and told me to wait ti'll then. He and I are best buds, I don't wanna betray his orders

[toulouse]

Ok well her dad is her dad that's kind of creepy that he's part of her sex life. Wait? Meaning what - 18? Then go ahead.. Anyways I didn't say you shouldn't wait. I said stop playing games.If she's too immature to respect the fact that you don't feel comfortable having sex with her than than she's a sucky girlfriend. She leaves you she leaves u. Her dad is her dad not her boyfriend he shouldn't be deciding her sex life.I was completely on my own since age 9, & I'm 19 & I'm still a virgin,- by choice- can't really stop her.

[angie523]

well she is a minor at the moment so I wouldn't be having sex until she is at least 18. but wow this is like one of the first guys I have seen been so mature. have you tried explaning to her that you want to wait? and not because you don't love her its just because you feel it will be better that way? but I believe at her age she is still young and naive anything can happen

[46jap_guy]

i tried explaining it to her but she kept on saying I'm being like her dad (she nicknamed me dad after that) Well, I keep telling her that I love her but she still says I'm just doing this because I am her teacher and it is my job to discipline children. But I really am in love with her. Nothing makes me happier than just talking to her, even if its even only in the phone her voice makes me smile. She really is a sweet girl. I wish that I can make her satisfied with me but I want her to be okay too

[dragonfly6516]

If she stole from you, you need to report her. I know that's very harsh, but if you really do love her, you need to have a firm hand and show her that life doesn't work that way. Don't let her think you're a door mat who she can just use.

[dragonfly6516]

She's still a teen and thinks she knows best. It also doesn't sound like she respects your feelings much.