How do I tell my boyfriend I like rough sex?

[chikibby]

I know its kind of weird but when I have sex I like all the spanking slapping and pulling hair kind of stuff , but I don't know how to say this to my boyfriend. We try to be berry open about stuff but I have a hard time telling hem this since he has told me he thinks rough painful sex is stupid and I know he wouldn't try to hurt me but when ever he pulls my hair in accident or does something I like I try to let hem know I'm enjoying it he does not seem to get the signs. So how can I tell hem this with out hem getting freaked out?

[Anonymous]

Well, I kind of suggest it first.

But it's different for me because I'm not sure if I'm into it. But I am a very random person, so anything can come out of my mouth. I just act like its perfectly normal.

I'd just say 'Hey, next time we have sex can you slap me?'

And then I'd give a good reason. I'd either tell him a random fact. Like, I heard that when you have sex you release some kind of endorphins that decrease pain and I want to see if its true. Or I would just say that I'm curious.

He knows me and how curious I am. So both of these things work for me. My boyfriend is really against rough sex because he doesn't want to hurt me at all. But I'm totally fine, I like a little pain.

So basically suggest it, and put a reason behind it to support it.

I'd say that, maybe he hasn't done rough sex before but seen it and it kind of looks stupid. And I admit it looks stupid to me too, but I'm really curious about it. So, maybe, if he tried something with you, maybe he'll get into it and it can be a thing for both of you.

[rawrrimadinosaur]

Mmmmm, that's always fun. Well, what I usually do is sort of hint at it while we're in the heat of the moment. While you're in the midst of foreplay, whisper in his ear "You know what would really turn me on right now?" He'll eat it up and ask, and you tell him. While you're having sex, tell him you want it harder, faster, rougher, etc. He'll get the idea. :) Good luck!

[shemale]

so...awesome that you like that,i love it too,yes you should tell him,its not stupid,slap! lol j/k

[chikibby]

think it is so not stupid! but I don't know how to tell hem thogh and like I only enjoy it during sex because he has pulled my hair wile we are playing around of course he wount mean to do it but I have told hem of so it kind of contradicts lol?

[sinful1620]

1. Walk up to boyfriend

2. Exhale

3. Vibrate vocal cords

4. Say "I like rough sex. I want you to spank me and pull my hair and call me names during sex because it'll make me come really hard"

Guys are not mind readers. If you don't explicitly tell him, you can't expect him to somehow magically know.

[cutekid]

When having sex with him,just whisper to him to go harder..

[Anonymous]

Say, "I like rough sex."