Paying attention to a girls fat while...

[Anonymous]

Ok men here it goes...when your having sex with a girl and say she has a roll or two on her stomach or stretch marks on her ass etc do you pay attention to those things while having sex? My girl friend says she has issues with her body (so do I) but that she isn't thinking about how her rolls look or her ass while she is havin sex she is just into it. But I am so self conscious I think the guy is looking at my imperfections during sex...am I right or not? Do you pay attention to those things or as some men say "we don't see your insecurites"?

[powersptr]

The only reason I can think of why a guy might focus on your flaws during sex is if he is trying not to get too turned on by what he's doing so he's trying to focus negatively, and if he needs to do that, its only because he really wants to have sex with you for a long time, hardly an insult. No, when men are having sex, we are thinking about sex, or as above, trying to partially distract ourselves so that we can be a better lover and not just come and go. (we've all probably heard of guys reciting sports facts mentally to prolong sex, not focusing on a woman's flaws, but it was the only reason I could think of why a guy would do that)

[BlackSuperman]

never in humanity has a man who wanted a woman... as he's about to have sex with her... decides to put his d*** up because of a few rolls of fat... your issues are all in your head, babe... If a man wants you, he wants YOU... If you're a little over weight, so what... more cushion for the pushin... Your best bet is to not let it affect you... I happen to look at my girlfriend (shes a BBW), and I like looking at her naked (she's hot)... but, take into account what I said- don't let your insecurities mess up something good, like sex with your man.

[Asker]

Wow thank you for your honesty and your answer. Most of my friends say its all in my head. I am over weight by 20 pounds and I have 3 kids. I do work out and eat healthy so I am working on getting back into my pre baby body but its challenging. Your right though I think my insecurities will mess up a good thing. I make myself laugh though because I think "omg what if I'm on top and my stomach shakes GROSS" maybe I'm paranoid, Thanks again

[Raksha]

Okay lol I'm gonna give you some good healthy advise: Don't worry about your muffin tops or you scar behind your right ankle or the one cut that's on your tummy or w.e. If a guy has a naked women in his room, He has won the jackpot. What do you think he's doing? He's not your doctor lol he won't examine you" okay one abnormal freckle on her shoulder... hmmm we have to mark this down" The only things they are thinking about is the sex part lol they don't care!

[Asker]

Ur funny and its true. But since having kids I don't have the stomach I once did and I have a roll or two :( that yes is a huge insecurity and I don't feel sexy> I don't know how to deal with it other then working on my body.

[peace-love-couture]

Yes,they notice.Or sometimes they don't.Alot of times they don't notice our flaws until we point them out.Like oh,I have cellulite and the guy notices that flaw because you think it's a flaw.Or oh I have stretch marks then he notices.

Do they care?no.

Will they mention it?No.Because...they don't care.

[katiesmuff]

There mind is usually somewhere else at this time and not looking for any insecurities you might think you have. You were most likely examined pretty darn good before the sex began and he found everything just fine. We girls worry way too much about what someone is going to think about us looks wise.

[MandMandM]

Never notice during. Don't give it as much attention as you do at other times. We don't understand why it is compelling to you if we like you enough to want to be with you.

[l-hedoniste]

"we don't see your insecurites"

We don't. We don't, we don't, we don't, and it boggles our minds how huge they are.

Think: we're HAVING SEX. So your rolls aren't a problem. Really, is a guy going to get naked, get in bed with you, start f*cking, then say to himself, "Hey look..."? We don't do this, ever.

[GuyAskingGirls]

I mean we know that they're there yes. Do we care about them while were having sex? Absolutely not. I'm not looking at the rolls on your stomach I'm looking at your boobs or your face. And if I'm looking at your ass I don't give a sh*t about the stretch marks on it. I care about it's size shape and how it feels

[cutekid]

I don't think am gonna hv d time 2 check those out..

[DirtyButterKnife]

If a guy has sex with you than your body is good enough for him.

[jinux]

yeah, if you're getting f***** then the guy obviously doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Of course we notice, but we're not that shallow and you don't have to be perfect to be very sexy. Just make sure you (or her, or whoever) stay in reasonable shape and he'll keep loving you and treat you right.

[Anonymous]

We can see your body shape through your clothes so pretty much if we're taking your clothes off we're going to be going for what is underneath and loving it. I've never seen a woman without stretch marks and that includes women that hadn't had kids. We all have stretch marks somewhere. If a guy is kissing you and running his hands all over you don't worry about how you look because he is obviously enjoying it.

[Anonymous]

i judge more when I hook up more than when I'm in a relationship... my ex wasn't the most perfect I've been with but I only noticed one flaw once in the time we slept together in almost 3 years... but when I hook up with a girl I'm almost like ugh I wish she had this or didn't have that but hey easy pussy

[Anonymous]

when having sex, guys pay attention to p*ssy. maybe boobs and occationally ass, but fat is usually never paying attention to the bad things.

Likely in his head, eye of the tiger is playing and he's cheering himself on, couldn't be further from caring bout something as common as adipose tissue.