If its human nature for women to fantasize about having babies, than why isn't it human nature for guys to -

[Anonymous]

human nature for women to fantasize about having babies, than why isn't it human nature for guys to fantasize about impregnating women? Woman want relationships woman want love woman want marriage woman want babies, guys would at least have to fantasize about making the baby , if the human nature in women cases them to consciously want the things that happen in nature naturally without thought, Guys are (supposedly) programmed to want to f*** because... Women are (supposedly) programed to want a guy because... btw Woman are nurturing so they an care for babies- why would the woman need or even want to be taken are of by men who are supposedly not nurturing hate being caring or being cared for? . Its more likely men would be far more lot without women caring about them, because women know how to nurture including themselves, its a tool & an ability, not a disability,.

[MandMandM]

> why isn't it human nature for guys to fantasize about impregnating women?

The upside of impregnating a woman (if it turns out to have an upside, a lot of family situations don't work out) is much longer term, much more expensive (time, risk, obligations, money, foregone options etc) and much less certain than the immediate hit of sex. Sort of obvious why one gets male fantasy space, and the other is a lower immediate priority for a lot of guys, particularly in early relationships not likely to be life long.

> Woman want relationships woman want love woman want marriage woman want babies,

Some women want some of these, some don't want any.

> guys would at least have to fantasize about making the baby

Usually not until a long way into a relationship. It would tend to be there before considering getting wed. It is very unlikely to be a conscious consideration early on, although the physical characteristics that would help make a good mother (health, fitness, physique etc) are of course attractive to men.

> why would the woman want to be taken are of by men who hate being caring or being cared for?

I don't think a woman with such views would. My observation is that the capacity of a man to give/take nurture is important to girls in long term relationships, but for most girls I know it isn't top of the shopping list of what they look for in a guy when starting out in a relationship.

In the same way, although personality, values, intelligence, independent ideas in their partner etc are all that matters long term to a lot of guys, not many walk down the street thinking "wow, what an amazing personality she has" about some stranger. It is most often "great ass" or whatever sexual cue the guy majors on.

[Asker]

I meant for people who use the argument of actions based ohb programming, humasn nature instinct gender roles &predispositions propensity towards etc./.. I was specifically traking it out of individual views because I am addressing stereottypicxal perspectives that I'm sick of hearing about. I don't agree with anything I wrote- I just hjear peopole say it all the time without knowing the poerson, & it occured to me that its very one suided, guys do stuff just because & women suposedly need xyz&E

[MandMandM]

I hadn't picked up that you didn't agree with any of the positions you put forward in your question. Sorry if my conditional agreement on most points with your true position wasted your time. It wasn't a waste of mine (sorting out my thoughts on something while killing time ripping CDs - thanks for the work out)!

[Asker]

no its fine I like sorting out thoughts too.. just didn't want you thinking I necessarily agreed with any of it- thank you for answering :)

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

I don't fantasise about impregnating a girl yet because of the financial and educational burdens that would hit someone at my age.

[Asker]

Sorry, thought I specifically said instinct not reason. I'm talking about arguments towards predisposition towards certain desires based ion gender not outlook or current life situation.. primal stuff. If guys are programed to want sex its for a reason, if woman are programed to nurture its to be nurture its for children guys have sex to make children. people say women think of marriage from a young age,thats why they date- so why don't they talk about guys thinking of getting a girl pregnant..

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

i am self aware, therefore reasoning overwhelms basic instinct in any case it is applied to. Sure guys are indeed programed to "spread their seed", although in todays society hasn't safe sex replaced that in a way?

[Asker]

"In todays society hasn't safe sex replaced that in a way?" EXACTLY, that was kind f my point. guys say they have to have sex because its primal they want to spread there seed, but they aren't spreading any seed, just like women who are not pregnant do not ned a mate to help take care of the kid that doesn't exist, The primal argument is getting a bit old.The imbalance within it is that it is generally accepted guys f*** without having kids, while its generally assumed women ALWAYS want boyfriend etc

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

ive never used the excuse that we're programmed to spread our seed as a gender, I don't hide the reality that we just like sticking our cocks in places.

[Asker]

lol thank you :)

[BoyWithGoodAnswers]

I'm a guy and I've been fantasizing about impregnating girls A LOT lately! ha ha - I mean, in reality, it would be a total disaster if I were to do that at this time in my life, but for whatever reason, I get really hard and horny when I fantasize about putting my sperm inside of a girl and knowing that it was MY sperm that caused her to be pregnant and now has to carry MY child. =]

[Asker]

Thank you for answering the Q :)

[IAmAnon123]

It wouldn't be logical to program a guy to want a child. It only makes sense to program them to enjoy the act of sex so they'll do it as much as they can and with as many women as they can. That's what keeps the species moving.

[Asker]

I didn't say toWANT A CHILD, I said to get a girl pregnant&my question was not about logic,. logically not everyone wants be in a relationship but because women are suposedly nurturing, they fantasize about childremn,. Men would therefore be horny& fantasize about masking them.. umm fukking with a condom doesn't get anyone pregnant- you are trying to rationalize why men do something that is instinctual & irrational As they use protection. Unless they impregnate which you say they don't want,..

[JimS82]

I know I'm not the only one when I say, "We fantasize about it, but to act on it isn't always the responsible thing to do.

[Asker]

you fantasize about impregnating a woman,. or about fuking her/?

[JimS82]

impregnating. Why not? All that would mean is that your not afraid to take on that responsibility. BUT, at the same time, it can't be with just anyone...

[JimS82]

oops, you wanted a primal type answer. Yes, I fantasize about it. I think it's hot to plant my seed and see that becomes of it. In a way, it also allows you to "mark" that person as your own. I hope this is a more appropriate answer for what you are looking for. Sorry for the confusion.

[Asker]

yea exactly- thanks :)