He slapped my face during sex?! What the...!

[Anonymous]

Recently got with a mutual friend on New Years. Out of nowhere we are having sex and he slapped me! I was so frightened at first and I admit we had to much to drink... we kept messing around and I eventually forgot about it. I told him I NEVER had a guy do such a thing. He told me slap him back, so I did. I actually liked slapping him becuase he got me so mad. This is all so very odd. Needless to say, I am not EVER going to get with him again. But wouldn't most people ASK if you like that sort of thing before doing it? I'm pretty inexperienced sexually... but this doesn't seem normal.

[shay135]

that seems really odd. he was probably just kidn of in the heat of the moment and he probably enjoys that kind of stuff so he just did it not thinking. not his fault, but I suggest not going back with him. doesn't seem to be within your best interrest. oh and why ask this question anonymously? what's the point in it? I never ask anonymous questions...

[Asker]

I am anonymous because I don't want you knocking on my door after reading my questions. I bet your a face slapper. ha Nooooooooo! JK

[shay135]

haha kk. ;) lol

[Anonymous]

Go look up BDSM. A little slap (and a whole lot more) is normal for a lot of people. Your friend just has a nice little kinky side. You should get with him again maybe he could teach you a few things.

[Asker]

Well yeah, I figured he was into S & M. That's nice and dandy but even people into S & M give forewarning about trying something new don't they? Or does that defeat the purpose? Idk, anyway I might be down with that if it was discussed beforehand and with someone that I could FULLY trust. Maybe just to experiment but he crossed the line. Especially since it was only our first time together.

[selfishstars]

It's not abnormal to enjoy rough play, such as faceslapping, but you're right, it is not normal to do these sorts of things without talking to your partner beforehand and getting their consent.

[Asker]

I mean I can dig it a little. Maybe me slapping HIM in the moment...not the other way around. Just feels to degrading. I mean I'm cool with a little booty slap, hair tug you know but damn I am not into getting my ass beat. Totally turned me off, except the me slapping him part. That was kinda fun because he really pissed me off. And on top of that he did it when we weren't in the heat of the moment.

[selfishstars]

But that's the thing---everyone has different limits. No one should assume it's okay to do something to someone without their consent, and ESPECIALLY if its something "out of the ordinary". It might take away from the heat of the moment (if you had been in the heat of the moment) or whatever, but it's necessary.

[moloz]

Haha, I am laughing by myself picturing that experience. Sorrrryyyyyyyy!

You both were drunk, he definitely had more. Yeah I agree usually you talk about such things. My wild guess, it was his fetish and being drunk forgot his manners.

[Asker]

I guess he is into that S & M type stuff. But geez, give a sista some warning. I kinda think he took advantage because I am not really experienced so I'm submissive in bed. Yesh, that was a shocker. Way to start the New Year with a bang aye?

[cutekid]

Slapping is not part of the deal..

[ItalianBro]

Its not normal. Why would you want to smack a girl in the face...

[Asker]

...multiple times at that!

[l-hedoniste]

"wouldn't most people ASK if you like that sort of thing before doing it?"

Bingo. That was WAY out of line. You were right to dump him. Better still would have been to stop the show immediately.

[glowboy]

he should have ask you first if you were into that. he sounds like a jerk to me.

[Anonymous]

He should have asked you what he was going to do before doing anything out of the ordinary