Should I break up with my girlfriend over my craving for sex? Is it worth it guys?

[Anonymous]

I've only been in one relationship and it's the person I lost my virginity to and have been dating since high school. We promised to marry each other two years ago but lately I have been feeling urges. When I'm out with my friends at clubs or bars women will flirt with me. These women have all different styles and looks and I can't help but wonder what it would feel like to have sex with somebody else. I feel like a very sexual person and I'm missing out on expressing my sexuality somehow and experiencing other people's sexuality. My girlfriend is my best friend, she is attractive, and she is everything to me, but I'm having these feelings like I don't know if I want to die only having sex with one person in my life. Is sex that much different with different women? Is it worth it to break up with a girlfriend for sex with multiple women?

[IndigoPassion]

It is so hard to find someone that you truly love and care about. if she feels even slightly the same with her feelings for you, and you decide to leave her for sex, it will break her heart...

It isn't worth it. Honestly, sex will probably be less fun with someone else, because you won't love that person. Sex with your girlfriend and sex with someone you barely know? hmm, I just think it would be a bad idea. Love is rare..and she sounds perfect for you. Don't break her heart.

Oh! And another thing.. maybe you could ask your girlfriend to role play with you. Or try something new an exciting with her. Maybe some blind fold action or a new position. Don't give up on her for something that you might not even find very enjoyable. Just love her.

[eithyy]

I wouldn't say PUSH for an open relationship necessarily, but try to present the idea to her. If she refuses to to go that route, try taking a break. Make it absolutely clear that you WILL be back together afterward, but you can both do what you want during the break. Experiment a little and don't worry about it. If she refuses that as well...I would say break up, but leave the possibility of getting back together in the future open.

[Anonymous]

Have you told her this? Two years can deffinitely change someone's mind.

[Asker]

No I haven't told her other women are flirting with me and I'm having these thoughts. I'm afraid to in a way but if it ever came down to where I was about to cheat I would be honest and break up with her.

[Opinion Owner]

Tell her you'd like to consider having sex before marriage and see what she says. Don't insist on it, but ask her about it. Maybe she's dealing with the same stuff. don't mention other women flirting- that'll just p*ss her off.

[alexsc]

You should know though that dry spells are very common for single guys, like maybe you have only three one night stands in a YEAR. But this may not apply to you.

That said, we can only speak for ourselves. I have friends who turn down girls who wants to be exclusive because they like to f*** around too much, and they are successful with women.

Then I have friends who stick to their love like glue and fear having to become single again, because they don't enjoy single life (these guys don't get laid much unless in a relationship).

[alexsc]

And if I were you I would talk about maybe bring a third girl to the bed or go for a open relationship (but then you must be able to live with the fact that your girl is doing very dirty things with other men). And if she didn't want that, I would break up.

[ladsin]

if you werent getting any sex I might say break up, but if you already got a girl that you care about, and she sexes you no question

[jarhead]

You said she is your best friend, attractive, and everything to you. If this is all true, HELL NO it's not worth it. You have it all, it doesn't get any better. End of story.

[jarhead]

FYI, bringing up that you want an open relationship will hurt her. She will feel like she is worthless and not meeting your sexual needs. It sounds like you have a good thing going, don't screw it up for some club/bar skank.

[Jeff11250]

Ya I completely agree with you jarhead.

[Anonymous]

I was in your situation once. I broke up with him. I'm glad I did. But your story might be different.

[Asker]

Is part of the reason you're glad because the sex was better (either straight up better sex or just better 'cause it's with a new person)? I don't know if I could find a better person but I just want to know if the sex is really worth it. I know it sounds so bad and I feel bad but for some reason I've really just been craving sex with different people and wonder if I'm really missing anything or if it's just hype.

[Opinion Owner]

I was craving it too. And to be honest it deteriorated my relationship and I lost the feelings I had for him. If you truly love her, don't do it just like that. The sex is interesting and different and sometimes better but love and sex make sparks together. It doesn't sound bad. I was having nightmares about only having sex with one person for the rest of my life. It's by experimenting that you find what truly suits you.

[Asker]

I'm having nightmares about only having sex with one person plus nightmares of what it will do to my girlfriend if I tell her this. Thanks for answering.

[Anonymous]

Just cheat - it's easier

[Asker]

No. She has been my best friend for years so I couldn't do that without feeling major guilt. I know our friendship would never recover if I broke up with her but I would rather that than cheat on her.

[alexsc]

That's what low self-esteem people do. I would rather be upfront with it so I could keep walking with my head high and not feel slike a peace of sh*t.

[Opinion Owner]

If she means that much to you, don't end it to get some strange. It's all the same in the end

[peace-love-couture]

That's not bad advice*sarcasm*