Guys obsessed with sex... or girls?

So why is it that girls always say guys are obsessed with sex, then you ask around and is the girls who've had truck loads of different sexual partners (including one night stands) and the guys... well, we wank, apart possibly from a few that must be getting all the action? It looks like girls are 'not obsessed' with sex just because they get their share pretty much whenever they want, and then accuse the hungry to be obsessed with it. Girls say sex is not that important yet sleep around like rabbits.Double standards, innit? No wonder I've got the angel/whore complex, where did you think I got it from if not from you? Note: this dilemma is one of the reason I've got so much rage and disgust for girls, but I don't know how much of it can be perceived now that I had to tune down the original question because it was removed. Of course, I also heavily envy girls for that, I mean, they say they crave so much for love, they don't realize guys like me don't even get to have physical touch or a bit of intimacy, and that's quite common among males, and I'm reasonably good looking, educated, clean, good family, fun etc all that stuff, but I wanked myself to death, not for my choice. And my fault? guys are not allowed to have insecurities and shyness. So much for womens' rant and preaching which goes on and on about guys being emotionally dumb. If you're emotionally dumb, at least you get laid. The emotionally aware, well I'm embarrassed of myself, but I'm the socially retarded sissy who wanks. Girls,don't come and tell me 'one day you will find it' because it's bullsh*t. I don't want to find love one day, I want to get laid now. What are your views?
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I mean, when I hear girls (and I hear that) it's two months I am not having sex I'm really going crazy I need to have it. Two months? That's for sissies, try a few years then you tell me how it feels
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so the question being, are guys obsessed with sex, or would girls be obsessed just as much if they didn't get any? I've seen girls starved for sex, and they act just as desperate as guys and in need for just a f***
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  • Have you ever thought about prostitution, or going to a bar & finding the easiest woman there? There are plenty of women who give it up easily, & if you can't find them, there is always prostitution... I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, I know it can't be easy having a penis which demands attention all the time, but remember, women are expected to "not have sex." We are told we are whores, sluts, & terrible people if we have casual sex.

    Here's a tip, try to fulfill a woman's need for love, & then she'll fulfill your need for sex. You will not only get sex, but find a partner to share your life with. Then you can have sex whenever you want. Why don't you ask your friends to set you up on a blind date, go on an online dating site, or try a club, etc. There are ways of taking care of yourself, just remember if you want sex from women, you must realize women want love as you said above. So give them the love, & they'll give you the sex. You can't really look down on women for wanting sex to be special, but if you don't want special sex, there are plenty of easy women who will give it up to you no problem. You just have to be willing to get shot down because trying to find someone to have sex with is not easy for anyone, unless you are a hot girl, which most women aren't.

    Most importantly, don't make your expectations too high. Many men make the mistake of only going for hot girls. Only 2% of women are consider beautiful "in the world's/media's eyes." So don't just go for 8,9, & 10s. That is what ever other guy is doing, so you will have to compete with them! Instead try 7, 6, 5s, & if your comfortable with it even lower. There are a lot of wome who want a partner, but are not up to men's physical standards (myself included). If you really want sex, try going after them.

    • been a few times with prostitues, I don't regret it,i'm actually glad I've tried it, and I'm not a goody-goody, I actually may do it again, but not now, I want to first know girls want to stay with me not because I pay them, but because there's genuinely something more than money in me. But I don't know, maybe in 10 years time I won't have found that again, so I'd be 'f*** with myself and let's satisfy the d*** you know?'

    • 'found that again'='found that anyway'

    • Good luck, I know it's hard to not have sex, but if you try hard, you will find someone. Remember, don't make your standards too high...

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  • Geez guy, you need to open your horizons more! I know I'm a rare bird for having less guys than fingers (yes, only my hands, so far away from toes it's not even funny!) But come on, where are you that these girls are having TRUCK loads?!?

    You need to get out of the area, seriously... that's just weird!

    I was celibate, and by that I mean no wanking either, for 16 years and guys thought I was nuts...they can't last 16 minutes, let alone years! So for my area here, it's guys who are constantly on the hound...

    I heard in some hick towns that girls get bored and they go addict but I wouldn't know... girls here are too busy getting careers and sh that no one's having that much sex...hence the guys' here in their dilemma...

    I suggest you move here... lol. Then at least you wont' feel so bad for wanting to get laid. Join the club! On the other hand... if girls in your town are so effing easy, why AREN'T you getting laid?! Makes no sense!

    It is true though... there is a funky double standard... we can get sex at a drop of a hat if we want it. Guys? Not so easy. But do you REALLY want a girl who's had a truck load up in there? Don't you care about disease or hell, decency? Maybe not...

    I say you stop being angry for what you don't have and start working on being a little more social... The rare birds are out there. But you have to make the effort in finding them too...they aren't coming to your door.

  • guys think way more about sex than girls do. most guys, if they could, would be getting laid left and right. women get approached more often for sex, so they seem to have more opportunities. however, not many women actually take these opportunities. it is a select few that take what they can get.



    think of it like this: majority of people in the world don't seem to have very much self-esteem. when a guy doesn't have great self-esteem he doesn't go around trying to pick up girls because he doesn't have the confidence, even though he wants to. when a girl doesn't have very much self-esteem, she sleeps around trying to get the affection and attention she desires.

    now I am not saying that women don't enjoy sex, because they do. but when they have multiple partners, it is because they NEED to be wanted by someone. it's not because they are thinking about sex just as much as men are. when men have multiple partners, its because they just want lots and lots of sex, and had the confidence to get it.

    and honestly, I have lots of both girl and guy friends, and the guys have had wayyy more one night stands than the girls. I know plenty of virgin girls, and I myself am one. so yeah, there are plenty of slutty girls, but there are also lots of guys who are just as premiscuous.

    • U know there was this 30yogirl a few months ago,i really liked her,she liked me too,but we only made out once..she had a boyfriend,would flirt with anyone,had a lover etc...i don't know if she's numbing the pain,she grew up without her father,she's very insecure,she drinks way too much..I liked her,i can't stay and aLTR,but would also be afraid with her...what you saying reflects what I think may be going on for her... OK thanks

    • *I can't stay in a LTR, but anyway would be afraid with her..

    • Yeah she sounds like she has some serious emotional issues she is trying to fix by getting attention from men! And you brought up a good point. Most women who act in such a way do in fact have "daddy issues." All the girls I know who have good relationships with their fathers, don't seem to be half as promiscuous as the girls that have bad relationships with them/don't know them.

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  • absolutely I agree, no women will ever admit to what you say. women try to remain the pure innocent ones who do no wrong. its like you have read my thoughts. honestly after a while of not having sex you kind of forget about it.

    women never have to worry about going without sex. because in relationships with guys or just friends with benefits they have the upper had. they hold all the power, carry all the keys to the door. they are the ones who say no to sex, and when they do that you aren't getting any.

    seen so many girls in my high school and then once I graduated that are worse than guys I know including me. women will never openly say that they crave sex just as much as chocolate but its true. it would be a damn lie if they said they didn't, and women do it for a few reasons.

    see women get emotional gradification from sex, I guess they feel wanted and whole if they have a guy wanting them even if it is for sex. most guys want sex for the feeling, can't help that it feels so good.

    i feel like women use this against men more often then not. they tease a guy for sex so he won't leave then she sleeps around like mice with multiple other guys while your still hanging on for your piece. sad and it has happened to me before, women just can't help themselves when it comes to sex.

  • Stop being an idiot, the secret to get laid is LYING

    I know you don't want to hear this but you portray yourself as the victim and that leads you NOWHERE

    Instead of being the victim, become the aggressor, go out and lie, pure and simple.

    Girls want to hear they are beautiful. They want to have fun and feel unique. Many don't give a sh*t about you. It's all about them.

    So, if you want to get laid, you do it the smart guy way and you turn things around. You have a brain and a d***, that's all you need to get plenty of pussy. The only thing you can't do is acting like a victim and get all negative, that will get you nowhere.

    Be the man in control, you have to act nice at first but dominant when you ask them out. You have to act like they have to look up to you, not like a puppy begging. Compliment them, feed them the bullsh*t they crave and make it all about them, DO NOT talk about you. You'll be laid in NO TIME. You'll be so surprised to see how easy it is to have sex once you understand that.

    Fuck their brains and keep acting dominant and cool. Once you have them hooked they are like playdoh in your hands. The key thing is to do that a couple of time, then you'll feel so powerful you won't even have to act or pretend, you'll just do it.

    • LOL

    • This guy is right that's actually beautiful advice. don't just laugh it off- instead of fuming and acting pissed about your situation, go out to bars and practice. you won't just pick up girls night 1 2 or 3... but you'll get better. picking up females = skill set

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  • Guys are just naturally more needing of sex. It is in their hormones to desire more sex. Women it isn't always so. Sure some women get horny, we all have our moments. But yes women are not as desiring of sex always. It takes more for a women to get turned on and to want sex.

    Perhaps you need to try not to be so frustrated. Toning down the rage and disgust is probably what you need to do. I'm not trying to make you more frustrated, but if you are really upset, a girl can sense it. And the last thing a woman wants is an angry, aggressive guy. It's kinda scary.

    Try going out and having a good time. Try to meet some girls, get some friends to help you. I hope you can find what you want.

    • hi, I agree with you, thanks for the answer

  • It takes two to tango. If some girls are having "truck loads of sex", obviously some guys are too. But the bottom line is that everyone feels differently about sex regardless of gender. Some girls have a lot of sex, some don't- same with guys. You can't generalize with these types of things.

    If you're a guy who wants to have sex and isn't, for whatever reason, it might seem to you like everyone is having lots of sex besides you. Or you might be focused on the people who have a lot of sex because you feel like they're taking it for granted. Or whatever. But please understand that that is purely a matter of perspective.

    • I disagree with that, yes surely I'm biased, but my view is the average girl has more sex than the average guy, however, the top guys are making up for the average ones. Maybe things are changing now among teens due to women really being more assertive and open

    • At least you can admit that you're biased. But there are LOTS of girls who don't have a lot of sex, or any. I would say that if girls do have more sex, it would be BECAUSE it's the GUYS who are more centered around it, so it might be slightly easier for girls to find sex partners. But whether or not you're right, having rage and disgust for girls will NOT get you laid. So keep that in mind. If you're interested in getting in on those truck loads, you might want to change your attitude.

    • I can't change attitude from one day to another. what I can do is put myself out and see if it's just me full of sh*t and wrong beliefs or other factors, or both. I don't think it's because it's the guys who are more centrered. Why girls say 'it's three monthes I don't have sex and I'm really about to go mad, I need it?' It's not the guy pressing anyone, she is hot between the legs

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  • Why don't you try to stop hating and envying women so you could get laid? Find one of those women you said you've seen who just want a f*** and get them to sleep with you! My boyfriend says I'm more obssessed with sex than he is, and I agree but he doesn't hate me. or envy me, or feel disgusted by me, so he gets laid all the time! He excepts me for who I am with all my flaws and I love him for everything he is including the stuff that bug me. If you let go of all those negative feelings for women, you'll get laid with just a little effort.

    • way to give good information to the enemy. I'm gonna take advantage of so many of you now >:).

    • LOL

  • I would never consider having sex with a man who is so negative about women and sex, as you are.

    SO UNFUN!

    Change your bad attitude and you may find that more positive opportunities present themselves.

    Karma!

    What you put out in the cosmos will return to you. Keep it real. Keep it positive.

  • I didn't strive for it when I was single. I have hand what the heck. When you are in a relationship yeah because its right there for ya.

  • jeeeezzz why would anyone want to have sex with you...you have "disgust for women" you are stereotyping us.

    • in all fairness, women stereotype men constantly in our society... its all the "bad mans fault" when ANY relationship ends. While he is at fault for his lack of propriety in explaining his position, his position is still fairly valid...

    • og you have a point

    • @ sedstar thank you

  • Like the question asker said try years you bitches !

  • Hate to break it to you, but If you want to 'get laid' so bad then saying that you've got 'so much rage and disgust for girls' isn't the right way to go about it.

    • I know, I guess I won't get any, but that's it, I didn't start with rage, now I have it

  • i tell my guy friends that their sex addicts because it gets them hard...but I don't think all guys are sex addicts just the rapers and s***bags

  • Well put and good point bro.

  • You may not wank yourself to death by choice but I definitely wouldn’t want to sleep with a guy who has a lot of rage and disgust towards girls. That’s probably why your not getting laid, not because girls are obsessed with sex.

    Also I don’t see how men having a problem with physical touch and intimacy is on women. We don’t owe you sex, we don’t owe you touch. We don’t owe you shit.

  • I tend to agree with you that any girl that does claim a guy is sex obsessed yet they themselves have sex with so many or have free casual sex are hypocrites. But, that doesn't mean all girls are like that. Honestly, let's just all admit sex is good and we all want it :\

    • my point is more general,ie even if it's not causal sex, they will more likely than guys have sex within a relationship, so either way they more often than not have it. So even girls who look for relationship,are 'not' obsessed with sex,it's because anyway have had they regular input of it and/or unconsciuosly know for sure that can have it pretty easy... there are exceptions of course among both genders, but the large numbers experience the reality I've described.

  • lol your not the only one who's going through this, but I'm not sure what your saying. R you asking about simply gettign laid? So your not interested in a relationship? And your saying all girls sleep around? I'm not sure what girls your talking about, if you just want sex, what does it matter who you have sex with? That should be pretty simple actually

  • Girls use that card to make themselves feel better about about being little whores. Girls think that sex brings them acceptance, and validates them being beautiful (wanted). It's twisted because they will keep putting out as long as they believe that having sex brings them the acceptance, and confirmation that they are 'good enough.'

  • who cares? the more people getting laid the better.

    • The more people getting laid the higher the risk of getting STD's and spreading it. And the more people that are in love the better.

    • don't be a square man

  • Girls do it for attention, like I see a lot of girls almost bragging about it and it's like well did you do it because you anted too or because you wanted a story to tell?

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  • Your post is right on!

  • both can be obssesed.

  • It's something in the water that the girls are drinking... maybe fluoride? I think that woman want sex more then men do these days...

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