I cheated & don't feel bad? :/

[Anonymous]

Basically, me and my boyfriend have been togeva for like I don't know 5 months? and idk, we're having a big of weird patch, it seems like we have nothing to talk about anymore.. all we do is f***. basically I went to see my ex and things got kinda heated and it ended up with him ontop of me with us making out. it didn't go any further because I stopped it, he has a girlfriend too. I don't feel bad though, I missed the way my ex's hands felt on me.. I mean, he cheated and we'll never date again, but idk.. I don't know if I love my new boyfriend yet, but I still care for my ex. I don't think I should tell my boyfriend because he'd get upset. is it normal that I don't feel guilty?

[Dragonblood21]

The Anon below me is what I feel as well. If you don't feel bad about it, you don't care about your boyfriend. You should just tell him and break it up with him. Not telling your boyfriend because you don't want him to be upset is a terrible reason, no offense. Faithfulness, and trust are huge things in a relationship. Faithful meaning the other person wouldn't cheat, which you cheated. Trust meaning you can believe what the other person is saying with all your heart, which if you tell him you never cheated, or never bring it up, you are not fulfilling that either. You are basically tossing the two most important things in almost all relationships out the window, and then wondering if you should continue with the relationship.

I disagree 1,000% what Cart said. It's not that if he didn't know, he would be effected, because it's true he wouldn't, sadly. But if the person wants a real relationship they are trusting YOU to let them know anything they would want to know. You are having them live their love life a lie. Which if you really love someone, you wouldn't even consider doing. This is how I view it anyway.

[Asker]

but if he doesn't know I cheated then why can't we just keep going?

[Steven08]

^^^^ and there it is ladies and gentlemen the reason why women are cheating whores and STILL want to deny as if its nothing wrong...

[Asker]

I'm not a whore, but it's not that bad what I did

[dudeman]

its actually a horrible thing you did and you are a bad person right now because of it. you completely are abusing your boyfriend and its not fair you should tell him you cheated so he can break up with you.

[Asker]

I am not a bad persn, it's not a horrible thing to do and I don't HAVE to tell him so I don't know if I will.

[Dragonblood21]

Because you broke his trust, and you weren't faithful. If he knew what you did and how you really were, there is a chance he wouldn't even be with you. But instead he can think he has this wonderful girl who is committed to him, and you are not. He would love you for something you are not. Your relationship would be a lie, fake, and has a foundation built around deception. That's the relationship you want to give your boyfriend? If that's the case you are robbing you both of actual love.

[Cartiphilus]

Yeah, it's okay don't worry about it and what the the boyfriend doesn't know isn't going to hurt him.

[SophieaWoods11]

i think if your ex and you still have feelings you should dump your current guy and give it a shot with your ex. if you missing the feel of your ex's hands you you then you might still miss him or just miss the sex. If your current guy and you are going threw a weird patch where neither of the two of you talk and just f*** then that's the reason your thinking about your ex is cause your craving the communicating part in a relationship. My ex and I went threw a patch like that and we took a break it's been a wile and we still are friends. so I would say it is normal to feel no guilt, if your boyfriend and you are distant like that.

[Cartiphilus]

It was emotional cheating not physical.

[Asker]

if I kissed him then it was phyical

[dudeman]

you should tell your boyfriend so you can go your separate ways I suggest you be single for a year or two and try being a person for a while

[Asker]

Why do we have to separate? why do I have to be alone for two years?

[dudeman]

your boyfriend is the one that needs to determine if you separate or not. you mad your choice let him make his. you are a cheater and a bad person right now. you need to do some soul searching and find out what you want out of life and relationships.

[Asker]

i am not a bad person, I just needed more than what he gives.. I still like him, he's just not enough

[dudeman]

then leave him. I'm sure hitler didn't think he was a bad person either. if he's not enough then leave him and don't tell him you cheated that would make him hate women. do you really want this guy that's just not enough for you to hate women because of you. if you really cared about him you would leave him.

[Asker]

i care about him so I will stay with him.

[dudeman]

you care about yourself so you will stay with him get it right

[Asker]

no. I care bout him. get it right.

[dudeman]

if you cared about him you you wouldn't have cheated and if you had a lapse of judgment you would tell him and let him live his life, however you care more about your life and yourself so you won't tell him.

[Asker]

you don't know me, don't tell me what I care about (::::

[dudeman]

lol I don't know you but I also didn't read the whole thing I thought you two had sex. I don't think he will break up with you but I still think you should tell him. if you don't I suggest cutting all contact with your ex

[Asker]

i have tried but he is part of my "friendship group" and so I see him at college a lot :/ plus he's dating my best friend so they are togther a lot

[dudeman]

wow . so that means you have to cut ties with your best friend as well. you don't know how these things work do you

[Anonymous]

dirty dirty dirty dirty dirty girl you need to be taught a lesson.

[Asker]

whyy? I didn't do anything wrong really...

[Opinion Owner]

seriously your still his girlfriend if you want another guy just break up with him.

[Asker]

i don't want my ex.

[Anonymous]

If you don't feel bad about it you don't care about your new boyfriend. If I were you I would just tell the new boyfriend you're not feeling any sparks and dump him to save you both trouble down the road.

[Asker]

I do care! idk, I just needed some feeling with the sex..

[Leeni]

I agree with this dude, you obviously don't care, because no matter what 'rough patch' you were going through if you loved him, you couldn't be with someone else without feeling sick to your stomach with guilt after, infact you probably wouldn't have let yourself get in the position of cheating in the first place.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for reinforcing my total distrust of women.

[Asker]

Awh, You're welcome. (:

[Opinion Owner]

Women wonder why the number of men who treat them well and go the extra mile to romance them is dwindling, this is it. Far too many women are not worthy of the kindness or the effort.

[Asker]

I am not worth effort nor kindness, but it's not because I kissed another man.

[dudeman]

dude there are good women out there but I agree some are just bad people and I'm sorry you got hurt, don't let that get you down though because good women are not going to want to be with a person that hates women.

[Asker]

i am a good woman, but no one is perfect!