1. Choose an optimal time for YOU to do it. Sometime after you've gone to the bathroom is probably optimal, so there isn't much waiting to come out. Some people swear by using an enema beforehand. I've never used one personally, and the most "mess" I've ever encountered is just a small smear on the tip of the condom.
2. Spend some time doing anal play to warm up before he tries to enter you with his penis. Have him finger you (using lube). This will help you relax a bit, and for things to relax a bit down there as well.
3. Choose a position that works for you. Personally, I've never been able to enjoy anal from a doggiestyle position. Lying flat on my stomach works best for me because I feel more aligned and I find that doggiestyle makes things tighter. Also, lying down allows me to relax more fully because I'm comfortable and I don't have to worry about holding myself in that position.
4. Use lube. I find that this is the trickiest part for me---you want to use enough so that its not painful, but if I use too much and it feels like there isn't much friction at all, then it starts to feel like I'm taking a poop, which isn't a pleasurable feeling to me.
5. Have an old towel or something nearby "just in case".
6. RELAX. This is so important, otherwise it WILL be painful. When he starts to enter you, you'll probably feel like you want to tighten up, but just take some deep breaths and try to keep your sphincter relaxed.
7. Stay in communication with your partner about how you're feeling and what you want him to do. Make sure he's someone you trust to listen to you. If you need him to slow down, stop for a minute, or stop completely, tell him.
8. As others have already said, don't go from anal to vaginal sex without changing the condom first.
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So I know a lot of people don't like it, well at least I'm assuming from the comments. But the first time me and my boy friend ever had sex we tried anal. I was extremely reluctant at first because all I was thinking is ew gross! ya know?
But I was open about it and decided to try it, personally I loved it. Its a little different at first and what ever you do don't clench your butt, it'll hurt because your already tight. I'll reluctantly admitt my boyfriend isn't exactly huge, he's about 7 er 8 inches so he could go all the way in, and after a while it kinda started to hurt.
I didn't like being on top and having anal it was harder than vaginal and didn't feel as good, so try and stick to doggy style. It will take some getting used to but I don't like condoms so what me and my boy friend do is have vaginal until he starts feeling the urge to come then we'll move to anal so he can come in me, because I'm also not on the pill yet. I've been meaning to get on it. lol
You should probably get tested for std's if you never use condoms. Anal is the riskiest activity for std's. link
7 8 is a bit on the long side FYI. You got a deep butt lol.
That doesn't seem very relevant in this case. The chance of transmission is larger with anal sex, but if she's having regular unprotected (normal) sex with her boyfriend they're pretty much guaranteed to exchange any diseases present eventually even if they don't do anal. Had the answerer been talking about regular one-night-stands your comment would have been more appropriate.
Make him go very slow and gentle. lots of lube and start with foreplay, fingers etc. I tried it with my boyfriend too, he had done it before and wanted to do it with me. I agreed to try. to be honest, I found it painful and uncomfortable and wasn't able to come from it. afterward we spoke and we aren't going to be doing it again because I just don't find it pleasurable. many girls say they love it though so each to their own, just don't rush and do it over a few days if you need to. let yourself be in control and tell him what's OK and what's not and if it hurts etc.
Try his tongue in your ass..
You could begin by buying a butt plug, and "wear it" in your a$$ for awhile before you begin to help to begin stretching your ass. (Not necessary, but an option.)
NOTE: For anal, you can never have enough lube. Lube, lube, and even more lube. (Don't use lubes that dull pain. Pain tells you something isn't right. Stop, adjust , try again. You don't want to hurt yourself. Lubes that kill pain also dulls the pleasurable feelings as well, which means you won't be able to fully enjoy the experience either.)
Your first time, make sure he is gentle and goes slow. Start with some a$$ play, then one finger, slowly adding fingers as your a$$ stretches. Make sure he gets lube inside your a$$ too. When he has 3-4 fingers in, you are ready for his d*** . He can gently insert it from several positions, but if you want to have control, it can be best achieved in the cowgirl or reverse cowgirl positions. Go as slow as you need to. As you become more comfortable, you can go deeper, and/or increase your speed. Remember to relax -- let yourself go, be in the moment, and enjoy the experience.
Have an outstandingly pleasurable anal experience. =)
Tucker Max would disagree with you that you can't have too much lube..
First off, I'd like to commend your interest in pleasing your boyfriend, and experimenting new things. First thing you should know is like loosing your virginity, it can be painful. Especially because the muscles down there are telling your body the opposite thing should be happening. Tip 1, know if he's going to be gentle. Tip 2, start small, use your own finger, or toys from a shop to know your threshold, and also prepare for a larger size. Tip 3, (and you already have this) go into it with an open mind, a closed mind can create a bad experience. Tip 4, be relaxed, it will be difficult, but being tense will make things worse. Tip 5, use lube, prefferably "anal ease" or it's equivilant. As long as it has a numbing agent. It won't make you not feel it, just will help. And the last and maybe the most important tip, that is rarely talked about, DO NOT go directly from anal to vaginal. It can cause a yeast infection from the pathogens. I hope when you decide to do this, that this information provides useful. Best of luck in discovering your sexual delvelopment. :)
-Tifael
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warm it up first with a finger and some lube and relax. its not hard well I don't know lol I'm a giver. I can't really f*** the ass too ofter cause I'm a decent size. if he's big just bow out. I always end up having to stop or can only put half in or some sh*t. its your mood too.
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-Take a big sh*t
-If you haven't ever had inserted anything into your butt, try putting a finger in your ass or buy a butt plug. Insert the plug regularly, preparing your butt muscles for having a d*** inside it
-Use lube, astroglide works well. Use your finger to lube up inside your ass and also cover his **** with it.
-Use a condom. With my girlfriend we rarely use a condom and have never had problems of sh*t coming out.
Dont
-Dont push too hard into your ass. He will feel your butt being tight, just stop and your muscles will relax and it will then become looser
-Go too fast
While doing anal you might not come through anal on its own (most girls cant). To make you come you (or your boy) can rub your clit, finger your pussy, or what my girlfriend loves is to use a dildo in her p**** while we do anal. This has given her amazing orgasms, however they are very intense.
First take a big poo, then a warm bath. Use lots of lube and go slow. My wife and I enjoy anal play and can bury 7 or 8 inches easy, definitely feels better when you are a guy getting anal as we have more nerve endings. I take her with a strap on 3 times a weeks. Enjoy!
eww why would you want to even try it? the anus was not created for shoving things up there. It's to pass waste. He'll probably like it better then your vagina because it will be tighter, so afterward he will always prefur it to regular sex. but he'll get poo on his penis and I don't get how it can feel nice for you :S
Some women prefer it over vaginal sex too. I'd be a shame if QA never got to try what could potentially be her favorite form of intercourse because of your fear mongering
I don't see how it can be pleasurable for the woman :S how would you like it if someone shoved a carrot up your ass? sound fun?
I'm not asking you to see how it is pleasurable, I'm telling you that it can be, for some women, even if YOU don't enjoy it. Personally I find it hard to imagine why someone would enjoy pain but that doesn't stop masochists either. Just because something may be hard to imagine to you or me doesn't make it impossible, or even unlikely. As for your carrot comment, there are plenty of men out there who enjoy, to various degrees, getting anally penetrated (and they're not all gay).
One "Don't": Don't do it. There's a perfectly lovely vagina just an inch or two away.
Awwww but we want to try something different. I guess you've never tried it?
yess he is absolutely right... don't do it! :S
Some girls like it, most don't. Thus don't ever force her. If she likes it, use condoms and don't pass from anus to vagina. Expect a dirty mess.
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