How important are blowjobs to a guy? How can I please a guy sexually?

[Anonymous]

Well, I haven't really had much sexual experience, but when the situation arises I'd like to think I can please a guy. To be honest however, I don't really ever know what to do... my ex-boyfriend used to practically beg me for a blowjob, he said that his only fantasy was me giving him a blow job... but I don't think I could.. I just can't get myself to put it in my mouth. Now, I'm dating a new guy, and he's 27 and I'm 19, I don't know if when we'll get to the point of having sex or if we will.. but if it does... he clearly has way more experience than me... and I won't know how to please him. Is a blowjob essential? Any other advice?

[cindys]

Guy love sexual girls. So, relax and enjoy. Do you want to give him best bj ever? First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

[msblonde5]

So I am here with a guy right now and he says that a good blowjob is better than sex, but it is hard to come across a girl who can give a really good blowjob to make him jiz. On the important factor on a scale of 1 to 10 a blowjob importance is at a level 10 for him, and maybe for most guys, it just depends on there needs and wants.

[CatholicVirginia]

I'm horrified at the comments that say that you need to get over your boundaries and that blowjobs are essential to relationships. Don't do ANYTHING until you're comfortable with it. A man should respect YOU and your timing.

[DJ_Durrty_unk]

we'll showing you're truly worthy as a girlfriend means you would blow him off simple as that. So you're gonna have to learn and push your boundaries and comfort zone. Use a flavored condom first and later work up from there.

As for pleasuring a guy, there are so many internet resources. I could try and help but you're a bit general with what you want in terms of sex advice. But generally one good thing would be to show that you like what he's doing and start learning to truly enjoy it. So learn to get yourself off when he's having sex with you.

That's what guys want the most, to know they're getting you off and you're satisfied because it makes us feel better knowing we're good at sex. But be honest about it, don't fake orgasms and such and give him false hope, that can just as easily backfire on you.

Hope that helps

-ACE

[CatholicVirginia]

I am really confused that, in order to be a worthy girlfriend, you have to give the guy a blowjob. Even if she's not comfortable with it?

[DJ_Durrty_unk]

Well if you're uncomfortable that's semi understandable. But when it comes to relationships its about doing these things because you love someone, say for example I may hate a girls parents if their scientologists or messed up in other ways and I wouldn't ever be comfortable meeting them and talking with them but I still would if I loved the girl. And it's the exact same thing. I'm not talking Anal here, I'm just talking a simple blowjob with a condom, something that happens alot

[Jack_88]

Haha this doesn't sound like a problem to me. Most guys love virgins/unexperienced girls because we can teach them and be in more control. If you are just open minded and open to trying new things I can guarantee he will love it. Maybe you should ask him to go down on you first and then you can give him a blowjob...when the time comes of course.

[anon1111]

Oral sex is a standard part of most couples' sexual routines. Why are you so uncomfortable with it?

Also, why are you dating a 27-year-old when you're 19? That's a little weird. And don't give me that "age is just a number" crap.

[Asker]

I don't know... I just can't do it... I guess I'm just picky with what I put in my mouth. And I'm dating him because he makes me feel amazing. He is sexy, smart, funny, we understand each other perfectly,and we always have a great time together. He says I'm the most beautiful woman he has ever seen in his life, and treats me like a queen. I love him so much. He's even learning spanish so he can speak to my dad more easily. I just fell in love with him, and I couldn't help it.

[uwbadgerguy]

its essential for any working relationship. so suck that guy who is old enough to be your father dry!